how do you deal with chronic complainers?
By aubrey
@averygirl72 (37726)
Philippines
April 17, 2012 4:20am CST
We have encountered chronic complainers in our life and sometimes we tend to become chronic complainers too. In our house the chronic complainer is my father. I told my mother that she should be used to that and not be surprised anymore. Being a chronic complainer, when he comes home after work, he can not find something that won't make him complain. He is mad because the windows are closed, he does not like the food, he does not like the way you sit, he does not like this and that.
Also at place of work, we may encounter people who from almost every day have some bad comments for you, though it may be true they won't always have to do it almost everyday. Life is difficult if you have so many complains, many things that does not satisfy you as if you cannot move on with life and there is always something that irritates you.
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11 responses
@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
17 Apr 12
My husband is like that. He complains a lot even just in to small things. I kept on telling him why he has to complain too much! It is very annoying and irritating sometimes. So now, I just ignored him and won't listen to him every time he complains.
@averygirl72 (37726)
• Philippines
18 Apr 12
Why are they like that? Anyway just ignore it, as they will get tired of it someday.
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
30 Apr 12
Oh..I don't like to be around someone that complains all the time. I try to see the good in most everything and it's hard to be around someone that sees nothing good or only pays attention to the bad. I usually separate myself, but if it is family, it is hard to do. I might just try to point out something nice or pleasing to take the attention away from the "bad." It might not work but it's worth a shot.
@averygirl72 (37726)
• Philippines
9 May 12
That is true, no one wants to be around someone who always complains, they can surely ruin your day. Just take away your attention from them.
@averygirl72 (37726)
• Philippines
24 Apr 12
short but great answer! remain chronically positive hehe...
@ecaron (678)
• Canada
17 Apr 12
I think your Dad is very unhappy with his life for some reason and that is why he always complains and your mom cannot ignore him as she has to live with him so I'm sure she's just trying to make the best of the situation. In a job, I used to have they taught me that you can't fight fire with fire , you should be as sweet as honey and that will diffuse the anger people feel because how can you complain or be angry when someone is being nice and smiling and trying to help you.
@Cale2012 (114)
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18 Apr 12
From this topic, I could easy to find this problem usually happened on myself.I am a complainer for long period, I don't when to start it. In my mind, I always express like at junior school,I guess I was good at study and often get excellent score.So I feel aside classmates was not very clever and smart, their actions and answers were become my complain and criticize, and finally I become a very very complainer all the way. This is become my part and hobby, although I perform a oridinary and homely follow time.
Now if I meet any thing and affairs, I firstly complain about it again and again without correction and do by myself. I only stay there not go on to change world. I hate me,but customly this stytle.Although sometimes I just broken caused by bad temper.I can't stop.I have become negative person.
What a pity to me!
@averygirl72 (37726)
• Philippines
24 Apr 12
I understand what you mean, though I find it difficult to understand what you say here. We cannot just
stop complaining sometimes.
stop complaining sometimes.
@abby1221 (71)
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18 Apr 12
That must be very frustrating to deal with in your own family. I find that life is what you make of it, and if you want to be miserable, you will be miserable. On the other hand, if you want to be happy and CHOOSE happiness, then you will be happy. It's all a state of mind. I don't think your father or any chronic complainers for that matter are actually upset with their surroundings/whatever it is they complain about...I think there is something else going on that makes you unsatisfied with your life and who you are as a person and then unfortunately it comes out in your speech as random complaints. I wish I knew a solution for this, as it certainly is annoying to witness.
@averygirl72 (37726)
• Philippines
24 Apr 12
Thanks... that is right, you can make your life more miserable with your own state of mind and not because of what you see around.
Great...you are lucky!
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
17 Apr 12
When people tend to complain all of the time and never seem satisfied, I just feel the overwhelming need to roll my eyes. But in some ways, I have really accepted that there is no pleasing some people. There are just going to be a lot of times where people even in the greatest thing, they can find some flaw. It is not an obvious flaw but there is something that people can complain about.
I have dealt with people like that in the past. Now do not get me wrong, we all have something to complain about. It is hard to believe that anyone's life is completely perfect. However, is everything so bad where people are going to feel the need to complain all of the time? That to me just rings a little false. These people are always going to be negative and they are going to bring down my day. So I try to avoid them whenever possible.
@averygirl72 (37726)
• Philippines
23 Apr 12
I like everything you said. Yes sometimes I just want to roll my eyes. That is because not everything in this life is perfect. thanks
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
17 Apr 12
I think your dad is just stressed a lot from work or facing a lot of problems. People who are stressed and just too tired easily get annoyed and irritated and they have a very short patience even for simple things.
My mom was like that when she got tired and had so much in her mind. I used to hate it whenever she complained and got annoyed at small things but now i do understand why she was like that.
@averygirl72 (37726)
• Philippines
23 Apr 12
That is right, stress factor, but he did not understand that we get stressed too because he do it every day! So, we really need to understand them and just understand them...
@Extourmed (191)
• Bulgaria
17 Apr 12
Well, we all come across people like this very often. Those people thing that their contribution in life is to be the one who spreads the most misery. Nothing is good enough for those kind of people. I think that dealing with this people would be very frustrating. People like that has always unsatisfied. They will never run out of things to complain about. I think that those kind of people could only increase your stress level and just wast your time. I think that the only way to deal with this people is just to ignore them.
@averygirl72 (37726)
• Philippines
24 Apr 12
Yeah, that is it, they are always unsatisfied, when will they get satisfied?
