How do You Say No to Someone You Love?

i think it's the same for most of us. it's very difficult to say no to our loved ones. i find it hard to say no to my parents as i feel that they've worked most of their life to ensure that i can go to school. i generally do not say no to their parents. that's because they are great parents even until now. they know how much i earn and my expenses for home. so they rarely ask for things that are expensive. when they ask for things, it's usually things like having lunch together or accompanying them to the doctor. mostly it'd be just helping them with little chores that their failing eyesight or strength does not allow them to do anymore. these are things that i can well afford so i don't really have to say no to them. i am thankful i have really understanding parents.

I used to have a hard time saying no to my loved ones as well. I used to end up full of guilt when I do. But later on I realized if I always yield into their will, I might end up always in a situation where I am forced to make dramatic adjustments which I find sometimes uncomfortable. and I just got fed up with the situation. No, I did not harbor a hard heart, it's just that I realized that saying no to my loved ones does not mean I love them less. In your situation, I understand that it can be pretty heart breaking if you are not able to give what they want. But at the end of the day, if you and your wife are able to save money with a disciplined budgeting, there will be a big possibilities that if there's enough savings, you will be able to finally get your kids what they want, and even more. I guess it will all boils down into taking little sacrifices at first, because eventually, you will be able to afford all the things that your kids wanted.

My husband had a hard time saying no to his daughter, and she ended up taking major advantage of him. What I suggested was that he tell her what paying for the item would cost HIM!!! For example "I could buy that, but then I won't be able t afford to pay my phone bill." It's not to purposely guilt her out of things, but to simply show her WHY he can't always be the one she goes to for money.

Hello there, I understand how you feel and it is difficult to say No to your loved ones. Unfortunately, in this real world with the economize downturn, many people are struggling and have to make the ends meet. So when the situation comes, you have to say No to your them. I believe they will understand if they love you too. Alternatively, you can find the way to keep everyone happy/impressed. The trick is buying gifts/presents in the sale season and save them for the special day.

Have just checked your country and notice you live in Canada. There must be lots of things you can do in Canada which either are free, or cost very, very little and you have all that beautiful countryside which can be explored.

I think we have to learn how to say no otherwise these people come to expect us to keep buying them things, but it isn't an easy thing to do. Not feeling bad about saying no is even harder. Whenever anyone wants something from you, could you maybe ask them to compromise...firstly by explaining that you simply can't afford to keep on buying things, but offer them another kind of treat instead, say one that doesn't cost anything such as a picnic or anything really that doesn't cost anything? I'm not sure what country you live in so am uncertain as to what you can do that would be free of charge.

I have quite a large problem at the moment saying no to the man I love. The truth is that he isn't very good with money. I have a good job, and he is always thinking of ways in which we should be spending the money that I have earned. I don't mind sharing things with him, but he never puts anything towards it and he doesn't mean to be selfish but the truth is that he is being selfish by never contributing to anything that I choose to do with my money. He is always suggesting places to go on holiday and I have to tell him no until he can contribute a fair amount to it.

It is really hard to say no especally to your kids. But as a single mom it is very hard to manage my finances and to allow everything that he wants. Which is very ipossible for a simple employee. Is heart breaking every time I say no.

Sometimes even it is quite painful to see our children not getting what they asked us to buy for them, it is a good thing that we are able to explain situation as to let them realize the value of spending for the right reasons. Feeling bad about it surely against feeling good about them learning things would not equate as the latter surpasses the former.

I find it very hard to say no to my boyfriend. It makes me feel terrible when I have to tell him no to something because then later on I regret saying it, especially since he's leaving for the army soon. So now if he asks to go do stuff or if he asks me to scratch his hair or back, I can't help but say yes because I know that I'll regret all those times saying no once he's away. I don't mind buying him stuff or going out to restaurants a lot because I know this summer I'll work all the time and I'll be able to save my money

Well, you can't feel good saying no to a little child, but the circumstances required it. You know, someday when I have kids hopefully, even if I was the richest guy on the planet I would never buy them everything they want, because I am going to spoil them. I want my kids to know the value of the money and how hard is to earn money this days. My parents didn't buy me everything too. When I was 10 years old i didn't ask them "mom dad, buy me this ", I asked them do they have the redundant money for buying me a toy or a game or whatever. All I'm saying is that you're doing the right thing by explaining to your kids why you aren't able to buy them whatever they want, because when you talk to them, explaining the situation, I'm hundred percent sure that they would understand you and your life, and more than that, they would be teach a very good lesson, about the value of the money and how hard it is to earn them, especially when you have a family to take care for and kids to feed. I hope my comment was helpful. I wish you the best.

Yes I do understand you and I can feel what you are feeling when you said no to them but I am sure they will understand you because they love you and care about you as well so there is time for that when buying what kids like not now but maybe soon.

It's good to know that your kids won't bug you if you say no to them. When I was a kid, I cry until we reach home if don't get what I want. Sometimes my aunt won't let me go with her anymore coz if I see something (a toy specifically), I won't stop crying until I get it. I know my aunt feel bad about it but because we are not rich, I can't get what I always want. Now that I'm an adult, it feels like my heart is being crushed when I say no to someone who needs my help or when my boyfriend's little sister wants to have a new toy. But I don't have a choice but to say no since I don't have that much money to offer.. All I'm just praying is that they will understand my situation too.

well sometimes its for the you to say no, because not everybody is perfect n they must be taught some how, n if you love them you would teach em whats wrong n right. Less stress on you too.