Punishment to your kids.

for me punishment is the answer in diciplining a child...it is much better if you are looking on the good things that a child do..try to seek on those good things and praise him and then eventually those good things that he do will increase and will minimize those thing that he do wrong.....

GOD...this is the worst punishment I have ever heard!! My mom used to scold us when we were doing something wrong...thats all...nothing more than that.My parents had never punished us ... My kid is 5, till now I have never punished him...and I dont think I can ever punish him.. I just cant...

this is so saddd, as a mother, it's so hard to imagine a punishment that harsh. that is really cold. pissing on bed at night is so normal for kids that young. i wonder what that mother was thinking when giving that punishment. for me, i myself don't really like to give punishments although there are times when they really force me. and even then, when i'm really pissed off at them, i'm just shouting and yelling at them and they're scared immediately. i never lay a hand on them although sometimes i do flick on their heads or hands or body. of course, they keep repeating the same mistakes, but i keep telling them as well. i don't give them really scary punishments to prevent them from doing it again. they will slowly learn from their mistakes. it's the same for us adults, we need time to change a behaviour or do something even now. if we need time, the kids need it too. the worst punishment i've ever given to my kids is to put them in a room and just close the door. they'll be crying before i can even close the door. i don't even lock it and it's just the normal bedroom that i put them in. they definitely don't enjoy that although i guess each child is different. i myself haven't really gotten any harsh punishment except maybe sometimes, when my mother gave me a big slap on my back for not listening to her to do the housework when i was a teen hehehe i was practically a good girl actually so didn't have much cause for them to give me punishments unless it was in the housework area which i utterly hate till now.

I was picked for Grand Jury duty once and the subject was child abuse. Case after case of parents or their boyfriends or girlfriends hurting the children so badly. I firmly believe in an eye for an eye here. Whatever they have done to the children should be done to the abusers, except tripled or quadrupled. I punished my children with spanks - NOT BEATINGS - or sending them to their rooms (which doesn't help a lot since it has computer and television). They turned out lovely. These people are worse than crocodiles because they feed on their own!

Hiya shibs, It is true that you can shout at your kids or maybe hit out at them. Actually I have lost my rag with mine too as they are quite exasperating to say the least especially when they were small. Anybody who knew me then could verify that. But no excuse we shout sometimes when we don´t want to because children now are given so much and if you don´t have very much money like I did not have and still don´t they were always complaining that their Friends had this that and the other but their complaints and bad behaviour were continual however I did not give in to their whines but sometimes I did get fed up and shout at them although I am the only one in the end who suffers because they will always find it funny or just ignore you to a point. However shibs some of the Stories in this Country would make your Hair stand on end (horrified) at the amount of Babies dumped in those big Rubbish Cans especially when it is very cold or very hot and they will almost certainly die with no clothes or anything to protect them. Some have been rescued and I never fail to find it so moving what will drive a Mother to do this? It has to be some some extreme pressure that she is being put through otherwise you would not normally dream of this at all. When your Baby is born the first thing you want to hear is its cry so it is so very hard to understand what goes on. I have known about cruelty to some of my Friends when they were going to our School yes. I have suffered right ear damage its permanent and there is nothing I can do to heal it either. I suffered the damage through being hit around the head when I was small by a tyrannical person. That is all I will say I guard no malice against this person now but the damage I have to suffer it and not them. All the rest is too painful too remember right now and I know its there and I am trying to heal it and forgive them but if only it were that easy. Sorry to hear you suffered too shibs or anyone for that matter. My Sister suffered much as well so we came to understand each other better although she lived somewhere else we sort of formed an alliance for a time but then she went on their side and I lost her unity with me forever that was the saddest part for me. My Brothers were the ones who wet the Bed but they were never punished and I have never done that to mine. I might have got up grumpy very tired to change everything but would never ever go to those extremes. There are so many Children even now that suffer extreme cruelty its so hard to believe when we are supposed to be so civilised? xxx

Hi amigo! I have heard much worst than the news you have told us. I don't understand why there are some parents who are so worst in punishing their kids. I know it's not bad to punish our kids especially if it's for their own good, but not to the extent that they will be confined in the hospital or die. I think the worst punishment I gave my kids was when I spanked them 3 times continuously in their buttocks. After doing that,I see to it that they know why I did that to them and that they shouldn't do it again.

Hi Shibham, What a horrible story! I hope that mother is now being punished herself! I was never was one to punish my kids harshly and never ever would have punished them at all for something like peeing the bed. I've never known a kid to do that deliberatly and at ages 1&3,it's pretty common. Actually at one, I don't know any kids that are trained and out of diapers. I always tried to make the punishment fit the crime whenever doling it out. If they got in trouble while out and about with their friends, then they stayed away from friends for a while. If they abused privileges, there were times when the computer, phone etc was taken for a while. Punishment was never mean or physical like what you describe here. Punishment should be to reinforce a message to the kid that certain behavior will not be tolerated.

Hi shibham, I am totally opposed to punishment of any sort. There is never a need for punishment if the situation is handled properly and it always does more harm than good. The punishment that you speak of here of course is extreme and very few parents would go that far. Blessings.

hi shibham I was never beaten or really spanked. my mom would gve us the face, and we would feel so bad as she looked so sad and hurt like she was going to dry. so we were pretty well behaved kids. I used the face a lot when they were really young and just for really dangerous stuff like a hot stove or dashing out in traffic a quick swat on the butt not a spanking and never a beating. that mom must have been sadistic or mentally ill. how horrible to do that to your own children.My worst punishment was not to have my radio for two weeks when I was in my teens.my parents did not believe in physical punishment and we grew up to be good people.the worst though was my dad saying to me "I wish you never had been born" so I had reason to dislike him all my life while he wqas alive, not hate'but just dislike. I never gave my children any bad punishment as I wanted them to learn but not to hate me or fear me.I think the only bad thing I did and I did not intend to was not really listening to my son but he showed me how hurt he was so I learned to take time to do nothing but listen when he had problems.

We're a family who never give a punishment to our kids. This is maybe because we too did not experience any punishment from our parents since birth. They would just tell us what's supposed to be done in case we have done something wrong meaning to say correct our mistakes. Scolding us yes, but they never lift a hand on us when we commit mistakes. The result maybe is our sensitivity just a raise of their voice would make us cry. Same practice we all adopted in raising our children but luckily no one been abusive.

I guess the worst punishments that I got as a child were spankings. I didn't get very many of them but I remember the ones I did get. When I was little, that was the most popular form of punishment for children. I suppose the worst punishment for one of mine was taking away all privileges...I mean all privileges too. I suppose my parenting style is a little different.

When my daughter was a teenager, I threw the remote at her. It hit the wall and broke. Also when she was a teenager, I threw her in her bedroom twice and threatened her if she came out and another time when she was a teenager I tried to catch her with a belt while she was running out the door. Also when she was a teenager and always said she was sick so she wouldn't have to go to school, I would have the phone disconnected and take. I tried just taking the phones to work with me, but she would borrow one from a neighbor and plug it in. You have to understand, this was before cellphones. The big rave at that time was beepers.

minus 30 degree celsius??? Is she mad or has mental illness?? She did learn that will bring fatal or she did not go to school when she need to??I am not a mom but so close with my nephews and niece but this punishment is crazy~ What if she is the one who get inside the room???

First of all I want to say; I know accidents while sleeping are not on purpose! A friend of mine had the same problem and her mother always got mad at her! My middle son had these accidents and I knew they were not his fault. Talk about emotional scaring! Parents kill their children every day because they are not fit to have children in the first place!

I not like punishment for child I know some time parents annoyed on child but punishment is not good way to change their child. The parents are first teacher of their child and they should teach them very well by love.

Hi shibham, Punishing a child for bed wetting – its hard to believe for me. I think bed wetting at the age of 3.5 is common and this is the age when the mothers should take care of the child’s meals at night etc. My daughter had this problem (not every day but often) till the age of 4 and I never used to punish her because she used to be at the crèche during day time and she wouldn’t sleep till 11.30 or 12 at night. That was a horrible time for me as after the whole day’s work I am tired and my husband was working in another town. Punishing never came to my mind but I worked out a schedule for her evening to overcome this problem. My punishments to my kids are not serious ones – if they didn’t listen to me I only tell them their TV time is cut down by 30 minutes, they need to do certain household work (like dusting etc) but my husband is more strict and he easily lose patience so they get some good shouting. The last line, I never got punished from my parents and I always tell my kids ‘ see how good I was at your age…LOL’

My kids don't get punishments. The worst they had was sending them to their bedroom. They don't care about that because they love to stay their. play without being disturbed. This doesn't mean btw my kids are terrible kids, they behave well, are always polite and helpfull so less need to punish them. I myself had terrible parents. They beat us kids up for no reason, took us out of our beds in the middle of the night. Beat us up with dogchains, wipes, etc etc.

hi, i think punishing the kids is very bad one because first of all the are god to us.. if they are doing any mistakes means we should try to make them to analyse their mistake by our affection not by punishing them.. this is my opinion.. please dont punish your kids...

Im not a mom yet, but Im sure that I won't punish my kids (someday) over control. I was a kindergarten teacher, I've learned how to hadle children especially when they make mistake/ trouble, and we (teacher) never give hard punishment. We can learn much from TV show Nanny 911, It is my fave TV show cos I can learn much about parenting.

feel really sad for the young ones . what was she a mother or a demon .mother are the second form of god they just began to walk and started to speak didnt even see the world properly. my worst punishment was in my childhood .i was very naughty that time and was beaten my hammer on my back by my mommy.