Waiting is the hardest part.
By reinydawn
@reinydawn (11643)
United States
April 26, 2012 7:56pm CST
My cousin just let me know a little while ago that our grandmother had a horrible heart attack earlier today and is in the hospital. The doctors are not expecting her to make it through the night. We've really been expecting this for years, she's 93 years old and has been in a nursing home for the last few years. When we go visit her, she usually doesn't know who we are.
This is only the 2nd time I've waited for the news of someones' passing. When my other grandparents died, it was an unexpected call, sometimes in the middle of the night. My uncles were also very sudden and not expected. My father was kind of sudden, but we had 2 weeks to "prepare".
We all know this has been coming for a while, and we'd almost rather she close her eyes and let go. My cousin is saying that she's not doing well, but kind of fighting it all the way.
Do you think it's easier for us if our loved ones go quickly or if we know ahead of time and can prepare? I think I'm a "quickly" kinda gal.
3 responses
@zaskasahagun (346)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
no matter how long or how short their stay is on this earth, if they pass away it surely hurts us. its because those persons are important to us and they play an important role in our lives. they serve as our inspiration and if they pass away, their memories will surely stay but there will be hurt and pain that we feel. this is normal but what is important is that we know how to move on.
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@claydequito (18)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
I totally agree with you. The length of time you are given to "prepare" does not lessen the pain that it causes. If "quickly" is the way, then you would have wanted to bargain just to have a little more time to tell them and show them how much you care and love them. If the "long way", you still would have wanted to have a little more time, a minute more. However, when it comes, it comes like a thief in the night. Even if you kind of expected it, you can never predict when the exact time it comes and it is going to hurt really bad if you love that person. The only way that you could not feel pain is that if they are not important to you. Because if they are important, we will always hold on to them, even if the one we are holding on is their memory.
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
2 May 12
Even though we all expected it and were all hoping it would finally end, it was very sad to let her go. She will be missed every day.
@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
2 May 12
I remember a few years back when she was pretty sick. We were waiting for months for her to either come out of her coma or pass away. One day she just woke up and said she wanted to go home. I knew that wasn't going to happen this time, and was somewhat relieved to hear she did finally let go. We're very sad, but at the same time happy.
@daisy_dion (315)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
As what I have experienced, its not easy to be left alone. Id rather go first than the last one.
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