self centered sister in-law

@hgwyneth (120)
Philippines
May 1, 2012 1:24am CST
Is there anyone here who's in good terms with their sister-in-law? I have 3 sisters-in-law. Two of them were ok but one of them has really disgusting attitude. She used to count every single cent she spends towards their parents especially the financial help she extended. I hate the attitude since I believe that whatever a child has given to the parents cannot be compared to their sacrifices since birth till they grew up. She used to count and compare her spending against what her brothers and sisters have given towards their parents. However, her siblings do not count. Do not boast about what they have spent or given. Only the parents and the siblings have knowledge only to themselves . My sister-in-law always elaborating how good she is, how much she spent and yelling to her parents saying her siblings are of no help. I really hate that. I really can't bear that. I sent a private message to her facebook and elaborated what we've helped out of her knowledge. I didn't know if she was able to read it but I hope so. I told her that what she's helped towards their parents are cannot be compared to their parents sacrifices. If you're in my situation, will you do the same?
1 response
zeus01
@zeus01 (29)
• Philippines
1 May 12
what i basically did to avoid these kind of situations is basically move far away from family. I love my mom and my sister so does my wife, but we anticipated that in law things so we decided to move away both far from our families is a sacrifice and joy at same time. At least right now we are in law problems free and we just visit form time to time. I basically try not to get affected with their attitudes, as long as it causing no harm to me and my family, i would just play deaf.
hgwyneth
@hgwyneth (120)
• Philippines
1 May 12
Good for you zeus01. At least you both decided to separate from them. The houses are close that's why can't avoid often misunderstanding. Sometimes kids are affected since my sister-in-law kids are adapting their mother's attitude. Bad attitude is really contagious...What do you think?
zeus01
@zeus01 (29)
• Philippines
1 May 12
yes it was a good thing we both agreed to it. we know a lot of couples,specially where i am in ,breaking up because of in law issues. and both of us dont want to be victims. yes bad attitude,bad vibes,negativity is contagious. i would agree on that, its like this try telling your friend how bad a brand is over and over again,,, tehn drop the topic,let a few days pass,and ask her again..hehehhhehhe anyways,, Its either you to talk to your in laws about their attitudes, or move away. those are what i think the best solutions for now, you can write them a letter if you wnat to,so that everything you say or want to say is organized and pre meditated.