Is there something wrong in being a perfectionist?

There is nothing wrong with being a perfectionist as long as he does not hurt any people's feelings and he does not endanger his health and others'. it's actually good being one, since giving your best in all that you do is good.

You should advice him to take it easy.. What he does is admirable bu if it endangers his health, it is not worth it.. Maybe he has a problem or someone to impress which is why he always works hard, he is trying to prove something..

i think there is nothing wrong to want to do things perfectly. Well, some people are born to want to be perfect. to do things perfectly and to have all things go as they had it planned. well... i think there is nothing wrong with it, unless it becomes an obsession and that it becomes a burden already.

Yeah I think so. As far as i know, if someone being a perfectionist, they usually give their maximal effort. Because they want the result is perfect like their planning before. So they don't think about anything else, like their physical condition. Maybe you should tell him the positive thing and the negative thing about being a perfectionist. Why i say like that ? Because i am perfectionist too. LOL

I guess that is a bad side. You could ask him if he's all right as he seems a little bit under the weather. That could be a subtle hint for him. If he does't take it you could tell he's abusing his body. If someone doesn't have enough free time for recreating and relaxation, and only cares about doing the best, they're going to be burnt out (I know from personal experience).

I guess that is a bad side. You could ask him if he's all right as he seems a little bit under the weather. That could be a subtle hint for him. If he does't take it you could tell he's abusing his body. If someone doesn't have enough free time for recreating and relaxation, and only cares about doing the best, they're going to be burnt out (I know from personal experience).

I really admire those people who are like that...who would really give their best in something that they do. I guess there's nothing wrong with that, unless anyone is actually affected by it. In this case, if his health is affected then he might wanna turn it down a bit.

It is just the life attitude of them .Mybe they don`t wanna be a perfectinist .You think hime a perfectionist only.My boyfriend do things in a very serious attitude and he is very diligent like him .but I know he just wanna be more excellent but not perfectionist .The attitude of your friend is right and good .Like your saying ,he seems abusing his body ,which is the bed effect .And we also should see the good effect of this kind biligent.You can invite him to take part in some parties which can make hime relaxed and have a little rest.You can exercise with him every morning which can make him more healthy.

It is very difficult to live as a perfectionist. Sometimes I have a tendency to work hard for perfection in life. Being perfectionist is being extreme. For me it is not really healthy to be a perfectionist. Though it is not bad to desire perfection, you should also be realistic. It is fine if we still give some allowance for mistakes.

As a former perfectionist I can say this is not good at all. It's hard to put less effort in work and projects if he is a perfectionist, and he is probably suffering from this. You can tell him to be careful, but he has to learn himself that here should be a limit. I had to go through many things to learn that I can not abuse my body to the maximum. Employers or teachers might be happy to get something well done, but it's really not worth risking to ruin our health totally, only to make sure we meet all the expectations. Perfectionists can be very good employees but I don't want to say what it's like when an employer is like that.

Being a perfectionist helps in providing a good output always but on the other hand it put a person in a greater stress level to be on top. The rule in this world is always about balance. So i think it is never good to overdo it.

I also have a friend in the office who is a control freak. He is acting weird and people would not take him seriously because he doesn't seem normal. He tries too hard to make things perfect, and wouldn't mind spending long hours in the office to finish projects. He even got sick because of too much stress, but he would not listen. Well, its really not easy to help these type of people, but when they're ready to listen and open up, that's the best time for friends like us to get in the picture.

I used to be like your friend when I was in high school but later on I realized that no one can be perfect so do I even bother? But that does not mean that I neglect all things and task at hand, it just mean that I became a little forgiving to myself especially when it comes to my shortcomings. Also, it has taken a toll on my health when I need to be admitted to the hospital one time because of stress. Imagine that at such a young age, i was hospitalized because of stress? I know, it wasn't cool at all. Sometimes being perfectionist can be bad if one overdo it. Just like what I did, I always tend to over think about things and more. If it is taking over your whole life and you are no longer enjoying things because you are worried most of the time, then it is not good anymore. I suggest that you explain that to your classmate so that he can save himself to further health damage in the future if he did not change his ways.

In addition to negative health effects, there are other problems with always needing everything to be perfect. Oddly enough, perfectionists also tend to be procrastinators: they plan ahead too much instead of just starting in on the work, and they dread actually starting because all of the work they'll have to do. This might be why he's staying up so late--it's just to difficult for him to get started early. Also, perfectionists tend to be late on assignments or not turn them in at all, because they feel they can't submit a project if it's not perfect. So yes, perfectionism can be a major impediment to being a good student. It's better to be able to work efficiently, and approach classmates or teachers with possible issues instead of obsessing about them all by yourself. If you're a close enough friend that he will take your advice, it might be worth telling him.

You just enumerate and exemplified the bad effects of being perfectionist. and let me tell you a secret - some perfectionist might be satisfied if tehy continue that attitude. They can be also very abusive to themselves - like they are blaming themselves for having pass this test or score high on this activity, not doing enough...I think you get my drift. First of all, you have to determine your relationship with him. If you are close with this guy, I think he will accept your advice but if you are normal neighbors or acquaintances (or no relationship at all) he might resent your advice and tell you to mind your own business. it's good that you care but sometimes people take offense when they are given unsolicited advice. But you can still help by telling him that he might fall asleep in class if he keeps late hours (he will hate that, i assume). or pretend to be spooked because you thought he was a zombie. You have a number of different ways a of telling him indirect of your meaning. Or you can start a friendship with him and then, you can nag him for being a perfectionist.