what do you do when your husband stops believing?

@birdie816 (1276)
United States
April 8, 2012 11:02am CST
me and my husband used to practically live at my church as i stated in a previous post, but recent;y he has stopped caring and even told me that he no longer believes. it is really awkward now to talk about religion. i feel a major disconnection between us but i try not to judge him. i do not want to ry to force him to believe because that is not possible anyway...but i wish i knew how to handle this situation.
4 responses
@peavey (16936)
• United States
9 Apr 12
Probably the best way is to just pray for him. God knows what he might be going through and why he says he stopped believing. Pray for yourself, too, that you might help to win him back by your Christian walk. Be prepared to give up more of yourself so that God can work with him.
@peavey (16936)
• United States
5 May 12
You know, you can talk to God about your depression and troubles. He wants to hear from you.
@soulist (2985)
• United States
12 Apr 12
Peavey has a great idea. Pray for him because only God knows what is going on in his heart even if he has walked away. Pray for him and his guidance and pray for yourself, wisdom to know what to say to him and encourage our husband. Prayer does wonders.
@birdie816 (1276)
• United States
5 May 12
i agree with both of you. i have to admit that i don't pray very much anymore. not because i don't believe that God hears me, but because of my own shame or depression. i don't really want to do anything some days. and about being an example, i know i have not been acting like a Christian. me and my husband argue alot and i do not represent Christ with my actions or words during these arguments. he probably does not know what to think
• India
23 Jul 12
When you have shared a faith with someone for so long and they suddenly change, it can be disheartening. We all have doubts at times but with time our faith is affirmed and we go back to our beliefs even stronger than we were. All you can do is pray and not change your attitude towards him. Do what you can do and let God do what you can’t do.
@birdie816 (1276)
• United States
17 Aug 12
yeah i have been doing that since he told me this. and so far things have been getting better. we share some reliegious views (though he says he is non-religious, he still believes in God).
@lampar (7584)
• United States
8 Apr 12
Your husband may have found a new level of comfort by not believing in a religion, he is by no means turn into a bad person in any way, he realized that not believing in a religion establishment is not the same as not believe in God, he has achieved certain enlightenment in his life so to speak... There is nothing to worry about him, and he can still be a good and caring husband to you and a marvelous human being in this later part of his life. It is not right to judge him base solely on his reluntant to go to the same old church he attended in his earlier life, it is also wrong to think those who refuse to believe in the same old religion establishment's twisted doctrine as against God teaching. Until you begin to accept these are actually mutually exclusive event, you willl know how to deal with it in due time and can seek out viable solution personally.
@birdie816 (1276)
• United States
5 May 12
well that is the problem. he is not the same person anymore. i really would not have a problem so much with us having different religious views, but he has changed significantly since he stopped believing. i have tried my best not to push him into anything. i rarely even bring up anything dealing with religion around him. he (oddly enough) is the one bringing these sorts of things up...anyway i feel like i honestly do not know him anymore. he basically acts like he has no morals anymore and says or does alot of things out of line that are really disrespectful to me. i am thinking of leaving him
@Christoph56 (1504)
• Canada
8 Apr 12
Maybe you should think about what he says, and what he's thinking about. Coming to a direction of not believing isn't something that just strikes you, it's something that you really have to think about, and consider possibilities. Maybe he's onto something?
@birdie816 (1276)
• United States
8 Apr 12
well i do believe that certain things he says make sense. for example, he says it is hard to deal with hypocrites that are within religions so he chose not to believe any of them. but i always say to him that he doesn't have to be a hypocrite like other people...