words of advice from a father to a daughter on her first period
By nicanorr
@nicanorr (1789)
Philippines
March 28, 2012 7:27pm CST
I believe teaching or counseling things about menstruation in particular isn't the sole responsibility of experts, teachers and mothers. Fathers, too, should possess ample knowledge and skills what to teach their daughters about menstruation, especially their first period. Do you agree? Whether you are in favor or not about this issue, please post your comment.
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7 responses
@infatuatedbby (94921)
• United States
29 Mar 12
At my Elementary school, in the 5th grade they had a meeting for girls and spoke about periods, gave us samples, taught us how to wear pads and for tampons it was optional (and up to the parents but they didn't show us how just talked about it) and that is how I learned about my period. My parents didn't teach me or inform me of everything as I was prepared but I had an older sister and went to her my very first time.
I think being a father you should be supportive. Don't say anything that would upset her, if she's on her period - let it be, don't question her every second she may be moody.
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@offkey (313)
• United States
29 Mar 12
I hate when men mostly say that your acting a certain way because your PMSing, I hate that some women use this to their advantage just a reason to be a bit¢h, I tell my husband what kind of mood would you be in, If felt like Edward sicsor hands was going you a pap. I also learned In 5th grade about the changing body.
@free_man (7330)
• United States
29 Mar 12
Hi Nicanorr and welcome to my lot. I think that dads should also teach their daughters about menstruation. I wasn't taught by my mother or dad. I didn't know what it was till it happened. It is funny now but I woke up in a puddle and started screaming I didn't know anything about it I thought I was dying. My sister is the one that taught me what it was.
@offkey (313)
• United States
29 Mar 12
Why should it be embarrassing? Ideas llike that make it uncomfortable, it's a natural thing and it would help I'd the daughter knows that her dad cares for her. My brother acts completly aloof about things with his daughter, has issues with even discussing periods, frankly it's annoying an immature, she had to ask me to buy her the things she needed since her dad refused to even listen to her.
@peavey (16936)
• United States
29 Mar 12
As I said, there needs to be some sense of what's proper and what is not. In today's "anything goes" world, I can understand where you're coming from, but there really are things that are best left to mothers. Something like this should be special between a mother and her daughter, just like some things should be special between a father and his son. Nothing is special any more and that's sad.
@offkey (313)
• United States
29 Mar 12
Getting your period isn't special, it sucks. He just wants to be there for his daughter, and let her know that it's normal and she can talk to him anytime she needs too. Some mothers won't even talk about it, they just will let the school nurse take care of it, I know some girls that were clueless and thought they were going to die. I mean I had the stupid menstration class in 5th grade, they didn't mention a few things that I would have liked to be ready for, ie menstral cramps, menstral migraines, no one else in my family had them so I didnt know what was going on. Sure there should be special things between mom/daughter father/son, but going through puberty is something that everyone does, and shouldnt be a taboo topic.
There is a lot of special things, still my husband and I go out on dates every Thursday, we have for years and will continue to do so, that's special to us. His parents have been married 48 years they go to the movies all the time, they say it keeps the romance alive. Special things don't just happen you have to make them happen.
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@offkey (313)
• United States
29 Mar 12
There are website that can help, beinggirl.com can answer a lot of questions you might have, or she might have It really is a great site, I still use it from time to time, they often have free samples too. Don't be scared, also some girls do feel weird talking to their father about it, it I think it stems from not wanting to grow up, still wanting to be your little girl, just reassure her that you'll always be there for her no matter what.
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@Lhenni (1242)
• Philippines
29 Mar 12
My husband don't have anything to share to our daughter *LOL. Glad I'm here to explain further the changes, the do's and don'ts to my daughter when she got her first period.
Well, she had knowledge having such because it was first learned at school. I just do some "personal touchings".
Hmmm, I think, it can be properly do, the advice in a females point of view. The father's can advice only about the girl-boy relationship, but not the concept of teh "period".
That's my opinion...
@offkey (313)
• United States
30 Mar 12
I was fine talking to my step-dad about it, it's something that happens to all female mammals, one shouldn't be ashamed about it. I'm fine talking to anyone about it, most women are more comfortable with a male gynecologist then a female one so.... If a girls father wont talk to their daughter about it a girl can become uncomfortable talking about it to her future husband.
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@MATT69AC (333)
• United States
29 Mar 12
Personally I don't think it is a big deal. I don't have any kids but when I do that talk will come and I think that when it does me and my wife will talk to our daughter together, I think it is important to know whats going on with them and their lives. For me it wouldn't be awkward or embarrassing. But on the contrary it may be for my daughter but I know that she will be able to handle those feelings.
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@AmericanNotes (82)
• United States
29 Mar 12
Wow, i think it is near impossible for a man to pinpoint exactly what needs to be said about menstruation to his daughter brings too much into the conversation, if the young daughter is that comfortable that's pretty amazing, appreciate the bond i guess?
