How would you feel if you're a mother and your kid will call you "filthy" ?

I never heard about the first school being the home and the first teacher being the parent. I will also never allow this too. School is school. I always picked out the school for my kids carefully and confront teachers at once if my kids come home with language I don't like. My kids are also not allowed to speak any dialect. I never had any problem to take my kids from school and send them to an other school if I think this one is better. I do interfere in the way they are teached and do tell the teacher what I like or not. Also I am educating my kids (next to school) at home. I think it depends on the kid, the age, etc how I will react, but I can tell you by now that if my kid will call me "filthy" it will be the last time he/she said that. No matter if it's just said as a word (not knowing what it exactly means) or to show me something.

at times small children when they learn something new they just without knowing and thinking do what they have learnt.its because of their level of unmaturity.however that activity be good or bad we should just tell them the right thing sweetly and let it go.however when its a bad activity and they keep on doing without giving respect to parents teaching, its now parent who should teach child a lesson by scolding him and showing the right path.hope this is useful 4 u .

I agree that there is no parent in sane mind would ever teach their kids bad words of wrong doings. I am also a parent myself and being a single parent it is very hard to act with dual role. It's not easy to deal with young boys who needs some boystalk- but cannot talk with me openly. I am having some hard time dealing with my two boys in their teens- but I am trying to cope up with them. No matter how we teach them good things- we don't have control once they are outside our home. But- reminding them always is one of the best way to avoid them in trouble. So far, my kids are behaving well and never been involve in any trouble. I don't know what to say if any of my kids will call me "filthy"- it's different when it is real.

I would ignore it. If a behavior is not hurting someone else physically, any attention paid just reinforces to the child that it's an attention getting word or saying. Instead, I would pay attention to something nice he or she said or did. Or, if the child is saying something at home that to you is unacceptable in your house, you can simply state, "We don't use that word here," or, "that's something I am not comfortable hearing." With an older child (teen) you could say, "That may be acceptable talk with your friends, but I'm not comfortable with it in the house." You can't forbid a teen to use certain language outside the home, because it's impossible to be there all of the time to monitor what is being said. But you can let him know that you don't want it used in the house, or around younger siblings. With all children, you don't want to put them on the defensive - they'll just end up saying, "Well, Jimmy says it and his parents don't care!", or something like that. If you react negatively towards your child, he or she will just learn not to let you hear it. Telling your kid he's "bad" for saying something is just wrong. Hitting your kid for that is also wrong. All it teaches is to avoid letting you hear something that will cause you to hit them or tell them they are bad. They may also wonder how come Jimmy says it and his parents don't call him bad. Because I treated my children with respect, I got the same in return from them. I'm not a drill sergeant. My children knew what behavior was appropriate for new and familiar situations - because I would let them know ahead of time. And I would always tell them if they weren't sure what to do they could ask me. I now have two nice young adult children who are both non-violent and loving. My son, the youngest, has what I call a gentle heart for abused animals, esp. cats. He can be very tender with them. My daughter, who is nearly 27, is a hard worker and ambitious with her life. Neither of them - to my knowledge - has ever done anything illegal. And it does start in the home. The home is the first "school" because babies and young ones look to their parents for cues and lessons on how to treat others. When you listen to your children, they learn to listen, too. Children live what they learn at home.

being called filthy is hurting. who wants to be called filthy anyway. i think i would get mad for being said like that but i would also consider the reasons why they were able to call me that. i would also remind them that if they cannot respect me as their child or parent, they should respect me even as a person.

Well, for me... Of course i would get angry with that kind of behavior especially from people who are much more younger than myself. I would not get mad and do something stupid though. I will just talk slowly and calmly about that they did, and sometimes when i did not like the person, my sentences would be some kind of threatening to them. Usually they would say sorry and everyone would just silence giving me the attention. But if they refused to calm down like i just did, they would get something they will never thought i was going to do when i was threatening them.