Life Decisions and Life Coaches

Yes, you may be right, but.. what if that life coach's advice didn't go so well for his patient? I mean, eventhough people have degrees, they still make mistakes. We're *bound* to make mistakes as humans. Wouldn't the patient have the right to blame the life coach? With that being said, it's possible that the patient would blame that life coach. What I mean here is, a man is supposed to blame no one but himself for the decisions he made. It's ridiculous if you're blaming someone else for the mistakes that you've made.

We´ve got crossed wires. That´s not what I was trying to say. I meant that a life coach is not there to make decisions for you. Their role is to help you to make the decision yourself.

I see. What I'm trying to get across here is taking full responsibility of your decision by owning it. The decision was made by oneself, without any interference from others. This way, if you mess up, you get no one to blame but you.

That's even worse. Most of the time, you'll have to make a decision. If a life coach's purpose is to prevent you from making any decision, you're better off without them. It's too easy to prevent someone from making the decision. What's more is, they get paid for that? That's awful.

Yes. I agree with that point that it is in ourselves to heal and go back to normal state. It is in our own hands, yeah. Well, have you been in a situation where you feel so helpless and hopeless, like you're so depressed and you don't have the courage to continue? Have you ever felt like that? There are really a few people who are not used to standing on their own and even though it's in our own hands to stand up, there are some who don't realize it and need someone to depend on to stand up.

I really don't think that would work because, no matter how "clouded" we are in a given situation, we have the ability to go back to equilibrium, to normal state, or to whatever they call it. The negativity and positivity are all within us, they're all part of ourselves. In my opinion, if we can manage to pull out that negativity from within us, we can also manage to pull out the positivity from within. To put it simply, it's really people's fault why they're paying the "life coaches" because they *don't* want to manage themselves properly. They may be too lazy, or what not, but it's still they're fault. If there's someone to blame, it's them, not that wicked counter girl, the sadistic teacher, the possessive girlfriend, the driver flaming with road rage, etc.. It's pretty easy to point fingers at anyone, I used to do it a lot when I was a kid. Why do we do it? Because when we were kids, we couldn't fix our issues on our own. It's easier to blame someone, or even something, for our mistakes. Now that we can think by ourselves, don't you think it's already time for us to use it to fix our own issues?

What I'm pointing at here is making the decision from one's self solely. If part of the decision is from another person, then it's not your decision entirely. If it goes wrong, someone could be blamed instead of you. Blaming someone for a decision you made is really childish, if you think about it. We are grown-ups, we can make our own decisions, and I'm not talking about fields here that are unknown to you. I'm talking about life in general. You own your life, no one's gonna take that away from you, so why make others make the decision for you? Plus, blaming others wouldn't really do any good, it'll just be a waste of time, since the decision had been made. Another thing is, it feels successful when you know you made a great decision all by yourself, without anyone interfering in the process.

You have a point. Because of inexperience, we sometimes need to seek advice. Although, for me, it's best if I learn the lesson myself. It's always better to make the mistake yourself, I consider it the best way for someone to learn.

Plus, it feels rewarding realizing you made a good one at the end of the day.

Yeah it deffinately feels good making a good decision. Some decisions are very difficult to make and most times making the right decision is the hardest thing you have to do.

If it's scary to make a decision for yourself, why would you even let someone else make it? It's scary, so it means it's something important, right? The last thing I wanna do is give someone else the permission to make an important decision for me. I'd want to make that decision myself instead of letting someone decide for me, that's just too risky. Simply "wanting" to hear what someone would do if he was in your shoes would read "attention freak" in my book. Deciding on something just because a lot of people want it for you basically isn't right for me. You have to be yourself and, therefore, make your own decisions without minding the other's opinion.

By saying "victim", you're already implying a negative decision had already been made. I'm not trying to communicate decisions here in a negative way, if that's how you got it. Decisions can be good, or it could need a lot of work, that's how I view it. I don't like to view it as right or wrong, it only implies failure. I'd like to take decisions as feedback. If you seem to have made a poor decision, then it needs a lot of work. You can learn from it by studying it further.

Right on.