Helping a friend getting over her

Months ago? Omg, he really needs to put the pieces back and move on. Maybe it would sound different as I'm a woman, but at least I was also dumped. Well, cheated on, actually. He was cheating on me. I'm still hurt right now, and not ready to be in a relationship yet. I won't forget what he has done to me, although we're still communicating. So what I did? I cried a lot for three days, even got myself sick. But then I decided to move on. My life is not about him. And does he feel bad after he did it to me? Of course not. So why do I have to grieve all the time? Tell your friend that. He's a man for God's sake! :P She has even found another one. It means that she has been over him. So what's the broken heart for? She doesn't bother to think about him, so why he keeps on being silly crying over her? Ask him to read this. I'm sure he would understand what I mean. Oh, and he also needs a distraction. I talked a lot to my ex's best friend. Even until now. We joke a lot, share news, even get closer. It doesn't mean I fall in love with him. And I make new friends, get myself busy at work, play games, read books, and many things. Those also help. Keeping myself in grieve will just make my ex happy.

it never is easy to get over a broken relationship. its a choice he has to make whether to move on to remain in the dark. well, changing environment will help to an extent, if there's something you know that can equate the same pleasure he derive when she's around him, get him to do it. most importantly, he should get a new girl. it worked for me.

it only takes time. i think when he talks less of the person, it does not mean he thinks less of her. but he has to realize that life without her is possible and all he needs to do is value himself more and know that there is someone out there for him too. he just needs to also open himself up to getting to know other people as well.

I think you are right, the best thing you can do is be there for him. He just needs time to get over it. Maybe you should do what your other friend does - get him out of the house, force him to have fun, and try to get his mind off of his girl. I am dealing with a similar situation with my cousin who's boyfriend broke up with her and caused her to have a nervous breakdown. I am having a hard time getting her not to talk about her ex, though. Good luck to you! It's a hard position to be in, that's for sure..

Your best friend is not the only one go through such experience, I personally just gone through it myself too. I took it as a fact, and I can't turn back time nor I can change anything about this fact. So I personally, and painfully accept it. Learn to accept is a good thing, and time will heal all the wound.

Besides time, I allow my friends to vent, grieve, to share what they are feeling. However, after a few days, I will start to ask my friend about other topics to help them start to move forward. Even if it means seeing if they want to meet for coffee, go for a walk, go for a drive; things that will start to help them realize that it will be really ok without the boyfriend no longer in her life.