If he's your Ex who mistreated you, why do you want him back??
By success1625
@success1625 (533)
Trinidad And Tobago
March 27, 2012 6:27pm CST
When people break up it's for a reason, and truth be told I think some reasons are just fivolous, in that there's absolutely no reason for the breakup in the first place.
There's a mylotter whose "policy" I like, EX=exit, but I'm perplexed as to why some women go running back to the ex, especially if he's a miscreant who ill treated them during the course of the relationship.
Ok so I'll make allowances for the woman to return to the relationship, if the breakup was an amicable one that could've been avoided, that is to say the relationship wasn't volatile and there was much love in there making it possible for both parties to salvage what they have.
But I won't make allowances for women who desire to return to a man who may have treated them with grave disrespect, or if the relationship was a volatile one (violent).
If the love was so strong and effective in the relationship it would've lasted so why bother to put yourself through the stress that caused the break up in the first place unless you're willing to compromise your initial position.
I just think if it's over, then it should be over don't look back.
I'm just curious as to what drives some women to take a man,who broke their heart to begin with, why would you want to go back to that??
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6 responses
@angelgee14 (462)
• Philippines
28 Mar 12
Oh well, that I do not understand as well.How women accept their ex after being mistreated or in an abusive relationship. I know they have their reason for doing so,and we cannot judge them for doing so.The only thing is,they cry, complain when their partner abusive and hurt them...but still they remain in such a relationship and keep forgiving the one who hurt them....(it's beyond my capacity to understand- I just cannot comprehend why there are women like them)
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
28 Mar 12
i think there are a lot of reasons, but most of it can be attributed to the woman's need to be with the guy she is used to be with by her side for the longest time - of course add a reason that she loves this person and thinks she can no longer go on with out the man she gave up her life to.
@soulist (2985)
• United States
28 Mar 12
There are times when you just simply cannot get the man out of your thoughts, and heart. I have an ex who did hurt me in the past he treated me like a queen until one day he deleted me off of everything and didn't take my calls. I was devastated. When I seen him again he tried to explain things and apologize. I still wanted to be with him, still do, but at the same time I could never trust that what he says is true. I know the situation is different from being abused, but it's still being in a position of having a man breka my heart and still love him. Its hard to forget someone.
@dream_ozn (1754)
• Singapore
28 Mar 12
I am not in this situation and my present bf does not mistreat me. However, my relationship is currently not very smooth sailing. For many months, we have though of breaking but did not in the end because it was just so difficult to do so.
We have been together for more than 5 years now. and in response to your question, i think people go back to their ex even if they mistreat them is because it's too difficult to leave.
It's really difficult to just give someone up after being in love with that person for a long time!
@Kx2sMommy (84)
• United States
27 Mar 12
I'm not sure why women do that, but I can say I had an ex I ran back to several times during our on and off relationship. We have a 2 year old little girl and basically while I was pregnant I kept running back to him every time we broke up. He came back a few times and convinced me to take him back and he was not a nice person. We'd argue, fight, he cheated numerous times and is now married to one of the women he cheated with. I do always live by "once a cheater always a cheater though" that's one I do note vary from... Love is powerful though I can say that and if you're not truly ready to go sometimes the heart tricks the mind into thinking its happy by the emotions of love filling your heart for someone. I've found with my friends and myself that no matter how bad we are treated we always internalize it and basically blame ourselves, had we been better in bed, had we tried harder, had we not argued or fought, been prettier.... All those kept us going back, even if we had been hit we rationalized loving the other person by saying we deserved it.... It took me almost a year to get over my ex but now when I see him to exchange our daughters see we are better off.
@merci322 (29)
• United States
28 Mar 12
I had a problem relationship and boy am I glad I was able to leave. I'm sure people thought I was crazy staying there and I was. The feeling of connection between lovers is what makes people stay. I was attracted to somebody I thought was the most intelligent, creative person I could find. Unfortunately, I should have left about 6 months in when the violence happened. By then, we were living together.
I moved out but they would not let go. People with violent tendencies look for people who they think they can get away with this behavior with. And they are twice as nice after the blow ups so it creates a cycle.
If you love the victim at all, do not give up on them! They deserve to be loved and that is probably the problem in the first place. If you don't feel worthy of healthy love you'll probably never get out it.
