How supportive are you?

I too support my kids in their hobbies but I think it is a fine line between supporting and spoiling when it comes to buying everything. We do not buy everything the girls want to do as a hobby on a day to day basis. We save the items for holiday gifts and special occasions. Help them earn money to buy or do what they want (the older girls anyway the younger get chores to be paid for by us). I have even helped them sell off some of their all too soon unwanted hobby items on Ebay to make money for the next thing. One loves to sew and she sells on Etsy (She is ten by the way) little Barbie sleeping bags and drawstring purses she makes. She is saving for a new sewing machine, one that can embroider too! I had support in my hobbies growing up not from my parents but my Aunt. Who was always willing to drive me to karate, or art classes and my AP writing classes. She was not my parents though and I had to pay for everything. I did have another aunt who would throw me some money here or there for something or pay for a month of classes and though I have always been thankful it is the other Aunt who always comes first to mind when I think of who supported me. She was the one there picking me up bruised and battered with ice and a pep talk..lol Had a lot to prove in Karate, they where not used to a pretty girl kicking butt

Though I do not have children now, i am beginning to prepare things for them now. I think when I have my own children, I will try my best to support them. I think most of the parents in the world want to make their children have the best things in the world, but many of them can not make it for many reality reasons. But i do not think buy things to them is a good way to support them. If it is possible, I prefer to let have have the ability to get what they want through their own hands. Now in China, how a child will be is mainly determined by the ability of their parents. Many young people are really with good ability, but they do not have good parents to support them or bring their chances to compete with others. So most of them will be end of common. Parents with good ability or big circle can help their children reach success.

I too support my kid but sometimes if I think he just wants something because it was the "IN" thing in his school, I try to explain to him why we can't give it. Usually we just try to gauge the things he really likes to do and will just ask him what he really wants.Like there was this time that he wants to play tennis, but we feel he just wants to because his friend is into it. Good thing the coach is a good friend of ours, so we had him try it but it seems he didn't like it at all. So we just suggested he attends swimming lessons., and now he is good at it already.

you are a great mom then. i do that too with my kids. My daughter now is still into drawing so we do buy her materials for that, i could just imagine how many crayons we bought her! lol Then she is also into singing, more like Avril LAvigne and she wants skirts like Avril..so we also shopped with her and buy her those skirts!

Your son is lucky to have supportive and financially capable parents like you, Toni. Actually there are a lot of reasons why parents do not support their children's dreams. Sometimes, parents because of their financial incapacity are hesitant or even don't like to support whatever endeavor their children would like to. That's how we are when our daughter, asked us to let her pursue medicine after she graduated from UP in her BS Bio course. We know that we will not be that financially capable of that expensive course. But she persisted and was able to get a full scholarship at St. Luke's . Thus, we are now supporting her for her board and lodging and allowance as well as other expenses, because it's what we are only capable of giving her financially. In addition, she have our full support in finishing her medical course.

It's always good to be supportive of our children especially with the things they enjoy when its good for them and healthy for them. I would support my daughter in almost anything that she wants to do. If we can afford it then we can do it. Right now she enjoys being a 1 year old that likes to play at the park and have lots of ducks.

What a great son you have. None of my daughters like outdoor activities that I do. They are busy with things like story telling, and fashionable things, none of which is the one I like doing. But my first daughter learned swimming and has some skillls of swimming styles. You have busy weekends watching over your son, right?

I support all that I think he's right, but be really careful to not support mistakes, wrong opinions. That's why two heads thinks better than one, we watch out for each other but there are times that it's time for a talk, not support. When he is having a wrong idea or I'm having, then he also open my eyes. At first it's not cool cause sometimes I'm so certain, but after one night's sleep I think better in next day and realize that it was great he corrected me and didn't support a mistake. Living and learning

Your son can feel lucky because he has great parents which know how to support a child. I think that money can help to support, but showing love and encouraging properly you can achieve a lot too.

I support them by giving them advice and tell them what went wrong but at the same time I let them fix it up by themselves, or else they'll just keep coming for your help and won't be able to help themselves.:)