We women could be soooo stupid, and as a woman I can say so

Trinidad And Tobago
March 6, 2012 5:23pm CST
At the age of 34 I'm still learning that men can be grave disappoints. Don't get me wrong, I know women can be disappointing too, but we women tend to give ourselves, our hearts so willingly and earnestly just to make a man happy. You would think they'd extend the same courtesy to us, but ahhh there's that ever present fact that "MEN ARE FROM MARS AND WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS". Time and time again, disappointment befriends me because I allow myself to think that when a man says he's going to do something he means it, HA and an even bigger HAAAAA. Men say things that they know we WANT to hear, so that they can get what they want, after that to hell with you. But I once heard someone say "if you don't have any expectations of somebody, you won't be disappointed" so true so true.I need to apply that in my daily walk.....for both sexes. So what do I do??? Simple, I lick my wounds,pick myself off the ground, dust myself off, view this as a learning experience,get back on the saddle and keep on riding. Women are brilliant creatures, but when it comes to the "affair of the heart" we don't always display the level of intelligence that we should. I close with these parting words, Ladies always remember "Once we give up our hearts, we will give up our parts" so be very careful who you're giving your heart to. It's a very fragile part of us, that can be easily broken resulting in immense pain and may even be irrepairable. So "PROCEED WITH CAUTION" :)
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@singlemommy (2955)
• United States
7 Mar 12
You discussion reminded me of my ex. What is worse about him is that I eventually figured him out and he has been with many women since me and the poor girls have no idea. I'm still "friends" with him, if that's what you want to call it. I have to maintain a friendly relationship with him since we share custody of our daughter. He tells me things about why he is with this girl, etc. He tells me his motives and believe me, he always has a motive as to why he is dating someone, especially the one he is dating now. All he does is use women to get what he wants and once he gets it, he is done with her to an extent. He always seems to keep his exes hanging in the whim just incase he needs one of them back and yes, I can admit that I have been one that he has left hanging there and tried to come back to. I've given in more times than I could count but I have finally wised up and realized that he is a waste of my time. I have constantly been looking for love since I was a teenager and each man has seemed to let me down. For the past 6 months I have finally decided that I don't need a man or just any man. If I am going to be with someone, I want to make sure that he is worth my time before I give it to him. Good luck in the future.
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• Trinidad And Tobago
7 Mar 12
Sweetie I do pray that you find that love, and I must say I like your approach about not needing a man or just any man. You do deserve better and thankfully even though you've given in more times than you would've liked to,you finally summoned the strength to walk away, and do better with your life, for your life. Yes, granted you've to maintain a cordial relationship with him (your ex), and that's a given but keep the faith,courage and strength and stay away as relates to other things. After reading your post though, I think I need to take some time apart to do some self reflection, thanks for your thoughts and I pray that you truly find someone deserving of you one day, because you are worth it. :)
@fergus (817)
• Ireland
6 Mar 12
Hi Succes1625, Your makeing me sorry for being a man now HAHAHA. No realy what makes you think us men are all like that?Mybe you just go for the same breed all the time. well the theres lots of women like that as well you just have to pick the right one. All the best and my you pick the right man soon and be happy.
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• Trinidad And Tobago
6 Mar 12
LOLLLL, hi fergus but you have a good point there, sometimes we women do attract the wrong kind of men.that's a very valid point, I actually asked a friend of mine recently if something was wrong with me 'cause I seem to be attracting guys from another planet or something,lollll. But thank you for your best wishes and the smile :)and you are also right about not all men being the same, some of you are nice guys,lollll, but it's quite a task finding y'all. Have a great one :-D
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@chiyosan (30186)
• Philippines
7 Mar 12
I would agree with you! I mean you hit right on the spot for women's experiences. Quite a lot of things you said are true for the man in my life too and he has yet to prove himself to me now that i have actually given up trying to please and understand his shortcomings and by filling up with what i can give. But then there is this men are from mars and women are from venus thing... but remember to redeem yourselves and take note... Men love btches! and by that i mean know your worth and you sure will feel that you are loved more than you can ever know. ;)
• Trinidad And Tobago
7 Mar 12
Ahhh yes chiyosan, I think somewhere along the line I lost sight of my worth, and therefore allowed myself to be treated any old way. Thanks for that reminder that we women need to identify our worth, once we can identify that we won't allow ourselves to be subjected to the whims and fancies of those men (not all, I've to remind myself not all are like that)who can't,won't appreciate our worth.
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Mar 12
success but again all men are not like that at all . I chose wisely and waited until I found the man I wanted.He rarely if ever disappointed me. We respected each other , trusted each other and were best friends. We were a team, we supported each other.
• Trinidad And Tobago
7 Mar 12
Yes Hatley I do stand corrected, not ALL men are like that, but the ones that aren't are either taken or really hard to come across,lol. But I'm glad that you've found someone to love,respect and trust. Seeing an example like yours is some level of encouragement, but as I mentioned before I think I need some me time to do some self reflection. I pray for continued success in your relationship :)
• Philippines
7 Mar 12
women are just fragile, that's why they need to be protected and not to be broken down. I hate it when someone leaves you after all you've done for that person, just sucks really.
• Trinidad And Tobago
7 Mar 12
Hmmmm,true. Protected that's one of the ideal word that describes my hopes for having a succesful relationship to be protected emotionally,financially,physically,mentally.
• United States
7 Mar 12
At the age of 51 I'd like to think that I'm a woman who has learned a few things about men, dating and relationships. success1625...You're describing a vulnerable woman who has a tendency to please and accommodate men. That's okay but it's incredibly important that you take good care of yourself FIRST. 1. All men are not the same and some of them are easier to interact with than others. 2. It's important that we women accommodate ourselves first and make sure that if we GIVE to men we love that we create a win/win scenario. It's okay to say... WHAT'S IN IT FOR ME? 3. We need to be selective about who we give our hearts and our bodies to. It's okay for us to take our time because we're not desperate for love. 4. Love is incredible and it's important that we develop self love so we can give and receive love in very healthy ways.
• Trinidad And Tobago
7 Mar 12
Hi sherrybelle, thanks for your words of advice, sound advice I might add. I especially loved points three and four, but I do have a question for you? Self love. How does one go about developing that, it's one of the hardest thing for a person to do I think. So how would you advise someone to go about that???? Looking forward to your wise words of counsel :)
• United States
12 Mar 12
There are as many ways to develop self love as there are ways to be creative. Be good to yourself. Make it a priority every day to participate in things YOU enjoy. I had a specific strategy for developing self love. I bought an inexpensive cup that had hearts on it. I think it was probably a Valentines day cup. I told myself that every time I drank out of my heart cup I would be increasing my level of self love. I made it a priority to drink out of my cup every day. Love exists metaphysically. It's intangible so you can use energy work to build and increase your self love. What makes you happy? Do it. What do you love? Find ways to give yourself what you love. Some people love taking a nice bubble bath. Spoil yourself and as you choose to be really good to yourself you will connect with other people (including men) who are good to you...as well. I wish you the absolute best!
@lilaclady (28206)
• Australia
7 Mar 12
Oh I agree with you 100%...Sometimes I think real love , of giving of the heart is a woman thing because I think we are controlled from the heart, but I don't think men are that is where we are different men are not controlled from the heart they have an area of their own I think it is one reason a lot of women get on so well with gay men, because they have a little more heart control although they still have their main control base where other men do I think...Sometimes I feel sorry for men because they don't seem to have the real love intensity as women do and that in it self is sad for them I think....
• Trinidad And Tobago
7 Mar 12
Yes my dear I hear you and I do agree with you that it is indeed sad that most men it seems can't love with the same intensity as women,truth be told though maybe it's what makes a relationship. I really don't know.
@urbandekay (18278)
10 Mar 12
Aye well, better to have loved and lost, than never to have lost at all all the best urban