What would be the best I can do for a friend with cancer
By shirley2all
@shirley2all (141)
China
March 28, 2012 8:09am CST
Today I got a very very bad news from my good friend who I havn't contacted for a long time.She had cancer at the advanced stage.About half an year ago,we met on QQ and she told me she always felt stomachache even sometimes too painful to fall asleep at night.I asked her to go to see a doctor and a fews days later I called her phone no.but the no.was invalid so I can't contact her.Today,she came on line and then told me this new even the doctor didnt suggest her an operation.At that moment I felt so sad.Until now her parents still didnt know about her disease.I persuaded her to share this news to her parents,even though this is not a good thing to her family but her parent should know.I knew from her these days only two of her friends accompanied her.I felt so helpless.I dont know how to help her.What could I do?
6 responses
@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
29 Mar 12
maybe because she doesn't want her parents to worry about them but they have the right to know. i believe in the power of praying and the more people who will pray for you the better. God has a better plan for her and He will not give her a burden she can't handle. just be there for her and understand her situation. pray for her and talk to her more often.
@gellmichell (11)
•
29 Mar 12
i am very sorry to hear that bad news. but as it happened,I think you need cherish the time that you are together,and try your best to make her happiness and positive to face the disease.if she has the support from the family, she will feel better.but whether tell or not,it is decided by your friend.
@shirley2all (141)
• China
29 Mar 12
As per my understanding, she won't and actually I hope she stay with her family in the last period.I dont want her and her famity regret in the future.
@peavey (16936)
• United States
28 Mar 12
There's nothing you can do to change the situation, but you can be the best friend you know how to be. She might be the kind who needs to talk to someone, or she might be the kind who would rather not talk about it much at all. Whatever she prefers, allow her that. Just be there for her and let her know that you are.
@shirley2all (141)
• China
29 Mar 12
yes I think I should show an postive face to her.It would be better.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
28 Mar 12
You can visit her daily, or buy her gifts.
Is she being treated already? I don't know what treatment is currently available for an advanced stage of cancer. Although I guess she's more lucky than my friend. My friend has a brain tumor. She's also being treated and had to stop school for the treatment.
Is she being treated already? I don't know what treatment is currently available for an advanced stage of cancer. Although I guess she's more lucky than my friend. My friend has a brain tumor. She's also being treated and had to stop school for the treatment.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
28 Mar 12
The only thing you can do is be there if she needs you. Forcing yourself up to her. lecturing her or feel pity for her won't help her (or you).
Just be there in times of need, even if you have no answer, don't know what to say or do.. being there is the most precious thing you can give.
@olliekobra1 (1825)
•
28 Mar 12
its her decision as to if she wants to tell her family or not but you can be there for her, offer to take her out and spend time together to make help cheer up.
