feeling lonely,not feeling have any friends.what should i do.

China
March 25, 2012 10:23am CST
im still a college student,but sometimes i feel very lonely cuz i dont think i have many friends,i tried to make friends but it was not working.everyone is selfish and love gossip,im feeling that im outside others world,can anyone tell me what should i do?
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@bubuth (1815)
• Philippines
19 Nov 12
Just continue what you are doing, keep making friends. Maybe if you find your friend he or she will be your very best friend. Sometimes I also feel the same. I feel that there is no one willing to listen to me and hang out with me but when I started to appreciate them, I realize that there are lot of people who love me. Sometimes they are not literally my friend, some of them are one of the family member but still I can consider him or her as my friend.
@shaieen (257)
• Philippines
26 Mar 12
Hello wangdanfeng! Don't feel sad, its psychologically normal to feel that way in your first years in college. However, you shouldn't drown yourself into loneliness, okay? Because it will only result to you being unhappy, and having regrets in the end. While you still can, make happy moments that you would remember when you get old. College is a tough stage to some students' lives because its the time of being mature, independent and strong. But always remember, you're main goal is to study and finish your degree. Find friends in some places like your neighborhood, or join school dance troupe/ sports team/ clubs. Also, always smile - it catches peoples' hearts especially when you're talking to them, makes you look like an emoticon! (Hehe) Anyway, my advice, just be positive! Always be positive as it magnets positive vibes around you (it's the law of nature I learned from my father/law of positivity; I'm not sure which one is the real law). Just don't lose hope! And don't cry too much! Focus on your main goal at the moment. Then keep praying also that you find good friends that will stay by your side forever.
@berting600 (3453)
• Philippines
25 Mar 12
It is not yet too late to win some friends you wanted to have.You must be talkative and jolly to almost all that you plan to become your friend.Treat them something if possible so that you could win their approval and welcome you as their new friend. Just do not overdo in making some friends out of them.Who knows you could someday count that you have some group of friends visiting you.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
25 Mar 12
Maybe the college setting is not where you need to make friends. I would suggest maybe going out and being active when you can, after studies. You could go to the cafe's etc, they may have some interesting people you could get to know. You could always meet in the college library some people who may have your same ideals, or if there are any groups you can join you may be able to make friends that way. First you need to concentrate on your studies. Some people go to colleges and universities and goof off more then they do study. You seem to be the opposite, wanting to study, you can find those that feel the same way. Just don't stress.
@jhen_jkc (105)
• Philippines
25 Mar 12
I know how you feel, just continue making friends time will come you will find true friends along the way, always be true to yourself and to others and do good in that way you will find true friends..