Trying to stay postive
By tammymarie37
@tammymarie37 (260)
United States
April 14, 2012 6:50pm CST
I sometimes wonder if I will ever get a break. Normally I am an very postive, optmistic person, but the way things have been going in my life lately its getting very hard to stay postive. I would say not even 2 years ago things where go fairly well. I was living with my parents at the time bc I was divorced from my husband and had a decent paying job. I was seeing my current husband and was actually happy in my life. Then the unexpected happened, I fell and hurt my back at work. Slipped two disks and found out I have degenerative diease. I went through almost 2 years of therapy to try and fix my back.. but nothing worked. So the only thing I had left to do was settle with workmans comp because they didn't want approve surgery.
Now I am limited to what work I can do and still in pain. My husband has been looking for a job for the past month, but even though jobs are not scarce here everybody keeps overlooking him for some reason. We just bought a trailer with my settlement money and now trying to figure out how to pay the bills. Its very frustrating and taking a toll on me. I am trying to stay upbeat and postive, but its get very hard. I look at some of my friends and think "wow they seemed to have it easy" and sometimes get jealous of that. I know I shouldn't feel that way, because although I am struggling I do have alot in my life to be grateful for. Well I guess the saying stays true. "It gets worse before it gets better". Anybody can relate?
7 responses
@shynepapin101 (1879)
• United Arab Emirates
16 Apr 12
Am in a similar position, am a graduate without a job, still staying with my parents, who are retired and finding it to keep up with the level of life they used to live, things are getting bad and I am getting more frustrated because being without a job makes it hard to even provide for myself and help support my parents and my sister, even maintaining a relationship gets to difficult because people know see me as being an individual without prospects or responsible.
I thought all I deserved from my parents was education and now they have helped provide that but here I am in my early 30s and still staying with them, quite a sad feeling that take words out of my mouth and made me someone who would beg other people for a can drink whenever they are having some fun time, very shameful and pitiful, am so confused and don't know when this wait for a job or some interventional funds would come to me for achieving my purpose of getting to the U.S for a masters degree.
Am not lazy am a hardworker and looking for some inspiration that can help me get to where I want to be in life, I have not lost hope yet, so I encourage you not to loose hope but believe in your husband, there will soon be a breakthrough for you and your family, GOD sees our struggles and answers when it's time.
@tammymarie37 (260)
• United States
16 Apr 12
shynepapin,I am sorry to hear about your situation. I guess it goes to show that even with an college education nowdays doesn't insure you a job. It sad spending all that money with dreams of landing a good job and its just as hard finding one.
I also wish you luck because the one thing that we both got to hold onto is faith that things will work out.
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
15 Apr 12
I know, there are some days where everything goes wrong and it looks really desperate. I've been through phases like that. It may be weird, but I kind of feel that if I think really positively from the heart, positive things are going to happen to me... so I usually try to convince myself to go on.
@tammymarie37 (260)
• United States
16 Apr 12
My husband always tells me to stay postive, because if you keep thinking negative then it will happen. It looks so easy for him, even though I know he feels the same way I do sometimes. I guess with men its different because they don't want to show there emotions and have to be the one to stay strong.
@altirbonganay (287)
• Philippines
15 Apr 12
Just remember: your life goes where your mind goes. Keep on being positive. Think of good things, no matter how hard it may be. And you'll be surprised to see, maybe one day, that things have fallen in their rightful places. Focus your mind on the right things. :)
@flowerfest08 (1677)
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15 Apr 12
Yes I could relate with you, there are also times in my life that I can't stay positive, even if I tried my best I still fail, really frustrating, I sometimes cry when I feel this... but prayers helps me alot, I'm telling God about what I feel and help His guidance and blessings, because in time like that I think that's all I can do, because when you tell it to other people, sometimes they make the feeling worst.
@tammymarie37 (260)
• United States
15 Apr 12
yes it is very frustrating. Its like things start getting better and then once agian something happens to bring me back once agian. I sometimes feel like I am the most jinxed person in the world ;)
@dazzledlady (1618)
• Philippines
15 Apr 12
When it rains, it pours . I think that is the rule in life, testing you to your limit. Life has been hard on you and I know it can be tiring but do not give up. It maybe hard to stay positive afterall you've been though but hold on to it. I still believe that a positive outlook in life can help you be where you want to be. But always in His time, there is time for everything.
@tammymarie37 (260)
• United States
15 Apr 12
yes, I life has been testing me to the limits, but even though its hard to stay postive it also has made me stronger in someways. Atleast that is what I hold on to, it helps me get through the hard times when my faith has been shaken.
@yuriyang (70)
• United States
15 Apr 12
I agree. I don't have that much experience about life but I use to always think that my life was good. I loved everything about my life. I had a job, went to a good school, and had wonderful friends. Then one day, everything started going downhill from there and i felt like the world was turning it's back on me. I started failing at everything that I was once good at. I guess not everyone gets that perfect life all the time. For something to get better, it has to hit its worse.
@tammymarie37 (260)
• United States
15 Apr 12
I know what you mean,I am not looking for the perfect life persay just a better one. I want to be able to live comfortably and not have to worry about bills or if there is enough groceries on the house or if my kids will be taking care.
@cyndidaki2871 (83)
• Philippines
15 Apr 12
Yes it is a good feeling to always stay positive in order to attract good vibes.I could say that I was able to experienced life uncertainties but with my continued perseverance I was able to conquer it but then this is just a gauge on how can we cope or how far can we go beyond those trials .Being optimistic convey explicit views since you are ravishing or having a positive outlook for everything.Having a wide venue for all possibilities makes you become a keen person so bringing in alluring results.Wish I could stay as positive as I could be.Yes it's nice to have such kind of attitude to be free with hassle and dazzle,isn't it?.
