Why do you hate myLotters who don't respond to your comment?
By wittynet
@wittynet (4421)
Philippines
March 28, 2012 8:39am CST
I always wonder why. Well, maybe not all of you, but I have seen so many comments with regard to members especially newbies who are not responding back. I mean, instead of hating them, why don't you understand that there are so many reasons why they can't respond?
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
28 Mar 12
'Hate' is a big word and not really appropriate in this context surely? 
May we use 'dislike' instead?
I do not mind whether others comment back or not but, if they don't, they are losing a huge chance to earn and the chance of a conversation. If I respond it is because the topic interests me and I would like them to comment back to me so that we can exchange ideas on whatever the topic is.
What I don't understand are those who start yet another topic apologising for not commenting on the previous one(s) 
Why start another one in that case? First go and catch up and then start a new one! 
May we use 'dislike' instead?
I do not mind whether others comment back or not but, if they don't, they are losing a huge chance to earn and the chance of a conversation. If I respond it is because the topic interests me and I would like them to comment back to me so that we can exchange ideas on whatever the topic is.
What I don't understand are those who start yet another topic apologising for not commenting on the previous one(s) Why start another one in that case? First go and catch up and then start a new one! @wittynet (4421)
• Philippines
28 Mar 12
Oh! I'm sorry. I was thinking of using dislike, but I changed my mind. Maybe because I remember one member who really hates newbies for not responding. Anyway, it's not you, and you don't hate them, mysdianait.
Maybe because they can no longer read the so many comments that they receive that's why they started another one and promised themselves to read all the comments in the new discussion.
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
28 Mar 12
I rarely use 'hate' but not to worry. Anyone else can use it if they feel that strongly about something 
I make the example of a conversation (which is what a discussion is offline, right? You wouldn't start another conversation while midstream in the first one would you? So why start another topic and make yourself more 'work'? 
I make the example of a conversation (which is what a discussion is offline, right? You wouldn't start another conversation while midstream in the first one would you? So why start another topic and make yourself more 'work'? 3 people like this
@sishy7 (27169)
• Australia
28 Mar 12
I don't hate anyone. I think it's everyone's right to choose whether or not they want to respond. I just feel sorry sometimes if I see newbies receiving several responses to their discussions and do not comment back. I wonder if they realized that they could potentially earn more by commenting back. Perhaps they didn't and got discouraged with the pennies they earned, then left. It's their loss and I certainly don't hate them for that.
@wittynet (4421)
• Philippines
28 Mar 12
Yes. I think they're not aware that the more they type, the more they earn. I, myself, was aware that we need to post discussions. It never occured to me that this kind of discussion is done like chatting in Yahoo Messenger or Facebook. 
The only difference is we're posting quality comments. In YM or FB, we're just posting anything we want to.
The only difference is we're posting quality comments. In YM or FB, we're just posting anything we want to.1 person likes this
@wittynet (4421)
• Philippines
28 Mar 12
Well, maybe. I have a friend who is having a headache everytime he's seeing so many responses. He's asking me if he's really required to respond to all of them. I said yes, but if he'll suffer from so much headache, he can choose not to respond. It's his choice.
@kyle2krystel (2489)
• Japan
28 Mar 12
hi wittynet,
Well I don't "hate" newbies either mylot members who don't respond my discussion because I don't know if what they are doing or I will assume they're busy with their physical life and to those newbies I will assume that they apparently don't know what to do because they have no idea how to mylot. But yea, still we cannot hate those mylotters who do not want to respond to our discussion. Every people is different and that is always to remember that someone might want to go and on and on and so on responding the discussion and someone might be just satisfied enough for the respond she/he did or someone is just lazy or find the discussion not interested enough to catch his attention
. But yea, still we cannot hate those mylotters who do not want to respond to our discussion. Every people is different and that is always to remember that someone might want to go and on and on and so on responding the discussion and someone might be just satisfied enough for the respond she/he did or someone is just lazy or find the discussion not interested enough to catch his attention3 people like this
@kyle2krystel (2489)
• Japan
28 Mar 12
@witty,
I sometimes don't respond to my own discussion too because I am busy and when I am here in front of my computer I dig and dig and dig more discussions here in mylot that interests me. ooppss maybe I am newbie too because I was an active member for 2-3 months 2 years ago then suddenly became inactive because became so very busy and now I am back again and actively addicted again hahaha
@Haripotter, oh thank you:) I am glad that you liked mylot and enjoying mylot site and you are absolutely right mylot is way different from other site. Mylot Rocks:)
@Haripotter, oh thank you:) I am glad that you liked mylot and enjoying mylot site and you are absolutely right mylot is way different from other site. Mylot Rocks:)1 person likes this
@wittynet (4421)
• Philippines
28 Mar 12
I wasn't also responding before. I was a member of one site like myLot. In the said site, we are posting topics or questions, and we just read them and choose the best answer. We seldom thank the members who respond for we learned that it lowers the quality of our post.
I was a member of one site like myLot. In the said site, we are posting topics or questions, and we just read them and choose the best answer. We seldom thank the members who respond for we learned that it lowers the quality of our post.1 person likes this
@sajeevking (5073)
• Mumbai, India
28 Mar 12
well there are very few newbie who do reply back
and the ones who do reply back understand what mylot is all about easily
i don't mind whether they reply back or not because they would certainly be not aware of that when they are new (as no one reads the guidelines)
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@sajeevking (5073)
• Mumbai, India
28 Mar 12
well no if its a old mylotter and know how thing work here i would not
but if new one do that i surely advise them and i do that a lot, many of them ignore it and few of them thanks and starts responding and jumping all over the places
i remember helping 2 or 3 of such mylotter who used to not reply back.
two of them are inactive and one is still going on
i remember helping 2 or 3 of such mylotter who used to not reply back.
two of them are inactive and one is still going on2 people like this
@wittynet (4421)
• Philippines
28 Mar 12
I also did it for few times. I'm usually sending a friend invitation, then if it's accepted, I'll send a message emphasizing that I would just like to help. It feels so good knowing that I was able to help though I also need to learn so many things here. Yes. There are also members who just ignore it.
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@befrindwithme26 (5805)
• Philippines
29 Mar 12
Maybe they don't know that they also need to response,or maybe they forgot it or maybe they are leaving.
Maybe the one who comments just wonder why not comments back,and sometimes they just say i hate it..
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@befrindwithme26 (5805)
• Philippines
29 Mar 12
No reason to hate,because i do sometimes not go back to my post because i am tired,and just leave it.
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@sabado_dc (1001)
• Philippines
28 Mar 12
Because we are here to discuss and not to check if they are still breathing
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@sabado_dc (1001)
• Philippines
28 Mar 12
because we are here to make fun, friends and complete each and every one's company
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
28 Mar 12
Hi there Wittynet,
I don't "HATE" those that don't respond back on their discussions at all. Like Diana said, that is a pretty harsh word. I don't even dislike them. I do find that I don't feel as close to such people and the discussions can get kind of boring because they are not really discussions but rather a question and answer session. Still, I have seen some discussions get quite lively just amongst those that respond even without the OP participating.
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@CaptAlbertWhisker (32507)
• Calgary, Alberta
29 Mar 12
hates have layers though, There is like irritation, annoyance, rage, Its a complex thing with levels. I think all mylotters had been "collectors" at certain point but once they realized how bad it was to be ignored, they clean up their act. I think there is nothing wrong with making hundreds of discussion if they were responsible enough to finish what they started. Its like giving birth to dozens of babies and just leaving them in doors or orphanages.
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@tonyllenium (6252)
• Italy
28 Mar 12
hehe beh i thinkhating them is a little strange or exaggerated don't you?i think i hate nobody here so everyone can judge by themselves what is right for them in different situations on mylot..so if they want answer back ok but if they canìt or wouldn't why they must do it?
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@tonyllenium (6252)
• Italy
29 Mar 12
ah really never experienced a thing like that on mylot so in reality it would strange for me hinking in these terms anyway i hope it was just a misunderstood and an isolated case!!
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@wittynet (4421)
• Philippines
29 Mar 12
It's indeed exaggerated, but there are people who really hate them. I know because I read some posts about this. I also respond to one of them. I told this member that there are so many reasons why some members can't respond back to our comments. She emphasized that we're here to discuss so we need to comment back.
I know because I read some posts about this. I also respond to one of them. I told this member that there are so many reasons why some members can't respond back to our comments. She emphasized that we're here to discuss so we need to comment back.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
29 Mar 12
i also do not like the hate thing here. i also would like to say, we dislike the move. i really do not mind anymore members who do not respond or comment back. we all have our own reasons why we could not "payback" to say so.
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@CaptAlbertWhisker (32507)
• Calgary, Alberta
29 Mar 12
and the number one reason is lazyness, the second reason is greed, the 3rd reason is they were busy,4th reason is they hate the responder, 5th reason is they were not logged in,6th reason, overwhelmed with the number of responses.. some reasons are reasonable,some are not.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
28 Mar 12
I could never go to the extent of saying that I hate mylotters that don't respond to the comments that I make. However, I really don't understand why there are people that start discussions and never come back to the discussions that they've started.
The reason that this drives me nuts is because of the fact that it is called a discussion, not just a forum. In order for a discussion to be effective, there needs to be some conversation between the people that are involved in the discussion.
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@CaptAlbertWhisker (32507)
• Calgary, Alberta
29 Mar 12
since topic starter singled as out,lets discuss this instead. Its easy to understand people's situation but there are people in this place who are intentionally ignoring the people who gave an effort on their discussions cos they dont give a damn, they just want to earn lots of money and thats it,
people cannot be blamed if they were angry for being ignored. there are members here who are like making 10 to 100's of discussions a day, they have time for making hundreds of discussions but have no time to appreciate the effort of people who tried talking to them. This is not a 1 way dance.
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Because they think that they'll earn faster using that strategy.
@angelgee14 (462)
• Philippines
28 Mar 12
I do not mind at all if they comment back or not, it's not my loss anyway. As we know that we earned from our own activity here, so if they do not type or comment back , they won't earn. There is no use hating or disliking them, maybe help them understand how they will earn good while mylotting.
@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
29 Mar 12
I used to explain to them how it works but rarely do so lately as it shows that they did not even take a look at the responds they have received so explanation and help given is useless. They asked for help to understand it but they don't take any action to show that they learned it so I don't give respond to such topic anymore unless if the starter really wanted to learn it.(^^)
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@wittynet (4421)
• Philippines
30 Mar 12
Yes, CTHanum! I agree with you. There are new members who ask for help, then after help is given, you'll not hear anything from them. You don't know if they read your post or not. There are also others who will show their eagerness to learn more about myLot. They will also send you a personal message asking for help.
I agree with you. There are new members who ask for help, then after help is given, you'll not hear anything from them. You don't know if they read your post or not. There are also others who will show their eagerness to learn more about myLot. They will also send you a personal message asking for help.
@averygirl72 (37716)
• Philippines
29 Mar 12
In my response to this discussion, wittynet, when I first join MyLot I see discussions where the one that starts the discussion always responds to the comments. So, I do imitate that, I also respond to every comment, then as I go on I found others are not responding to comments that is why I thought, that is allowed. So, I imitate their style and did not respond to others comments. When I look at those discussions with no comments I found the page neat and not cluttered with too many responses so to make things neat I do not respond to others comment too. Lately, I have realized, that a discussion tends to attract more respond if there is an ongoing interaction. But I completely understand, I don't want to force others to comment on my discussion. I will be happy for that 2 or 3 that respond. Also, not everyone are making good comments right? But that is okay with me, we cannot control the thoughts of the people around us and we cannot control what they like to type on their keyboards.
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@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
29 Mar 12
The first day when I get here I wonder if I can talk and discuss with others like the way we talk offline-means continuously one comment after another and yes, we can do so and that is what I like mylot. Easy to know and asked for long explanation from others when we need that. Not come in just single comment it makes the discussions or interactions between members get live. When I start my discussion automatically I know that I should comment back as that is the first reason why we make discussions right?(^^)
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@wittynet (4421)
• Philippines
30 Mar 12
During my first day, I only received few comments to my question. I was asking about the picture I wanted to add to my discussion. I can't have it uploaded. They gave me some advice, but nothing worked maybe because I was so dumb that time. They gave up for I kept on insisting that I already exhausted all my resources by following their advice but all failed. Maybe they got irritated that's why they stopped responding.
They gave up for I kept on insisting that I already exhausted all my resources by following their advice but all failed. Maybe they got irritated that's why they stopped responding.@wittynet (4421)
• Philippines
29 Mar 12
Hello, averygirl72! That's exactly what I thought before. I told myself, "Why is myLot like this? It seems they're not serious in dealing with every topic because they're chatting like what they're doing in Yahoo Messenger."
I was also not responding before because I thought this is the same with the first site where I also post discussions. Most of the time, we allow members to respond for one day or two, read all of them, and choose the best response. That's the only time that we'll add our comment. That comment is usually a summary of everything that we want to say to all members who responded.
That's exactly what I thought before. I told myself, "Why is myLot like this? It seems they're not serious in dealing with every topic because they're chatting like what they're doing in Yahoo Messenger."
I was also not responding before because I thought this is the same with the first site where I also post discussions. Most of the time, we allow members to respond for one day or two, read all of them, and choose the best response. That's the only time that we'll add our comment. That comment is usually a summary of everything that we want to say to all members who responded. 
@factorial (977)
• Philippines
28 Mar 12
Yes, as for reasons, they might have a thousand and one reasons why they could not respond right away. (For those who are just learning English... respond is a verb; response is a noun). I think English is one of the native tongues of Wittynet.
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
28 Mar 12
"and never plan to respond after right away."
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@wittynet (4421)
• Philippines
28 Mar 12
You're very good in nouns and verbs. You're incomparable. Incomparable is an adjective, compare is a verb, and comparing is a noun.
Yes. They have thousand and one reasons ... could not respond right away ... and never plan to respond after right away.
Yes. They have thousand and one reasons ... could not respond right away ... and never plan to respond after right away. 1 person likes this
@blazingdragon99 (12)
• Qatar
29 Mar 12
hi i am new here.but i wouldn't ignore a post. and i couldnt respond to all of 'em either..right?
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@wittynet (4421)
• Philippines
29 Mar 12
Hello, blazingdragon99! Welcome to myLot! Yes. You have the right to. But of course, it's always better to respond to comments. This is to the comments to the discussion that you posted. Members who respond to your discussion are expecting that you'll respond back because it's a discussion.
Welcome to myLot! Yes. You have the right to. But of course, it's always better to respond to comments. This is to the comments to the discussion that you posted. Members who respond to your discussion are expecting that you'll respond back because it's a discussion.@blazingdragon99 (12)
• Qatar
31 Mar 12
ys ofcourse!!..discussion remains as it is only when people answer our comments. i agree with it..i dont think its a q&a or answer me website..=P
@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
29 Mar 12
i don't. who does? i mean it is not my loss if they do not respond, i earn from what i give, if they do not give..then it is fine.. the thing is, there is no point in hating as well... it is a waste of time to hate someone for such a small thing. Hate is too harsh, 
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@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
29 Mar 12
Yes because i too sometimes cannot really respond as i do this on breaks from the office and sometimes there is just too much work that i cannot even log in to mylot
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@earningmember (914)
• Canada
29 Mar 12
Surely I can them! Hating is strong in the context!
Actually, since newbies are new, it important to let familiarize with mylot!
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@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
29 Mar 12
just so.
I've seen plenty of such discussion makes and leaves began to make new and it is unrealistic.
but a friend I hope some day to learn that it is unrealistic.
I do not hate them rather annoy them because when you write ochekvash respond rather than look no topic at all and just wait how much money you have on the other day that has gone mad and irritating.
very good discussion.
nice day!...
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@wittynet (4421)
• Philippines
29 Mar 12
Yes. It always happens, nezavisima. You're one of those who always responds to the discussions you post. That's why few weeks ago, I wondered why you're no longer responding. I learned from one of your posts that you were so busy. Now you're back and is active again. 
You're one of those who always responds to the discussions you post. That's why few weeks ago, I wondered why you're no longer responding. I learned from one of your posts that you were so busy. Now you're back and is active again. 
@jkct02 (2874)
• Kota Kinabalu, Malaysia
28 Mar 12
Frankly I am annoyed with people who are not responding to comments in a discussion that they started. Maybe they have a different understanding regarding what actually is a discussion. Or maybe they really do have many reasons why they can't reply. But a lot of them would always start another discussion on another topic. No, I don't hate them. I am just annoyed.
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@wittynet (4421)
• Philippines
28 Mar 12
Yes. That's their style I think. Others will post so many discussions, and then respond the following day. Sad to say, others no longer come back to those discussions. Maybe because they can no longer read all the comments, so they prefer not to answer anymore. 
@jkct02 (2874)
• Kota Kinabalu, Malaysia
29 Mar 12
It is okay when do they like to respond back to their own discussions. The point is that the discussion starters should get involved in their own discussions. Why do they want to start a discussion in the first place? Okay the goal may be to earn some money but doesn't myLot also pay for responses to comments? As for having no time to respond, some will keep starting new discussions one after another. Perhaps myLot should have a new category called "Posting" in which members post their opinions without expecting responses from other members. Maybe a "Like" and "Don't like" button for other members to show a simple response.
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@wittynet (4421)
• Philippines
29 Mar 12
Hello, ecaron. Yes. It's a strong word, but that's what I found in some posts. You are correct! All of us have reasons why we don't respond on time or we never plan to respond.
Yes, Hatley. No one in his right mind will pay us for the work of others.
Yes. It's a strong word, but that's what I found in some posts. You are correct! All of us have reasons why we don't respond on time or we never plan to respond.
Yes, Hatley. No one in his right mind will pay us for the work of others. 