Do women like it when the man takes control in bed ?

@vertu007 (683)
Romania
April 10, 2012 6:03am CST
I've heard of this a few days ago when a discussion between 2 girls made it's way to my ears. I wasn't eavesdropping or something, and even if I were I wouldn't have a problem with it because they were talking at a line inside the bank so I guess it wasn't a really private conversation. I talked to some of my friends after that(female) and usually they said that they like the man to step up but if they do what they like and other stuff that kind of made the stepping up useless if they didn't know what the girl wanted. In which case in my opinion is not really taking control because the would have to do what the girls likes. I'm not talking about disgusting stuff or anything that they would not agree, I'm talking about positions, deciding when it's time to change the pose to bring a piece of clothing in the game and things like that. So, where do the ladies stand on this one ? Do you like it when the man takes control in bed ?
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@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
11 Apr 12
My personal preference would be a balance between both. It's stimulating when your man leads you on, but if your not in the mood, you wouldn't want to be forced to it. And, I don't like the feeling of being told what to do, especially if I'm on to something else.
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@Extourmed (191)
• Bulgaria
10 Apr 12
I'm a guy and I like it when a girl takes control of the action, but of course not full control. I think that's human act that needs two and that means the control should be mutual maybe one of the two's gonna step more further, but that doesn't matter.Happy Mylotting.
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@maezee (42246)
• United States
10 Apr 12
I like that. That's what I prefer. But of course we are all different & have different tastes and styles. I know some gals who like to be the ones on top (figuratively and literally). Depends on the person. Happy MyLotting!
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@soulist (2985)
• United States
12 Apr 12
I love it when a guy takes control in the bedroom as well. There is something amazing when he takes control. But like you said I know some girls who like having control and some guys who like to be controlled.
@abby1221 (71)
11 Apr 12
I definitely like it when my bf takes control in bed.. however usually it's the other way around. I'm a pretty aggressive person so it takes a lot of control/force/power to make me be the submissive one.
• Ireland
10 Apr 12
I'm a girl who likes a man to take control in the bedroom, but at the same time, I like being given, or rather taking control myself sometimes. Everyone is different I guess, but for me, either way, once I'm getting some, I'm happy out
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@toniganzon (69026)
• Philippines
10 Apr 12
I never really thought of who takes control. I think nobody does. In my case i'd like my man to initiate and i'll just follow. There are days when i want to be more aggressive but that rarely happens.
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@t_zhanji (11)
11 Apr 12
I think it depends on what kind of women, some may want tha man to take control
• China
12 Apr 12
yeah ,i agree with you ,it depends on what kind of women ,sombody want the man to take control in the bed,and others don't think so . the former devided into two parts,somebady want to tell his partner,but others don't want to tell his partner. i think so,but i am a male,and i also to know how female think
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
23 Jul 12
Umh, with me, who takes control in bed..is ok also..as long as both are happy and enjoy it...
@velentina (892)
• Mauritius
23 Jul 12
I think man are more domineering on bed. It suits them to take control on bed. However women do have a say. AS women are shy, they prefer to obey their man. So for me it would be better both have their say according to their liking. As both has to please each other so why just the man or just the woman have to take control. Love is between the two so both must have a say.
• India
20 Jul 12
I am a man so I am not really sure what a lady would feel like in this situation. But from my perspective, I like it when a lady takes control in bed and plays it for me to follow. It shows that both the parties are having fun and enjoying the whole thing especially considering that it’s the man who took the first step in approaching the lady.
@else22 (4317)
• India
13 Jul 12
Generally women or most of them love to be controlled in bed by their bed partners.Being submissive is the nature of most women.They like to be dominated by their husbands or boyfriends.I asked the same question to my wife and she replied that she likes me to dominate her in bed.I do accordingly.I smilingly make her lie on bed,stretch her thighs and lead me to enter her.And then I don't leave her unless and until I see she's extremely tired or has something else to do.
• Philippines
20 Apr 12
I prefer the guy to be in control. We all have our own preferences. I don't really mind the position and I want it him to be the one deciding.
16 Apr 12
I'd like him to take control and at the same time, know when he notices I should take control sometimes but I'd rather make him do it most. hehe that'd be hot
@soulist (2985)
• United States
12 Apr 12
I actually prefer when my boyfriend takes control in the bed room and sometimes it's more of a turn on. But there are times when I get in the right mood to take control and seduce him.
@djbtol (5496)
• United States
11 Apr 12
There are lots of different flavors that men and women enjoy. Some women always want the man to take charge, others prefer to have it both ways. There is also a big difference between a man who is inexperienced and one who is an experienced lover. A man with adequate experience can take total control and have the woman seeking happy songs for a week after. Yes!