How should I deal with my neighbors who are constantly getting it on, loudly?

Chatsworth, California
April 10, 2012 11:21pm CST
My neighbors are "getting it on" very frequently, like several times a day. Which doesn't bother me I don't care what they do. What does bother me is knowing they're doing it. I do not need nor want to hear this at all, especially not five times a day. I'm not sure which house they are in so I can't write a note. I'm looking to see which house it is. Everytime I go outside to find them they shut up (I don't look often or else I would have probably found them already. I'm really tempted to yell "Shut the f... up, and I mean it litterally!" But I don't think that would be a good idea (I don't know, maybe it would.) And I think calling the cops would be a little to extreme. Is there anything I can do that might work? What woukd you do?
10 responses
@much2say (53699)
• Los Angeles, California
11 Apr 12
Hee hee - we had a couple like that downstairs from our old apartment. Our walls were thin - and even with the windows closed, we could hear them getting it on - particularly the woman. That girl would just scream and yell oh gawd at the top of her lungs . . . um, I guess one could be glad she was happy but we sure weren't. It was so weird because I know the parents also lived downstairs in that 2 bedroom apartment . . . surely THEY were hearing it too (unless they weren't home or something). Well, we tolerated it - but in our case - we moved to another apartment in the complex eventually - not because of them - but at least we didn't have to hear them anymore.
• Chatsworth, California
13 Apr 12
Sometimes it sounds like a homicide.
@much2say (53699)
• Los Angeles, California
13 Apr 12
Ha ha - seriously, eh? I hated it . . . then I'd get visions in my head about it - just ew ew ew!!! I was reading in another discussion saying that their other neighbors recorded their "loud" neighbors . . . and they played the recording real loud so those neighbors could hear themselves - ha ha. But that discussion was about "is that legal". Hey, so maybe try that - ha ha!
@jonnifc (1017)
• Philippines
11 Apr 12
Oh that's just nasty! If I were you, I would make my own "investigation" so I could find out which neighbor it was. Then give the note telling them that maybe they would want to put some music on to mask their own sounds. And maybe do it on the floor so the bed won't go banging on the wall and making even more awkward noise. I hope all goes well with you!
• Chatsworth, California
11 Apr 12
Lol I could make a list of positions that don't make noise. Maybe she could scream in a jar.
@jonnifc (1017)
• Philippines
13 Apr 12
She screams?! Oh you can include that list of positions on your note to them.
• India
11 Apr 12
Discuss it with your neighbours , find them and talk to them politely. Just make them understand about the situation. I think that would do it. Oh well if they say they cant reduce volume while doing then you can tell them to make the room sound proof and do it without caring about others so no one has any problem...... :).... it is possible right....
• Chatsworth, California
13 Apr 12
A note may be better. Talking to them I'm sure wont work. I know it's hard to keep it down (wow, really bad choice of words) but they arn't even trying. At least it sounds like they're not.
@ecaron (678)
• Canada
11 Apr 12
They must be new lovers or newly weds to do it that often! I am not sure what you can do. Perhaps, if you find out where they live, you could politely tell them that they are loud and disturbing you.
• Chatsworth, California
12 Apr 12
I'm starting to think they are filming x rated movies there.
@atwilson (540)
• Indonesia
13 Apr 12
haha.. it is weird. just ask them, say by your passion.. hehe
• Chatsworth, California
13 Apr 12
By my passion?
• Guangzhou, China
11 Apr 12
HI, In my oppion, If your neighbors don't care! We needn't keep any friends to them! Just call the police who will help you reslove it.
• Chatsworth, California
12 Apr 12
That seems a bit extreme.
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
11 Apr 12
What do you mean by getting it on loudly? I was literally thinking intimacy... Guess I need to clean my mind a bit... I would probably check with my immediate neighbors to see if they hear it too... Maybe discuss with them and see if they would have a solution... In my country, they do have a town council and a committee for this kind of matter... At least the police is not disturb for this kind of small matter. The committee will try to investigate where or which it comes from... Then after that try to resolve the issue.
• Chatsworth, California
11 Apr 12
We don't have town meetings in my part of LA. Though perhaps we should.
• Chennai, India
11 Apr 12
Repeat it to them. It works, most of the time. (It may be uncomfortable for you for some time, but it helps to make them understand what they were doing.) I had a little different issue. One neighbor used to return home in the late night, and used to blow the horn annoyingly. (He did it to wake up his wife & open the gate, and he was doing it unintentionally.) One day, I shouted "id*ot" from the dark, and he realized what he was doing. Sometimes, we have to make them understand, if they were doing unintentionally. If they're doing intentionally, that deserves a police call. (In my country, Police don't pay attention to such nuisance. They'll attend when there is a crime, not any nuisance.)
• Chatsworth, California
11 Apr 12
Wouldn't that be awesome?! However I don't want to disturb my neighbors too. Plus I don't think they would get the message. I think they know and they just don't care. However you're right about this issue not really needing a police call.
@Lisona (177)
11 Apr 12
I remember when I first moved into my first flat my neighbour up the stairs from me was doing the same kind of naughty hahaha, it's definatley is annoying. I used to bang a broom handle on the ceilling just to remind them that they can be heard. As I was coming out my door to go to work one morning I saw him collecting his milk , so then I kindly asked him to try and keep the noise down late at night as I have work in the morning, ever scince then not a sound came from his flat. Maybe they don't realize they are loud just takes a kind word to point it out to them. if it carries on and drives you insane call authorities, council or police. If they are the type of neighbours you can't confront as they may get aggressive. Don't put your self in danger.
• Chatsworth, California
11 Apr 12
I'm pretty sure they know they're being loud and they just don't care. Maybe they don't know how loud but I'm pretty certian they are aware of themselvves being heard.
@abby1221 (71)
11 Apr 12
Ooh..that's definitely an awkward situation for you to be in..and very annoying, I'm sure. I would say that when it happens maybe you could loudly play some music and see if they either get the hint or it spoils their mood for the time being lol. But definitely keep trying to find the source so you can direct a nicely worded note. Most important whether you talk to them in person or write a note though is to be polite and friendly...if you take a tone with them or seem disrespectful, then they'll probably just write you off and not want to stop annoying you. Let's hope this is just the "honeymoon phase" and they grow out of it! hehe ;)
• Chatsworth, California
11 Apr 12
Hopefully. Which means 10 yrs from now I'll only have to hear it twice a year.