Why is it so difficult to find like-minded people
By abhi_bangal
@abhi_bangal (3686)
India
April 30, 2012 12:24pm CST
There are more than 700 crores people on the earth and I am not able to find at least one man who is like-minded. I mean, I haven't found even a single person who thinks the same as me. This has happened both in real life and on the internet too. The thing that hurts is I couldn't convince anyone to go with me. I have been looking for someone for doing some work and there's no luck 
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13 responses
@richa_devale (72)
• India
30 Apr 12
Like minded people is a myth.. We are so complex and have so many layers to each thought that it is not possible to find someone same like us. its like that complex password we set for some account of ours, its according to our mind games and noone else can set that or think of that password. But that shouldnt make one sad. Because theres fun in interacting with people with different approaches and thinking. it adds up spice to our life. Just imagine how life would go if everyone thought the way we do.. Moreover the more people we find with different thinking the more we get explored to new dimensions of life.. We should respect the differences rather enjoy the differences. Its a colorful life.. one colour is a boring concept. :)
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@abhi_bangal (3686)
• India
2 May 12
By starting this discussion, I have found out many new things about life - the latest is that the concept of like-minded people is a myth. Yes, we are i.e. life is complex and have many layers. But what if out of these innumerable layers, two layers meet each other? I mean, do you know the lock with numbers? When one gets the exact number, the lock is opened. As long as the digits do not match, the lock doesn't open.
The unnecessary combination of digits are the layers and the one that matches is the one we need. So, can't we find the same layer in people too, however complex the life may be. On the contrary, the more complex life is, the easier it is to find like-minded people, because we are all searching for the same thing ultimately.
But I agree with you on your last point - one should not have the one and only color in life. Life is so beautiful and colorful........
@abhi_bangal (3686)
• India
1 May 12
So?? There's something called as "wavelength", like-minded people". I don't think because all of us are unique individuals, we will never feel the same. Criteria are different for people being unique and will never be the same. But two people can certainly think on the same line. Just look at the first response above, how our friends WakeUpKitty and rags2riches have agreed on the same point, haven't they?
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@abhi_bangal (3686)
• India
2 May 12
Yes, lots of people share the same opinion but there views and approach could be different. As far as being unique is concerned, I agree that no two people can have exactly the same feelings. But the words you used are probably too heavy, EXACTLY & LIFE. Speaking about life is so complicated and that too E-X-A-C-T-L-Y, that's still more difficult.
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@Suebee (2013)
• Canada
1 May 12
I totally agree that two or more people can share the same opinions. How we arrive at those thoughts or opinions however may be totally different. We are all still unique individuals and you will never find two people who are exactly the same or think exactly the same way in every aspect of life. But yes, I do agree with you in that we sometimes feel the same about certain things.
@Jevendiran (778)
• India
1 May 12
It's very simple... Say, for example, there are four basic characters which combine in different proportions to form an individual's personality. With these basic elements, we can form millions and millions of combinations, and hence millions and millions of characters. So every person on this planet differs from every other person by at least 1 or 2%. I think this is the reason for you are not able to find a LIKE MINDER PERSON. As far as your job is concerned, the person whom you can appoint depends on your character, the nature of the job and the person's character. If you want a detailed assistance, I can help you.
@abhi_bangal (3686)
• India
2 May 12
Thanks for your response. Looks like you are a professional. Aren't you?
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@naija4real (1291)
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1 May 12
Even identical twins from the same womb still does not think alike or reason the same way. Therefore, you should not expect persons who do not share the same biological link with you to think just the same way you think. The world is full of diversity. We as human must learn to accommodate each one another just for us to co-habit peacefully.
I do not have any scientific or non scientific explanation for why things are just the way they are. We are simply living in an imperfect world.
@abhi_bangal (3686)
• India
2 May 12
Well, I am not going that far as you explained right from the birth of an individual. What I am looking is just someone who can work with me. That's all. The world is certainly full of diversity and there is no explanation as why things are the way they are.
@abhi_bangal (3686)
• India
2 May 12
Ok, I take your advice. But I fear, I don't really a patient by being patient 
@Zammeee (66)
• Belgium
30 Apr 12
It's not that easy to find someone who thinks complete the same as you. That person is unique, to you, but also to him/herself. You need to be patient, and maybe even more than patient. That special person can even live across the world, but he/she exists. Don't forget that. And most important; Don't give up hope.
@abhi_bangal (3686)
• India
2 May 12
It is not easy, but it is not impossible. See there are many examples in the corporate world where partners have done businesses. Why and how could they come along? Just because there thought on the same lines. I am sure, I will stumble upon someone in my journey.
@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
1 May 12
We can't always find like-minded people because sometimes we are not meant to. We are given people to make us challenge what we believe in and what we are willing to tolerate and accept. Life isn't perfect, and you aren't going to agree with everyone because if you did, then it would be too easy.
@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
1 May 12
When I was 16 to 18 years old I just wanted to find like minded people that liked traveling the world like I did. On my journey around Europe at age 18 years old I felt happy when I met other travelers. They seemed rather similar to myself and it was great. I had over one year of meeting other like minded people when I traveled around the world at age 20 to 21 years old. I know that you want to find like minded friends and that special someone too. So I say good luck to you in achieving that.
@GemmaR (8517)
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30 Apr 12
I think that we all reach a certain point in our lives where it doesn't particularly feel as though we fit in with anybody at all. I reached this point in my teenage years, because I was into classical music and nobody else was into anything even a little bit similar to that, and this meant that I felt more alone than ever. However, I started to join clubs of like minded people, and I eventually found people who I knew I could get on with. Since I started doing this, I have never been happier in my life, and I honestly think that you would find the same.
@abhi_bangal (3686)
• India
2 May 12
Does it really happen that we don't fit with anyone? I never really knew that? Well, as far as you are concerned, I am sure you were odd man /(woman) out. When a liking for classical music during the teenage is certainly something you cannot expect and that's why you are bound to feel secluded.
What? Joining clubs has made you sad? What did you say "doing this, I have never been happier in life"?
@maikokimberly (91)
• Philippines
1 May 12
It's because every one of us is a unique individual. Just look at your thumb mark, no one else in this world has that fingerprint but you. All people are different.
@kajal1992 (354)
• India
1 May 12
its rare to find completely like minded people as you, in this world every person is unique, unique faces, unique character etc. You can not fully match your mentality with other, you just need to adjust with him/her or she/he need to adjust with you.
If you can find completely matched people then you will be so lucky person in this planet.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
30 Apr 12
Because most of us are not open at all. We hide. We are afraid to be rejected. Also many of us don't know ourselves. If it comes to we only like the sheep in the cattle, not those with an own opinion. Even if you have some interest, or have some great skills etc you are only accepted if you live by the rules of (that) the group.
And if you really show yourself the opposite thinks you are changed, you are not who you were and they feel sooo disappointed.
@abhi_bangal (3686)
• India
1 May 12
@WakeUpKitty,
I will like to disagree with your very first statement. I don't think I am not open to all. If I were finding someone to come along with me, how can I remain reserved, not express myself and still expect that guy to be with me. I hope you agree with me on this point. Secondly, my throat has dried up convincing the potential friends why they should think on the same lines as that of me. So, I guess, I have nothing to hide at all. And getting rejected is the last thing I ever thought of.
It was nothing personal what I was expecting of the people I met. It was concerning starting a small business.
I talked with those friend who were in need of a job or something of a earning source. But I really find it very surprising how people are so careless and don't even think of employing oneself. Oh, common this is a long story, and I just told you in a nutshell.
@Bluedoll (16774)
• Canada
30 Apr 12
Sometimes that could be good thing? I think you want someone with similar interests or is it can come to agreements easily? Not sure what you mean by "doing some work"? Do you mean something that works as in a relationship or working together as in a job?
@abhi_bangal (3686)
• India
2 May 12
Oh was I insufficient in expressing myself? But I guess, as you said about me, "doing some work" certainly refers to a professional bonding rather than a personal or getting involved in a relationship.
