Would you mind giving up if your partner refuse to..
By airasheila
@airasheila (5454)
Philippines
March 13, 2012 3:35am CST
Good day Fellow Mylotters,
In a relationship, how you will react if your partner refuse to make love with you. What if, he pushes you back every moment you try to make love with him. What if he always tell you, "I am busy". In this instances, would you mind giving up?
Indeed those questions are really hard to answer. That is why, I am also having a hard time answering the query of my sister. That she always confides in me. That, whenever her husband refuse to, she just end up in crying. Thus often times, she feels that her tears was somehow running dry because of those situations that she encounters. Hence, I am thinking and placing myself in her shoe, perhaps, I will just wait for the day to come that my love for my partner has fade away. After all, everything has an ending. So, I will just wait for that day to come. What to do, I don't like to end up crying.
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@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
13 Mar 12
The feeling of rejection is so frustrating that it degrades one's ego. I for one whenever i got the urge and my wife just ignores me, i feel so bad and inadequate, but when i finally opened up to her of what i felt every time she refuses, she apologized and tried making up with it. So, i guess it is best to discuss these things with him, although it is a little bit humiliating, it would surely pay off.
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@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
13 Mar 12
well I have and no I didn't cry
he was busy, of course he couldn't focus on se x
I did the same if my mind was preoccupied with something else or just tired
he didn't cry, yell etc he just put up with it
@laken02 (3065)
• United States
13 Mar 12
my husband use to do that to me as well, i use to let it bother me and now i dont i just leave him alone and in doing that he is more pleased and he will let me know when he is ready to make out..so i just leave it up to him, althought i always rub his back at night and still snuggle close for a bout 5 min before bed he use to say it was to hot to do that but he has learned that i only do it for about 5 min the i roll over and go to sleep.. so he leaves me alone now.. it is very hurtful when your husband acts that way ,, but i just learned to not let it affect ,me best wat to deal with it..
@Novelangel (394)
• United States
13 Mar 12
Before we got married my fiance and I had to take marriage counseling classes by the pastor who married us. He told us that refusing the partner is never a good idea and taking a break from love making should only be done if both partners agree to it ahead of time. That way there is no resentment from one or the other. The wife in this scenario needs to start asking personal questions of her husband, to find out what he is thinking and feeling. If he is tired from work he may not feel like making love. There could be a more ominous reason as well, of course, but if he is having an affair he may or may not admit it to her.
There could also be a physical reason for his low libido. An illness could be the cause of the problem. Perhaps it's time for him to have a physical.
@rozilynf (139)
•
13 Mar 12
hi there
In relationship theres UP and DOWNS.. in my advice to your sister make a serious conversation to her husband make things very clear for him, don't mind giving up its just a part of being in relationship.. love is about to give and take, tell it to her husband and make things that can help him to realized whats something wrong wrong with that relationship, if she really love her husband so move, saved that relationship.. if her husband don't have time for her, tell him.. to take time for her.. don't cry.. don't cry too much about that, its just tears and lose energy.. make her stress.. make her self more beautiful.. so his husband get attract to her again.. do something sweet thing in her husband,, hope it will her to your sister..
@5mahi05 (666)
• India
13 Mar 12
hello sheila, I think you must help your friend understand that he could have his reasons for not making love. Guys lose interest in everything, including love making when they are busy with something very important. For them, when the work ticks off, they just need to succeed in it. Instead of crying about it, ask your friend to silently support him and give him the encouragement required for him.
Guys don't indulge themselves in love making, if they don't want to! May be the guy has lost interest in it, may be bored of it. the girl should make him find interest. ask her to think of some new ways to light the spark in him. A guy not interested in love making!? OMG! Ask your friend to speak to him, may be he is not loving her anymore( I am sorry, but this question does come when the guy doesn't indulge himself).
