Is someone more attracted to you than you are them?

March 11, 2012 4:06am CST
You may have met someone who is more attracted to you than you are to them, but you just want to remain friends. No matter what you do to make it clear you don't want a serious relationship with them that person won't except it. I don't want to lose my friend and I know how it feel to want someone you can't have, but there's a line you must draw! What's you thoughts?
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@emilytd18 (114)
• Philippines
12 Mar 12
Hi rodster! That's pretty tough, but I think I'd rather stay honest with that friend than be bothered by his intentions from time to time. Plus saying so in a girls POV, it would really be annoying and frustrating if my friend would have such feelings about me while I am just thinking baout him as a friend. And if ever that we come to a point where he can't accept that then I will have no other choice but to break our friendship. I don't want such things to affect the future relationship that I will have with my true love. So better keep things clear. Though it would really be sad loosing a friend, a good friend.
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• United States
11 Mar 12
I'm having this exact problem right now! I'm not sure what to do about it. I enjoy this persons company and we have loads of mutual friends, but when it just comes down to it, the attraction isn't there for me. I get several texts a day where he compliments how I look and I either don't reply or say something like "if you really think so" or "not really." It's getting even more frustrating because he's started helping me out a lot. We're about to be coworkers and I don't want to cause problems for him or make anything awkward. I'm hoping that if I just keep shying away from his advances he'll get bored and find someone else and then I'll be the flavor of last month. Sounds like a decent plan, right?
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@prinzcy (32984)
• Malaysia
12 Mar 12
I am in that kind of relationship. He said he loves me but my feeling is not as strong. I see him as a friend. I am not in that relationship right now and I already told him about my true feeling. But he said he'll wait. Right now I am giving my heart a chance to open up for him. He's a nice guy and I don't find a reason to hate him either. You won't know unless you try.
@Mashnn (4502)
11 Mar 12
I have experienced such problem. What I did is to set limit and tell that person that there is no way I could be in love with him. I remained friends with some while others could not take it and I did not hear from them for a long time. Just let him know your stand.
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@Lisona (177)
11 Mar 12
I totally agree if you have been friends for a long time but have no attraction to them in the physical sense, don't even go there. I have an old friend and he always declares his love all the time but I have known him for years and its bit of a joke between us more like a big brother than anything. I think if you have that kind of relationship it should'nt be spoiled by other intentions. If they are not going to accept it they must be a stalker ..hahahaha. Sorry
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