Baby proofing a marriage?
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
United States
April 5, 2012 6:07pm CST
I read this as an book title and thought Wow! That is a great idea and a good question for my fellow MyLotters. So Parents, did you have to baby proof your relationship? what did you Have to change when baby came home?
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@sierranicole24 (71)
• United States
5 Apr 12
Well our social lives definitely changed. Now I spend all of my time home with the baby and cooking for my husband. Because I have not yet finished college I had to take a semester, possibly two, off and my husband works almost 12 hour days. We now have to spend a little bit more time apart so we can afford having a baby. Some people are telling us that we are not yet ready for this kind of responsibility but we are definitely up for the challenge. We love our baby girl so much and can't imagine our lives without her. If anything, this experience has made our relationship stronger.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
6 Apr 12
It isn't up to others when you have a baby! As long as you and Hubby are happy , That is all that matters! Take Care.
@JJ4Ever (4693)
• United States
16 Apr 12
That's a great title for a book and interesting topic for a discussion! Since my hubby and I don't have kids yet, I'll have to revisit this discussion once the day comes to give you an honest response.
However, I have to tell you something funny...last night while we were watching TV, my hubby had one of our dogs in his lap. She likes to snuggle because we brought her up that way from when she was a puppy. Now she's almost 30 lbs. and still thinks she's a lap dog! (Even our 40 lb. lab mix thinks she's a lap dog sometimes!) Anyway, he said he can't wait to have a little baby snuggled in his lap instead of the dog. I told him he should be careful what he wishes for because the baby will not be half as quiet as the dog! LOL!!
I think children will be a big adjustment and one I'm not ready for right now...but maybe someday! I noticed your comment above on the first response too. We need to figure out for ourselves if the change children bring will be worth starting a family.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
16 Apr 12
I think you two will be ok. Why? You already love and like each other.Meaning you will make the adjustments. Suggestion. Keep Date night. I mean once a week , get a sitter and just go out just the two of you. Reconnect. One key rule. You can't talk about Baby Or Work! my honorary sister keeps date night and she has a 15 month old! You can do it, when you are ready!
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@JJ4Ever (4693)
• United States
17 Apr 12
Thanks for the encouragement, Sarah. That means the world to me! I think my hubby and me are capable of anything when we put our minds to it. Yes, it's so true to remember date night! We struggle doing that even now without the distractions of children!! We do make a point several nights per week to sit down with dinner and a good movie. (You know how I love my movies lol!) That's fantastic that your sister keeps her date night with hubby. I have to admit that I break one of the rules frequently on our "dates," and that's talking about work. I need to stop that because that makes work my life, and that's not how it is at all. We must keep this tradition after children. Thanks again for the encouragement and suggestions!
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
13 May 12
Here in America, there are many couples who marry and Never have kids By choice. I have a friend who will Never have kids and yet she is happily married . Her hubby and she decided Never to have kids. She never wanted kids but she wanted to marry. Why baby proof? A happy couple can be torn apart if one parent puts the child first. The cliche is when a wife becomes mother and shuts out her hubby, the hubby may cheat. Baby proofing means they make sure they are still a couple While they become parents. Many couples need it or there will be a distance.
