Friends you get sick of
By Christoph56
@Christoph56 (1504)
Canada
March 9, 2012 2:11am CST
So, me and this guy were friends back in the highschool days. I even still remember the first day we met, when we were both in a PE class, and really didn't like it, so we started to hang out. We were BFFs (Best Friends Forever) back in the highschool days... then after that, we both moved to the same bigger city, and we kept up as best friends. Time kept on passing, and he went out to work in Asia, while I stayed here and kept working my way up. This whole thing went on for about 5 years, and he decided to come back to live here, again, make a new start. So, him being my BFF, I decided to have him stay at my place, low rent, nice and easy. He got work really easy, and was perfectly set up.
But, somehow, he blew through his money like crazy, ended up without any, because he had spent money all over the place, and suddenly bailed on me, moving back to Asia, and leaving all of his stuff here. I admit, I let him leave his things here, but we're talking about a lot of stuff... took away a whole room in my place, and it was stressing me out all the time... he'd even send me packages in the mail... of his things, to keep on storing for him...
So, then, he decides to come back, he has plans of going to school out here, but without even asking me, he wants to move back in. I tell him I want him to take his stuff and just go, finally give up that room, even though now, I'll only have about a month left to make use of it, because I have to be selling my place. I can't even do the construction work I need to do, because he decided to come back, right now. We hang out a bit, but I seriously hardly want to talk to him, and I'm actually worried about going outside my bedroom, because I don't know where he is, and what he'll start doing. I'm just sick of the guy.
This was my best friend for so many years, but now I just can't stand him. I'm finally getting to see how people go through changes, move further away from eachother. Do you have this? Do you tell someone you want to be their BFF, but after more and more years, you just don't want to see them again? What do you do about it?
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4 responses
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
13 Mar 12
In life, nothing is forever. And that rather sadly includes friendship. That is just the nature of life. People who have been getting along for years and years, really do drift apart overtime. I know that all too well. It is either just some clash of personality or just having different life experiences, that make me less likely to really relate to the person that I would consider my friend. That really is just something that happens very often.
So it is rather sad when it happens. It is with a heavy heart, but despite my best efforts, there are just times where relationships with friends, just rather fly right down and fall right to pieces. Just go with it sadly, and we'll have other friends. and I do have other long term friends, but there are just some that have really just faded away, where we didn't connect, where we didn't get along as well as we have in the past. That is the nature of friendship. It is often times fragile.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
13 Mar 12
Personally it is sad when things like this happen between people to where one changes so much that you do not ever want to be around them anymore, but things happen. It definately sounds like in your Best interest you need to find a way to let him know how you feel, and that you feel it is Best he leave. Personally if he cannot understand the hardship he has been putting on you it is time he learn before everyone else feels the same way about him as well.
@carolbee (16230)
• United States
9 Mar 12
I am sorry this all happened to you. I guess at this point you can consider it a good learning experience. Can you try to sell his things? I was friends with a girl in grade school. We reunited again at a high school reunion. We became good friends again. It was a major disaster of all disasters. She couldn't stand it because I had a good marriage, kids and grandkids. Eventually I got so sick of her sad, sorry life I had to make changes. I finally told her I hated to talk on the phone, not a lie, and to please just email me. That worked pretty well for awhile until she had another major disaster. I finally quit answering her emails and just faded out of her life. I didn't have much of a choice since she was making me miserble and trying to consume my life. Also, she wanted me to help with her bills and give her cash which I refused. I hear from her once in awhile and that's ok but she will never choke me again with her unhappy life. I moved on and hope you are able to do the same.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
9 Mar 12
thats a sad problem we all face at some point in our life. i had a friend that i had for yrs. when my hubby was alive we all hung out together, me, her, and hubby and whatever boyfriend she had at the time, from '94 till now. i still get a call on the phone from her now and then. but we parted close friendship mostly, since its went downhill since '03 when she moved in with my son, 17yrs younger . i accepted it but she just kept up crazy things toward me out of jealousy and my son made her leave from the house 3yrs ago.
