People Person

United States
April 15, 2012 7:48am CST
Are you a people person? I used to be.. I don't really enjoy the general public as I get older and the world gets colder. I used to believe that there were more good people in the world than bad, but watching the news everyday would significantly change ANYONE'S view on that. I don't really like to be in crowded places with a lot of people I don't know unless I am with other people that I know. I wouldn't do it alone. I have little patience with the general public and I'm OK with that. So I ask you today Mylotters, are you a people person or not?
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10 responses
@dazzledlady (1618)
• Philippines
15 Apr 12
I believe I am not a people person. I do not enjoy being the center of attention or even the one who initiates discussion with the public. I more like the intimate interactions like being with friends. I do understand that as you grow older you become less close with the public. It is because as we grow old we are expose to the evil of the world and become distrustful. We are slowly turning to cynic because of what we see, heard and experience from other people.
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• United States
15 Apr 12
I can agree with you there.. with age comes experience and from MY experience, most of the world is NOT good.. but I don't have any doubts that it could possibly change if more people thought of the wellbeing of society vs. everyone being out for themselves. Thanks for sharing your views!!
• United States
26 Apr 12
That is very true.. and it's sad that the world has to be that way, but that's the way things are now.. Thanks for commenting!!
• Philippines
16 Apr 12
I agree to you because when I was young I trust people easily even to strangers and I'm so friendly at that time. I'm always the first to initiate an interaction and now, that I'm old enough I have doubts and realized things that sometimes I should reflect to myself that is it good or bad.
• Valdosta, Georgia
15 Apr 12
I have always been shy around new people and not very social. I have never been able to start up a conversation with someone I do not feel comfortable with, or feel welcome in a new group. That is just not me. I am thinking its in the genes for me though because my Grandmother, Aunt and Uncle are all the same way as I am. They avoid new people and crowds. Yeah, I always worry about what someone will do in a public place. I think I watch too much Criminal minds episodes, lol. Now a days we all need to be more careful and aware which makes it difficult to be social.
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• United States
4 May 12
That's the spirit! Always keep a positive attitude towards everything, but also an open eye from experience! Thanks for sharing your views!!
• Philippines
16 Apr 12
Maybe it is a genetic but also I think it also influence you in watching movies. Me, even though I'm not comfortable with other people and feel like I don't like her or him like my first expression. I still want to talk to them and get to know them better and if I feel that she or he is not good person and felt like she or he has a bad attitude then that is the time I will end up on it.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
15 Apr 12
Hi Mrscallands, Yes, I think that I am a people person for the most part. I work in the public and I actually very much enjoy the diverse people that I encounter. It is very rare that I encounter someone who is deliberatly rude or mean but it does happen. Even those people don't bother me to any degree. I have a high tolerance for that stuff and tend to see it for what it is. Yes there are a lot of bad people in the world. There is no doubt about that. I'd even venture to say that there are maybe more bad people in the world than there was even a decade ago...not sure. I will say that the world is still full of good people and honest people and people who will go out of their way to help a stranger in need. I don't like crowds and never have but I probably would love a majority of the people making up that crowd.
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• United States
15 Apr 12
I think that it is great that you have that outlook on life. I wish that there were more people that feel the way that you do and maybe this world would slowly become a better place for future generations. The sad thing about the world today is that everyone lacks compassion. If it's not something directly related to them or someone around them, they tend to blatantly ignore it. I actually watched a video a few months ago where a man in Hartford, CT was trying to cross the street clearly where there was no pedestrian crossing or safe passage for people that walk... and a car hit him... and other cars passing didn't seem to even waver, also hitting him and running him over as they passed. Furthermore, there are bystanders watching.. not trying to help, no one trying to call the cops even and I felt so bad for him. I always give people the "innocent until proven guilty" card and the benefit of the doubt, but I sometimes feel that a lot of people don't even deserve that. I rarely give second chances now being that if something is done once and gotten away with, the likeliness of it happening again is well over 50%.. but I am working on that now and with God's help, I know it'll get better! Happy Sunday! Thanks for sharing your views!!
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
15 Apr 12
To a very slight extent but really not really. I consider dealing with crowds to be a rather problematic experience and meeting new people, well it depends on the person. There are times where I can be very guarded with people, until I get a feel on how the person is. Which granted, is just something that takes a bit of the time to really get. There are just times where people I know, they are great. But when traveling into the unknown, I rather step lightly. There are a lot of people out there, who prey on the innocent and the naive. I tend to not believe people at face value until they have proven themselves one hundred percent of the time. To me, that is just the nature of people. To an extent I'm a people person but it is a careful extent.
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• United States
15 Apr 12
I wholeheartedly agree with you. I think that you cannot judge a person (which we shouldn't judge at all but we have to in order to protect ourselves and loved ones) just solely based on how they look. Some people that look innocent really are not while others that look menacing could be absolute sweethearts. It's all a learn & grow, give and take experience that is too risky to try with everyone that we meet throughout our lifetimes. I am cautious too as to whom I let in my life because I know that it not only affects me, but also the people around me who are already a part of my life such as my family, my team (#TeamNoSleep) and loved ones. Thanks for sharing your opinion!!
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
15 Apr 12
the world is not getting colder, people are still the same. They love to keep an eye on you, interfere in your lives and tell you what to do, what is right or wrong. We changed. We don't accept that anymore. People like that we don't like, we say they are way too curious and sticky and we want our rest. so they back off and we say they don't care about us anymore. As soon as you start to be open again they will be on your doorstep in no time. I am not a people person, I never been like that and I never will be. I don't care being alone, to be honest I love being alone. People tired me out.
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• United States
26 Apr 12
WakeUpKitty, That's a very unique way to look at it. And I can say that I agree! Most people do not like criticism, whether constructive or not. Most people do not like other people in their business, being nosy or accepting advice from others even if they asked for the advice. The world is a cold place, and somehow I just feel that "back then", there was more compassion for people and people accepting more faults whereas today mistakes are never forgotten and affect the entire rest of your life. Everyone is given ONE get out of jail free card and if it isn't used wisely, it can be life destructive. I think your response is great and that more people should think/feel this way. Thanks for sharing your views!!
• United States
26 Apr 12
Best response award goes to you!!
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
15 Apr 12
I've never been an overly social person, but I'm not antisocial or solely a lonely wolf either... but I can be totally content alone, too. I never liked really crowded places and really big companies, though.
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• United States
15 Apr 12
I definitely feel you on that. I don't have to be around a huge crowd to be happy and equally I don't have to be completely alone to be happy. However, I do feel that at some point in everyone's life, they need to spend time alone to find out their likes, dislikes, preferences and just what it is that makes them happy.. so that they won't seek happiness in other people and materialistic things because both are never permanent in today's times. Thanks for sharing!!
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
29 Apr 12
Sometimes...on a professional level mostly. I like working with people but by the time I get off work..I am finished with people for the day. I am ok with a crowd as long as it is a "good" crowd. I don't want to be packed in with mad people..lol.
• United States
4 May 12
I couldn't agree more. Thanks for commenting!!
@stanley777 (9402)
• Philippines
16 Apr 12
I don't consider myself a people's person. Like you I feel uneasy with too much people around me or in crowded places. I'm more of a listener than a talker. If given a choice I would prefer smaller crowd or just with friends.
• United States
26 Apr 12
I couldn't agree more. I like to spend time with loved ones and the members of my team.. #TeamNoSleep. Generally, outsiders are not welcome. Not to say I'm mean or disrespectful to people I don't know or anything like that, but I am quite reserved and sometimes skeptical of those that I'm not familiar with until proven otherwise. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!!
@Archaiwy (599)
• China
16 Apr 12
i am not a people person .I don't like being crowded and noisy. I like staying peace and quiet. in some situations many people speak loudly , making me bothered. usually i would like to sit in a quiet place reading or chatting with one person around who is familiar to me and if i can't find a person who i like to talk to i just close my eyes , thinking.
• United States
26 Apr 12
I don't think that there's anything wrong with that at all. People need thinking time and to spend time alone to figure out what type of individual they are. Sometimes human interaction and exposure is needed, but for some more than others! Thanks for sharing!!
• Indonesia
10 Sep 15
I wouldn't consider myself as a people person either though I enjoy being surrounded by people. I Just like you, I also used to prefer being in the crowd only when there's some people I know. Being alone in the crowd were just.. uncomfortable. But I've dealt with it and now I wouldn't really mind being anywhere by myself. Even when I'm among people I never know.