First Date... Who Pays?
By Graceekwenx
@Graceekwenx (3160)
Philippines
29 responses
@beamer88 (4259)
• Philippines
14 Mar 12
A lot of men still do although more and more are now starting to go dutch. I guess one reason why there are still men who shoulder the bill is because it's the logical thing to do. I mean, if you're the one who asks a person out, it's sort of appropriate that you treat that person. Although blind dates are a bit different from traditional dates, I think men pay because it's kind of a chivalrous thing to do. It's like a man giving up his seat for a woman standing. He doesn't need to but it's just proper to do it :)
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@purplealabaster (22094)
• United States
14 Mar 12
On a first date, I would say that the person that asked the other one out is the one that should pay, so if the girl asks the guy out, then she should be the one expected to pay and vice versa. Otherwise, I think that it depends upon the relationship and (practically speaking) who makes more money. If one of the people makes significantly more money than the other person, then he or she should be the one to pay for the majority of the dates, although not necessarily all of the dates, because he or she can more easily afford to pay.
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@purplealabaster (22094)
• United States
15 Mar 12
I can understand a man offering to pay on a first date, even if it was the woman who asked him out, and I think that shows good manners. I also think that the woman offering to pay when the man asks her out shows good manners. However, I still think the one that asks should be the one to pay. Otherwise, it is kind-of like walking up to someone and saying "Why don't you take me out and buy me things, even though I don't really know you" - that would just be rude. Instead, asking and paying shows that they want to get to know you not just see what you can do for them.
@jarael (665)
•
14 Mar 12
no i dont think men have to pay for dates, although a lot of men like to spoil their woman and be the person their woman can lean on and like to pay for things.
i think its good to offer to split the bill in half or he pays now and she pays the next time etc.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
14 Mar 12
If it is a blind date I think that the two on the date should go dutch. This means that they pay for what they ordered. I think that men should not have to pay for every date a couple goes on and that it should be either halved, or every other date the guy pays.
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@prinzcy (32322)
• Malaysia
20 Mar 12
It's a blind date and the first date, both should pay for themselves. In fact, that apply for most other date. Guys don't really need to go Dutch. What I read on Yahoo yesterday, if someone ask for a date, then that person should pay for most of it, which I agree. If it just another regular date where we meet up as usual, just share the payment. Occasionally it's okay to be paid for but not most of the time.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
24 Mar 12
Hahah...no chance of first date because my marriage is fixed with in 10 days. No meeting with husband before marriage.
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
16 Mar 12
It depend on who asked who. Usually, on a first date, it is the man who asked. However I can think of a case where the woman initiated the date. In that case, she should pay.
@Simon1223 (903)
• China
18 Mar 12
In my view, it should be the man who pays for the first date, whether he likes the woman sitting opposite to him. I think it is the basic manner of a man. If the man and the woman establish a relationship, I don't think that the man should pay for their dates everytime. It would be better that they pay for dates in turn. Of course if it is the woman's turn to pay for the date, they could choose a restaurant which doesn't cost them a lot of money.
@RamRes (1723)
• Argentina
20 Mar 12
I don't think men has to pay for everything every time. Just to make things equal, at first I would divide the expenses 50/50, after agreeing that with my partner of course. I see that men paying for everything is more for a romantic date where man tries to seduce the woman and this small gesture just helps that, but for a first date I don't see that direct need in the first place.
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
17 Mar 12
I think the one who asks the other out is the one who should pay for it. You ask me out you pay. I ask you out I pay.. unless another arrangement like going dutch is suggested.
@Ollanna11 (371)
• United States
15 Mar 12
I know its 2012 out with the old. Nowdays women are bolder and may ask a guy out. I'm sticking with the tradition. If a guy is interested then he should make the first move. When a man pays for the date he's showing the women that he can afford a small bill. If you are broke, don't call me. Call unemployment!!!
Blind date I've never been on. I suggest ladies carry some money just in case you date a tight wad. Some men place a high value on their 2 cents. If you treat a girl right there's no limit to what she will do for you. Usually!!
@myzhian (584)
• Philippines
18 Mar 12
Man should do the honor to pay for the first date for this is a very especial time granted for him by a girl so I guess he must have to take the charge. Although, when the time came that both of you have a mutual understanding and enjoying the moments together then maybe you could talk about sharing, which is good enough to let you manage or learn more about dealing with friendship or another level of relationship!
@scorpiobabes (7225)
• United States
15 Mar 12
The men I've met have generally paid for the date. It depends who did the asking though; I believe that whoever asks should pay.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
15 Mar 12
first Blind Date should split 50-50 And it should be for coffee or a snack , not a huge 5 course dinner. As for all others, whoever calls and suggests a date pays. So if a lady is old fashioned and wants the guy to pay Always then she Should have to wait for him to call and ask her out. But if she isn't old fashioned And has her own money and wants to see him , then she should be able to call and ask Him out. Now if he says yes and then says " but I'm paying" then ok, let him pay.But if not , it was your idea , then pay.
@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
15 Mar 12
i am conservative. i prefer men to pay on dates because i find that as a manly duty to a woman.
although things are changing nowadays, i guess, i can insist on paying if i initiated or rather asked for the date.
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@cerebellum (3863)
• United States
15 Mar 12
I think on a first date the man should pay. If it is a blind date and you are just seeing if you like each other, it should be 50-50. Whoever asks the other out or to do something should expect to pay for it. My ex paid most of the time, but I paid a lot also.
@2004cqui (2812)
• United States
15 Mar 12
It all depends on what kind of woman a man wants to marry. I they're looking for a woman they want to take care of for the rest of their life, the guy pays for everything, for the rest of his life. If, on the other hand if he admires independent, self supporting women, it's a 50/50 split!
