he says i am different.. lol
By jazel_juan
@jazel_juan (15745)
Philippines
March 17, 2012 10:02pm CST
now i do not know if that is good or bad!
see, we were at the ukay ukay ( 2nd hand shops) was looking for kid's dressess and shirts...and he told me to look for mine too..shirts that i will like.. hubby said there are many that are nice. after a few minutes, i still cant find which i like..and he said there are many lol and i said none registers to my taste! then we went home..
he then told me that i am different, or maybe i am just not fashionista at all..and it got me thinking.. am i a bad dresser??? i mean i am just not mainstream, i do not follow fashion and i dress what i like and where i am comfortable.. lol that is why i have basics, like your usual pants, tank top..and shirts and dress. He told me some that i have does not really suits me! this is the first ive heard he said this! and i said like what?
he said like that bayo top i have which is my current fave! i love the fabric, it is fresh..and loose and i just like it lol and he said it doesn't suit me. but then i said, i honestly don't care as i dress according to what i feel..and if other people see something bad or baduy in it then i do not care...
what do you guys think? do you dress according to how? how you feel? how you think you feel? or do you follow fashion? i just dress according to how my body type is.. i dress according to my heart lol.. just got me thinking. hmmmm i am just not mainstream at all. while other dress and follow fashion, i don't. i stick to basics..hmmmmm seriously! he thinks i am different and queer?????
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10 responses
@flapiz (23530)
• United Kingdom
18 Mar 12
Well you don't have to worry with being different. It is a plus in this stereotypical world. We need to stand out somehow.
In my case I love fashion but I don't follow the mainstream. I create my own style. Something that shouts me. So that when my friends see someone wearing similar clothes that I wear they would say, that's so flapiz or oooh she reminds me of my friend flapiz.
When picking up clothes, like you, I consider the comfort too and of course it should compliment my body structure. I hide what I don't want to be seen and I flaunt my assets.
Maybe you should surprise your hubby sometimes. :)
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@jazel_juan (15745)
• Philippines
19 Mar 12
yes sooo agree!!! I like to be different, i mean i was never comfortable following trend..or going with mainstream..
i am not really into fashion, i just stick what what i think is right for me at the same time making it my own..
surprise my hubby? hmmm like how?
@jazel_juan (15745)
• Philippines
21 Mar 12
this is a good one.. i might do that one day...like on his bday right? hope he does not read this or else he will know about it! 
@Lhenni (1242)
• Philippines
20 Mar 12
I follow my own liking, and my mood with regards to what I wear and buy. But I don't ignore what my husband is saying. Sometimes, I do acknowledge some of his nice side comments on how I look but overall, I'm still the one in-charge.
Normally, as long as I feel good and comfortable, I'm on it!
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@jazel_juan (15745)
• Philippines
21 Mar 12
i follow my own liking too and now, i do not really mind what he says especially ones that do hurt me because he recommend stuff that i do not like and act as if i am choosing the wrong one! 
@Lhenni (1242)
• Philippines
21 Mar 12
Sometimes it's good to have someone dear to us to let us know through "strictly harsh" commenting the other side of one's view with regards to someone's liking.
But of course, as the saying goes, we can't please everybody! But atleast, we can please ourself *wink!
As long as we feel good and beautiful, no matter what they say... WHO CARES! *LOL
@jazel_juan (15745)
• Philippines
21 Mar 12
i can totally agree on this one... if i feel good in it, who cares?
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
18 Mar 12
good for you. i have always been the same way and its never caused me any problem.even when i was very young, i wore what i liked and not what was fashion. funny thing, my daughters used to steal my clothes at times when they were teen agers
my sons ex once said to me, you dont waer whats in style for today. she said that about 6 yrs ago and yet my daughters still like my clothes. 
@jazel_juan (15745)
• Philippines
19 Mar 12
they find you cool then! My daughter though still young.. i believe she doesn't find me that cool lol except when i am in a dress which she loves to see!
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
18 Mar 12
Well, I guess dressing up sometimes really has something to do with the overall personality. For me, it's quite important on how one feels, as long the clothing is good for my body, and also clean and neat. Denims and a white shirt is my all time fav, and my wife states I am too plain simple, lol!
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@r3jcorp (1382)
• Philippines
19 Mar 12
Maybe a second hand clothes is not your type or maybe it doesn't look comfortable at all for you. Sometimes Ukay-Ukay clothes are made from fabrics that are not suited in our country. For me, it doesn't matter what others think of how we dress, but if we are happy on how we look. Comfort should be our priority not fashion.
Last week, we went to ukay-ukay store too because my oldest daughter had an urgent need for a pants. A brand new things is out of our budget, moreover that she still needs a new white shirt. At least she was happy with what she choose, a nice and comfortable black pants.
I don't think you are different and queer, you are just not after the brands or the fashion. You want comfort and you want to dress the way you want people to see you. You are just being "yourself".
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@jazel_juan (15745)
• Philippines
19 Mar 12
Actually i was there because of my daughter too..we looked for dresses..
I am indeed being just myself..there are things in the ukay ukay that i do love but i also do not think it suits me at all.. plus there was one blouse i tried that looks cute but when i fit it, it doesn't feel "right"
@Mashnn (4501)
•
18 Mar 12
I enjoy wearing what I feel comfortable but not necessarily what is in fashion. I have heard almost a similar experience when my husband spotted a dress that he thought it was good for me but unfortunately, I did not like it. What I do is just buy what I like but if my husband finds something that he thinks it is nice, he usually buy it for me even when I am not there. Fortunately, he has learned to go with my taste and in most cases, whatever he buys is pretty much within my style and fashion. I think your husband does not mean that you are not stylish, it is only because what he thinks is fashionable and stylish is different from your taste.
@jazel_juan (15745)
• Philippines
19 Mar 12
so true! I mean what i like differs from what he think is right or good for me right? lol he just doesn't get it when i was explaining it to him hahaha.. i just am different
@writersedge (22563)
• United States
18 Mar 12
That's kind of vague. They don't suit you, how? Wrong color for your skin? Don't do anything for your figure? Obviously, since you like them, they suit your tastes in clothing.
I'm 54 years old so these short shirts and short waisted pants aren't for me. Most people gain a little in their tummy when they hit a certain age and I had a 7 hour operation with huge scar in that area. I find a lot of clothing doesn't suit me. Right now, orange is popular at one store. I only wear that at Halloween.
You are probably different because a lot of people like all the clothes they see and would not get out of even a 2nd hand store without buying a lot of clothing. He should be happy you didn't walk out with $100 worth of 2nd hand clothing. Some people go into a store and go out of control with spending.
There was a discussion about using shopping for an anti-depressant. Some people buy way too much when they do that and go broke.
I'd say you're porbably happy with yourself and what you have. You sound well adjusted to me. I think he should be happy for you and his pocketbook (besides, the last I knew, you can't go wrong with the basics).
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@jazel_juan (15745)
• Philippines
19 Mar 12
I agree, i rarely spend that much on clothing even on second hand store.. i am quite picky with clothes.. i like the conventional ones..the basics.. i just mix and match so often times they are neutral colors like black, blue or white..maybe he finds it boring????
oh well. 
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Mar 12
hi jazel I dress in what I like that looks good and feels comfortavle on me. I am not one to follow trends and since I am in
my eighties I do not w ant to look like an old lady trying to be
twenty again. I like certain colors that i know look good on me and clothes that fit not too snug but also not baggy as I am a large person and really huge baggy clothes make you actually look bigger.too tight is ugly and uncomfortable. I feel if the color looks good on you and the fit is comfortable and not too snug
that if you feel comfortable and at ease you will look good
to other people too.I would not let your husband upset you as I am sure he was more or less just teasing you.
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@jazel_juan (15745)
• Philippines
19 Mar 12
oh yes but i do not think he was teasing me..he was serious and i got pissed off but still laughing it off because i know if i get really upset and mad, it will get worse..but am dissing it off as i know what i like.
@veejay19 (3589)
• India
18 Mar 12
hi jaz, each and everone has their own tastes and choices.I am just like you.I wear what i like and what is comfortable for me.It doesn`t matter to me one whit what others may think or say.I am not fashion concious.However what i wear is decent clothes and am at least aware that it suits me and not something outlandish.We are all independant beings and we should have the freedom to do what we want a long as it does not cross the limits of decency.
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@jazel_juan (15745)
• Philippines
19 Mar 12
i raise my hands to this. i think that way too.. infact i believe my clothes do not even outstand lol.. maybe its just the way i wear it? i do have confidence that makes other people insecure
@ardoy0731 (7308)
• Philippines
18 Mar 12
Just be yourself and don't mind other people as long as you are comfortable with it.Just a bit confident on the way you wear it and enjoy.Minding other people could make you stress.
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