Hurting children
By chicgale
@chicgale (2982)
Philippines
March 27, 2012 7:32am CST
I felt sorry for my daughter's classmate who happen to be the daughter of one my closest friend at the school. This kid went to school today with bruise on her arm and few scratches on her arm and face. Her mother became one of my friends at the school since we always hang out there everyday, and in our circle of friends, our kids became the tops achievers in their class except for this other kid.
I asked the kid what happened to her face, and the kid didn't say anything but only gave me a shy smile. So I asked the nanny who was with her today and she just answered, "I don't know".
The other mothers noticed it too and we finally asked the mother of the kid, and she told us that her daughter hurt herself by doing bad things.
During the break time, my daughter and the other mother's daughter told us that her classmate who had a bruise told them that her mother were beating her up because she didn't study hard that's why she got the lowest grade in the class.
I really felt sorry for the kid coz it is not her fault that she got the lowest grade. The mother should help the kid to do her homework and help her study the lessons. I don't consider beating my kid by having a small score or grade, and besides they are just only at the first grade.
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@Cherish14 (2693)
• Philippines
28 Mar 12
i can say i am a very strict aunt to my nephews (i have nieces but they are only 1 month and 2 months old). i would get mad at them but i am totally against beating children because i used to be physically abused too when i was younger. i feel so bad for these children because there is nothing they can do but just be quiet because they are threaten not to say anything.
one time i saw a kid having so many bruises at school. i talked to him and he said that it his "yaya" or nanny who is doing all these to him and that even some o the nannies in school would see her pinch him and pull his hair. when i heard all these, i didn't i didn't hesitate telling his older brother about it.
i wish i could have the courage to tell that mother to stop beating her daughter, if something happens t the child, i would feel guilty too for not saying something.
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@Cherish14 (2693)
• Philippines
29 Mar 12
i know we don't want anymore trouble. but if i knew the kid, i would report the mother. i guess being in a medical field, makes me feel required to do such thing.
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@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
29 Mar 12
Sorry about your past Cherish. I am strict and get mad at my daughter also, but I will never hurt her physically. Kids will listen to you if you just talk to them slowly and explain to them why we are mad.
We tried to ask the mother about what happened to her child but she denied it, so we didn't want to talk to her about after that coz it might create a problem.
@johndur (3052)
• Pasig, Philippines
27 Mar 12
there are different ways to disciple a child but i dont believe that hurting them will help.it will only make a child more shy in school and will have inferiority complex and low self esteem...i think the government or the school should conduct a seminar on how to properly disciple and motivate a child on a regular basis.i have seen one school doing that and i hope all schools will do that.
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@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
28 Mar 12
that's horrible. beating a child is a NO NO for me. i pity the young girl for having experience such. i am a mother too and i will not beat my son juts because of his low grades. instead, i will patiently help him wth his study. beating is not the solution and it just an excuse of what you have just missed out with your child.
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@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
2 Apr 12
Thats just terrible! I hate these kind of things.
The thing I do not understand is as a childcare provider I have to by law report any abuse on any child I watch. Do teachers not have to do this by law? I would get in trouble if I do not report it.
I think the teachers should step in and report it! That poor child is not going to speak up. Especially not against their own mother!
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@thechans (79)
• United States
24 Apr 12
I hope that the teacher or one of the moms reported the mother to child services. It doesn't matter what a child does to misbehave, there should never be bruises and scratches. Even a spanking doesn't leave marks. This mom sounds abusive and to punish a child who doesn't do well on a test with physical pain is wrong. Please make sure someone protects this poor child.
@johndur (3052)
• Pasig, Philippines
27 Mar 12
there are different ways to disciple a child but i dont believe that hurting them will help.it will only make a child more shy in school and will have inferiority complex and low self esteem...i think the government or the school should conduct a seminar on how to properly disciple and motivate a child on a regular basis.i have seen one school doing that and i hope all schools will do that.
@sirnose (2436)
• United States
27 Mar 12
The worse thing a child can have is a unfit parent or parents. I feel sorry for children who have to endure such abuse. An abused child should speak up and ask for help because the abuse won't go away unless something is done. CPS should be contacted to help this dysfunctional family.
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@dianon_ice14 (461)
• Philippines
27 Mar 12
I am really against VIOLENCE specially on poor little children. They are innocent and should be taken care the right way. Beating a child is not a healthy way to discipline but them but instead they are teaching them violence and causing them emotional trauma which they could carry until they got old and have their own kids.
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@honest_efforts100 (1607)
• India
16 Jul 12
First thing, Child abuse is involved, is a serious subject, and should be handled immediately. Make sure you have all the fact’s needed to answer any questions authorities might ask. Contact your local police and inform them of the situation. It might be prudent to inform the teacher or principal of the school as well, since they could also monitor the child’s safety.
