Do You Respond to Discussions Talking About Other people's Lives?

Philippines
March 11, 2012 3:42pm CST
As I browse the discussions, many of which talks about other people's lives like their friend, their neighbor who got pregnant, their boss, their officemate, etc. I don't think it's that bad if there's a very important idea that comes out of it. However, if just talk about other people how they dress, their problems, how they conduct themselves, are we not stabbing them in their backs? I would rather prefer to respond to discussions about important issues rather than more on other people's lives like how they look, what they have, etc. That's just me. How about other mylot members?
9 responses
• Philippines
13 Mar 12
I don't know if some are telling the truth, like saying it's about their neighbor or friend.It might be their own situation but they are too shy to admit it. I don't mind answering if the topic is asking opinion, or advice. That's the purpose of this forum anyway, to know other mylotters opinion and advice.
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• Philippines
13 Mar 12
That's another thing when people use others just to hide the true situation.
• United States
11 Mar 12
I don't know how to feel on this topic either. I usually don't respond to things that are overly personal. I've asked people their opinions on certain situations, but I've always tried to be as general as I possibly can. I do think it's slightly stabbing someone in the back. I would feel pretty crappy if my friends posted about me on a random website saying how I wore these god awful leggings last night or how I have commitment issues (just throwing random things out there).
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• Philippines
11 Mar 12
I feel similarly. If people talk about me somewhere about things when I'm not there, I consider it as stabbing in the back.
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
13 Mar 12
As far as I can remember I never respond to any discussion just by talking others people's lives. I think it is appropriate to talk to someone who is not around. Most of my response are related to me, what I usually feel and what I had experienced.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
13 Mar 12
I'll say this right now. There are a lot of discussions on the Internet that veer into too personal territory, that destroys my rule of separation of real life and Internet, which sadly many people seem to not follow. Opening yourself on any Internet forum, you've got be rather careful what you post and obviously there are times where you just wonder what to say, what people want you to say. Because when things get that personal, I just imagine that people might want to be assured that they were in the right some of the time. Not all of the time but some of the time. I don't really like that curtain pulled back to an extent. And really, there are times where people tend to give a little too much of an uncomfortable situation. I can just imagine some of the people who are the other party in this story might not feel comfortable about having everything about them aired out on an Internet forum. Some won't care, but there are times where stories seem to get too personal and get rather uncomfortable.
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@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
12 Mar 12
Hi there god-is-good, In my opinion, I think that it is okay to talk about other people as long as there is something to be brought about it. What I mean is that, if you will be giving a good advise regarding the issue or the problem. And if you will keep those issues to yourself, cause spreading it will be gossip right. Anyway take care...
• United States
12 Mar 12
i personally do not respond to things that are to personal but if it is about a friend or the way they are dressing i cant think of ne thing to say. i do how ever enjoy reading about diffrent peoples lives and the problems they are having because i have been thro a lot in my life and i like to give advice or just tell them they are not alone (it makes people feel better). i have posted many things on here and the mylot community they has respponded has helped me on many diffrent ways with their suggestions :) and i have many options to try if one doesnt work :) i guess i just like to return the favor but thats just me also :)
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@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
12 Mar 12
I response as long as interest me to share something to that discussion. It's not bad to share and say our opinion so that it will be corrected the bad intention of the writers...
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• Valdosta, Georgia
12 Mar 12
I don't really think its stabbing anyone in the back if you respond to someone's discussion. We don't know the person. Most of the time I have seen discussions like that asking us how to deal with someone in a certain situation, not to just gossip about someone. They need advice and support. From what I have seen its not about being mean or being a back stabber. Were supposed to be able to talk and vent here and the great thing is if we don't like the discussion were welcome to find another one. I love helping and giving advice so I do answer in hopes that I can be helpful. =) I really have not come across any that just wants to talk bad about someone. There is usually help thats needed behind it.
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@bluespygirl (2112)
• Philippines
12 Mar 12
Hello there! I respond to topics not because we were talking about their lives but because I can relate to the topic in a way or another. Sometimes, I think about the topic on what will I do if it will happen to me. There are other topics too that I can relate to be it happening to me or to some friends. Or simply I was just sharing what I thought into it. Through myLot, different point of views of topic discussions help me solve some issues or problems not only to me but also to friends. I don't think we were talking about other people's lives.