To be with the person that you have baby with or to be with the person you love?
By bulastika
@bulastika (5966)
Philippines
March 28, 2012 3:58am CST
Just wondering. If you are in this scenario. What will you going to choose? You have a boyfriend or a girlfriend and suddenly you two need some space so you break up. then you find a new bf and you get pregnant. Will you going to marry or live with that new bf the father of your child when you realize that you still love your ex? Or when your ex suddenly want you back and accept you even though you already have a baby?
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6 responses
@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
29 Mar 12
very confused situation.
honestly do not know how I received.
maybe it will first be allowed to live with the baby and the other woman.
and when he wants to return will accept it because it is clear that I will still love him because true love takes everything and there are many such cases.
true love is going through many difficulties but eventually survived.
ow like a soap opera heroine.
nice day!...
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
31 Mar 12
Other woman? So you mean your a man?
Anyway that's true about love. But once a person has a child its become a different story. Unless that child will be invisible in your life.
To be honest for me having a child is a blessing in fact I can live without a partner but I can't live without a child.
@jmay1226 (97)
• Philippines
29 Mar 12
If ever that's the scenario then, if the father of my baby loves me more then I'll go with him. In the future I can forget my ex and learn to love my new bf. And aside from that my baby will become fully happy when we are together with his real father. Because a child always looks for his real parents even if how much love and attention he gets from his adopted father. Yes, as of this time I will be hurt by leaving whom I truly love but using my mind over heart as of the moment will surely make me happy. Being in this sample scenario needs a step by step process. Needs to be firm and dedication on whatever decision might be made.
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
31 Mar 12
That's true. Although its pain me every time I remember her telling me that she wish I'm the father. I also thinking that I need to put a distance for now. Its really ironic. Because I'm already accepted by her family and this new bf comes and ruin every thing. I guess half of it is my fault as I'm not ready to be a family man yet and she already want to settle down since she is already in here 30's.
@kat_princess (1470)
• Philippines
28 Mar 12
If my new bf loves me,then I'd stay w/him.In the first place,why did that ex choose to leave me if he really loves me?I don't break up w/o any reason.And it's rare that I start the break up.
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
28 Mar 12
Its mutual split us. Just giving some space. sometimes if you are too close to someone you can't breath. And sometimes we also need to have a vacation. lols. But I guess that what you choose. Beside its not how long you to are together. I see couple been together for ten years only to break up and in less than six months the other one get married.
@mayflowerhorn76 (122)
• Makati, Philippines
29 Mar 12
I will choose the one who truly loves me unconditionally.
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
31 Mar 12
So who? lets say both are. But since the other one is the father of your baby while the other one you spend your 10 years with him. So will you going to return to that ten years man or the man that is the father of your child. This two love you and you love them both two. But in term of weight you love your ex more. So what is your decision?
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
28 Mar 12
What if that man loves you and want to marry you and have a happy family? Will you be happy? Knowing that you love your ex more and knowing that your ex still love you and will accept you along with the child? I guess my issue is just too complicated.
@dianon_ice14 (461)
• Philippines
28 Mar 12
Of course, you need to choose the person that you love! Having a baby is not a reason why you should stick together if obviously you don't love each other anymore.
You can still be a parents even if your [art ways all you need is an open communication and take your own parts for your child.
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
28 Mar 12
I guess one mistake does not be solve with another one I guess. I think its better to follow what we feel. I don't want to spend the rest of my life from a mistake that I made. Its really hard if you are a woman because the responsibility is much greater than you are a man. You can deny that its your child if you are a man but you can't deny that its your child if your a woman.
