Who would you choose? The Person You Love Or The Person Who Love You?

@Marvz18 (106)
Philippines
March 20, 2012 3:22pm CST
Hello Mylotters, this is my first discussion... Here is the question... Who would you choose, The Person You Love OR The Person Who Love You? Here is the thing, this question is one of our popular discussion way way back in college with my choir mates. Usually the girls on our group choose "The Person Who Love You" and on the other side the boys usually chooses "The Person You Love"... Now if you would ask me I still stand on my old answer I will still go for The person I love. Why? Because I will not be happy if I go for the person who love me but I don't love. Maybe, because this is our custom, Boys usually courts the girls, Boys usually pampers girls. This is still a case to case basis. And this is just my opinion... Let me know about yours... What do you think mylotters? Who would you choose? The Person You Love Or The Person Who Love You?
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16 responses
@2004cqui (2812)
• United States
20 Mar 12
Both! He would have to admire me as much as I admire him. My list of qualities is long.
• India
21 Mar 12
You are right my friend. I also agree with you.
@Marvz18 (106)
• Philippines
21 Mar 12
Very safe answer. I would go for that also. but if you need to choose? who would it be?
@2004cqui (2812)
• United States
21 Mar 12
OK, how about neither? (30 years of marriage speaking). To choose someone on the sole idea he loves me would be absolutely gross! He could be a fat, useless, lazy person I would have to pick up for, cook for and clean for. I would be taken for granted. If I chose someone simply because I love him, I would be chasing him. Double yuck! What benefit would it do me? I'd be known as a tramp, crippling any chance I had at work and having friends.
• Philippines
21 Mar 12
Hi Mylotters, I'm new in this site but anyway let me give my insight, I would choose the one that loves me which i did, because I may grow or learn to love that Person (which already happened).
@Marvz18 (106)
• Philippines
21 Mar 12
Thanks you for the response... that is good for you... let me give a follow up question, when you first met that person have you not felt anything? Just asking... :D
• Indonesia
21 Mar 12
i will choose both,,,because i want to feel how loving someone and how to be loved too,,,,,
• Philippines
24 Mar 12
hi marvsz,let me answer your follow up question..to be honest i felt nothing when i first met her,but when i chosed to love and be w/ her,i realized, that was the best decision i ever made in my life.no regrets,no second thoughts!!!
• Philippines
20 Mar 12
I would choose the person who loves me. That person would accept me for who I am, my flaws/imperfections, and understands how I feel. I've loved someone before but the person didn't love me back so it figures that it was a one-way love and I was the only one who's in love. Who knows, when someone loves me, I could learn to love that person back.
• India
21 Mar 12
You are right my friend. I also agree with you. Have a nice day.
@Marvz18 (106)
• Philippines
21 Mar 12
That is a very honest answer there. Normally we want to be love first before we love back. Thanks for the response.
@nyang1984 (464)
• Philippines
21 Mar 12
i'd rather choose the person who loves me than the person i love. why?? because i might learn to love the person who loves me if not now maybe soon. but the person that i love might not love me in return and he might just use me or whatever. but i'm just glad that i wasn't put in a situation like that.
@Marvz18 (106)
• Philippines
21 Mar 12
Nice choice... Thank you for the response.
@tagakolo (46)
• United States
21 Mar 12
If the person i love me the same way i do,i will choose him.But,if the person i love have another woman that he love the most,I aint gonna risk it.I'd rather choose the person who love me.I believe that you can learn to love someone.
@Marvz18 (106)
• Philippines
22 Mar 12
Safe answer... better than safe than sorry... :D
• Philippines
28 Mar 12
The person I Love! Because I will be happy with him and I'll do everything for him to be happy with me also and I know when I do that, he will someday feel the same way for me. Just be patient, show some love for that person and someday you'll get a good reward to all your efforts. It actually happened to me. Now my boyfriend was the man I loved so much but before he doesn't love me as much as I do but with much effort I did, now he love me so dearly. =)
• India
21 Mar 12
i will choose the peson who I love.it is becoz the others will love us by seeing at 1st sight.it may not be sincier.the reasn they love us by our financial status,our beauty,or our plus points. . .
@larish (2191)
• Philippines
28 Mar 12
Both. I should be with the one I love and the one who loves me back.
@hestylim (1210)
• Indonesia
21 Mar 12
Hi there, I want both! :P But if I should choose, I would choose the person I love and how I wish he loves me back. :D I just follow where things lead and how I feel about that someone when I get to know a new guy.. but basically, I will go on if he happened to make a move and I happened to like him, and I will pull away, if I don't like him at all, and this doesn't affect whether he likes me or not..
• India
21 Mar 12
I choose the person who loves me. Have a nice day.
@bonding2 (219)
• South Africa
21 Mar 12
Any day, any time, i would prefer the person who love me, i know at first i wouldn't love her but i will try as much as possible to make her lovable , if she could be molded the way the one i love looks . Loving someone who merely tolerate you is a recipe for disaster.
@shebacs (178)
• Philippines
21 Mar 12
I will choose the person I love who also loves me. Also I think happiness is sometimes a choice. You can either let go and be happy or hold on and be miserable.
• New Zealand
21 Mar 12
I am a girl. I should love the person who loves me. I think this is essential for a long relationship between us. But this type of relationships are very rare. Both loving each other is nature or one loves other and forced to love other then they create a relationship. It is not good thing.
@Cyncr83 (15)
• United States
21 Mar 12
If I really have to choose... I might go for the person who loves me bc maybe with time you will get to appreciate and love that person!
@ShyBear88 (59288)
• Sterling, Virginia
20 Mar 12
I would choose the person that I love because I know I like them I love them and I want to be with the. I don't think I could love someone that loves me unless we where in love with each other. If it was just one sided I wouldn't be with that person because they love me and I don't love them. I rather be with the person that I love that loves me as well.
• Canada
21 Mar 12
Personally, I wouldn't choose either. I would choose the one who loves me, and the one I love; in other words, I would want to be loved back if I loved the guy I were with. Its simple. It can't be a one way street. If you love someone, and they do not love you back, you lose out. Now if they love you, and you don;t love them, then they lose out. It's not fair for one person to love someone and to never be loved back. It takes two! :-)