"Forever alone" might be an option to happiness.
By Resy King
@resy21curapika (2116)
Pasay, Philippines
May 1, 2012 2:30am CST
Okay so moving forward with no text, no (close) friends at work, just the usual coworker approaches (or for some instances, there's none), no boyfriend, no family bugging you around about expenses and such headaches, no one. Have you experienced it?
I am, It was driving me nuts since January and now I am about to get used to (except for text; SHOULD be getting texts now since I need it for my other job's preferrences).
One of my friends posted a one-liner topic here. And the next five minutes everyone gives their feedback. Most of the time, it's pretty bad. But I don't think my friend elaborated more than she has to and that gives everyone in mylot that mixed signals.
I'm posting tis in behalf of those "loners" here in mylot (if any). Being single is not a status but a choice, I've heard that one before. So goes with being alone. It's going to be a choice of person whom to talk with, whom to share with and it shouldn't be a shameful situation. Most find peace being alone. Others just have a slight high standards of who to talk with or whom to be along. It's going to be a choice and most of the time loners don't prefer to be with others because we don't know to put a sensible talk or the other way around; which is we're longing for a more sensible person to talk with.
I found peace being alone. If it makes me happy; then why should everyone be mad about it? I need your thoughts about this (Don't worry; I'm open about feedback and I get use to it all of the time; trust me) Let me know if you're feeling the same way like me or are you agnostic about this.
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13 responses
@Fireheart (683)
• India
1 May 12
Well its only for a short period of time that we can enjoy the leisure of loneliness,am a loner myself and i enjoys being that,but sooner or later someones going to enter our life, surely we all cant live alone forever suffice to say we can maintain our loneliness for a period of time, life would've be challenging if things enter our life, i must say people who are alone die lone with no purpose in life, we must at times fill the gap, there is time for everything, i certainly agree to be alone is perfect, no tension, life is carefree,no support which makes you strong with will power. there are lots of good side to being alone. but certainly this will not go forever there will come a time when you have to fill the gap.
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@resy21curapika (2116)
• Pasay, Philippines
1 May 12
Is it about the mood swing or call it a traumatic experiences that you're afraid to get connected to others for a long period of time. But whatever the reason is; it DOES gives them the mixed up. Most of the time I'm letting them know clearly that I need to get my own spacing and such and I don't want to be bothered most if the time with all those non-sense or it is not relatively beneficial to me.
That's also how it goes with being "forever alone" not in terms of status but how would you handle your own life without other's presence and distraction.
@resy21curapika (2116)
• Pasay, Philippines
1 May 12
Hahaha.. I've got a lot of space beign alone and I'm loving yet.
For the status; quite not sure **jokes. But we'll see about that ^_^-)
@Fireheart (683)
• India
1 May 12
ah yes dont mind me what i meant to say was being single is good as a man,spacing you say that can be considered to be alone temporarily, the title forever alone meant something entirely to me in my thought, people are always distracted by the fellow mates, and it gives us hardly any time to think of our own so i think we all need a timeout to get free for a bit.
@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
15 May 12
I have been alone for the past 4 out of 8 years, I had a divorce 8 years ago, and had one 4 yr relationship after that. I started a discussion, that stated how I feel about being alone......Doesn't mean I'm lonely when I'm alone! I can do what I want when I want, I can travel if I want too, which I do about 3 times a year. I can handle most household tasks and repairs on my own (thanks to my dad). I can take care of the lawn, carry out my own trash. I do have a girl friend, that is also alone due to divorce, and some weekends, like this past one, we get together and scrapbook and craft all weekend. I have found that most of the ones that are 'mad' about that, are actually jealous.
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@berting600 (3453)
• Philippines
1 May 12
Do not make a period to your preferred life.Remember that no one is an island.I say this to you due to the fact that even if it turns out that you were happy without anyone bothering you any expenses.You do not have to go home early because there are no one scolding you for coming home too late the night.Now,here comes you have some sickness.You have to cook your own food,you have to buy your own medicine.If you needed some massage you have to go to a place just for the service.Unlike if you have some company in the house,there is someone who cares for you,there is someone who does the laundry fr your clothes,there is someone who cooks your meals.What more could you ask for?Have you realized that you are not going any younger?No needed a company.Please think about it.
@resy21curapika (2116)
• Pasay, Philippines
1 May 12
Hahaha.. but of course "Forever alone" theory shouldn't be applied here in Mylott then.
It doesn't mean I'm lonely if I am alone. Called me an introvert but that's about it. I can talk and interact with other people but not that much since I have my own spacing preferrence. Please do understand, but I do appreciate your "No man is an Island" idealism. But what if it comes to the point that you have to live alone? Can you bear it?
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@berting600 (3453)
• Philippines
1 May 12
I can also bear it to be alone but not for so long.Sometimes we are bored to be with so many people in the house because of so much expenses that comes with them.Somehow
they can be of use to some extend that they can help with some chores of cleaning, cooking,and marketing.I have experience all these scenarios,and it is up to you what you choose to become alone or with some other people.
@resy21curapika (2116)
• Pasay, Philippines
1 May 12
How about in relationships? Are you staying single as a choice or are you into relationships because of benefits?
"Forever alone" has two meanings. Online it is an internet meme for being single and doesn't wants to mingle and it's also an expression based on a funny comic about an isolated case of a guy that is so wrong, no one is caring for him.
Share me your thoughts about it.
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@autumndreamer (3185)
• Philippines
1 May 12
I don't want to be forever alone but I think I'm getting what you're trying to tell us. When I was just shifted to a different course in college, I was a little lonely. I don't talk to others and I also don't bond with my new classmates. Some people thought that I am a loner. I felt really bad because of that. When I'm in other places, I always have someone to talk to and have someone to be with but not in my class. I choose not talk and be with anyone of them because I don't like any of them not because I'm truly a loner. I think that's what you meant? 
@autumndreamer (3185)
• Philippines
7 May 12
Uhmm. Now I get you. Yes, being alone is a choice. Some people think that it's not happy to be alone but there are people who find happiness by just being with self. I understand it when a person just wants to be alone as I do want to be alone sometimes too. However, "forever alone"? It's not that I don't want to be single or anything but there's really someone that I like to be with for a long time. 
So as of now, I cannot think of myself being forever alone.
So as of now, I cannot think of myself being forever alone.@resy21curapika (2116)
• Pasay, Philippines
1 May 12
Yup. Being alone in all aspects including relationships status. Pretty much of it.
You have the power to choose for your happiness. If you read other's posts as well, if being alone will makes you happy; then you should be proud by your choice and tell about it more. In that way; they'll perfectly understand and will not mistaken you as a retarded freak.
Hahaha.. You can mylot about your relationship staus preferrence. Would you prefer being "forever alone" or single?
@elmiko (6630)
• United States
1 May 12
yes, being alone can be peaceful. however, having friends and close family members is healthy and is necessary for me personally to have more of a full-feeling life. i personally feel if one is not around anybody to talk to for a long period then it can be very unhealthy unless you feel repulsed of the sight of an individual for whatever reason,lol. some people can be intolerable to be around whether they have a lousy attitude or you just have bad blood with them.
@resy21curapika (2116)
• Pasay, Philippines
1 May 12
Thanks for posting your thoughts about this.
The reason this topic was started is to show that being a loner or introvert shouldn't be a hindrance to your happiness. I really do appreciate in giving your pro's and con's about it. But i think whatever choice that a person will pick will be also their reason in getting more happiness in life.
We do have freedom for choices, right?
Happy mylotting and we want to hear more form you!
@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
1 May 12
The world is--for most intents-and-purposes--a giant machine. Maybe each of its parts serves a different purpose, but the machine only has one purpose
(TJ "TheAmazingAtheist" on YouTube seems to think The Machine's purpose is 'to continue existing, regardless of whether its parts are comfortable or not,' but I think it has some purpose which we will never-as-long-as-we-live know exactly---but which is not served unless the machine 'continues existing' 
).
Point is that--if you are alone--you seem to be serving a purpose other than that of the machine. See, the usual purpose of 'parts of The Machine' seems to be "to help others in order to help those whom you choose to help," who then goes on to help you and others, who both go on to help others, who then go on to help others, who then go on to help ... etc.
When you're single, it seems that you have only yourself to choose to help. Seeing that, people think any help they give you is like "sowing seed upon the path"---it'll only sit there, helping-only you and not -society-at-large.
).
Point is that--if you are alone--you seem to be serving a purpose other than that of the machine. See, the usual purpose of 'parts of The Machine' seems to be "to help others in order to help those whom you choose to help," who then goes on to help you and others, who both go on to help others, who then go on to help others, who then go on to help ... etc.
When you're single, it seems that you have only yourself to choose to help. Seeing that, people think any help they give you is like "sowing seed upon the path"---it'll only sit there, helping-only you and not -society-at-large.@resy21curapika (2116)
• Pasay, Philippines
8 May 12
You've got a point there. There night be chances that you need to "feed your life's purpose" that's why sometimes forever alone is opposed or some may find it awkward. Like there's gotta be a way that you have to flock with others.
But for the machine part-thing; I would rather help myself more than helping others and thinking about them more that I have to for myself. Either way; that's definitely a choice. I love the part that you bring up the "Amazing Atheist" from Youtube. I've heard about it once but it is about time to check more on it :)
Enjoy sharing your thoughts more here in mylot. Thanks!
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@resy21curapika (2116)
• Pasay, Philippines
13 May 12
Hahaha.. Thanks for letting me know about your thoughts about helping others; I kinda agree, of course it is a fair trade to help them as they have help you out. it's quite normal, they'll dump you out after you've help them pretty much. I now how sad can it be and trust me; it happened to me several time to the point that I really felt remorsed.
I dunno about mine then as time passed. For me, it is not based on how many people you have helped or to brag it off afterwards or I'm just paying a good deed they did to me. What's important is I did helped them without expecting something in return; like I still keep my theory that "every 'chance' that you give is a 'chance thay you'll see" I'll have my good turn then and I'm not going to expect fot it too much. This theory is to also support my belief that I should help myself before offering my help to others. Just a cycle of life.
But I still prefer to be alone. I'm not expecting other help that much. I can still pretty much handle it ^_____^-) hahaha... happy mylotting there in Oklahoma ;)
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@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
9 May 12
"helping myself more than helping others"? Then it is that people see you as nothing if you don't happen to be a help to them.
For me, I can't help others unless others help me (mostly that's in terms of 'getting places'---Oklahoma City being a 'sprawled' city, meaning its street-grid's architects designed it to make cars almost as necessary as 'feet' to get to work-or-dining-or-entertainment in this town
)
I've got lots of "understanding and wisdom" to help people through their struggles, but I can't be where they are (out in public) unless they bring me with them.
And another thing; when you 'take your final rest' (either 'take that final sleep' or 'get locked-away'), all you have is how much you've helped others make the world a better place.
)
I've got lots of "understanding and wisdom" to help people through their struggles, but I can't be where they are (out in public) unless they bring me with them.
And another thing; when you 'take your final rest' (either 'take that final sleep' or 'get locked-away'), all you have is how much you've helped others make the world a better place.
@hestylim (1210)
• Indonesia
1 May 12
Hi,
I experience having no text in a day, feeling like what the use of me having this cell phone? Lol.. But, well, it is hard in the beginning, then like you, I try to move on with my life and make peace about it. I try to accept the fact that maybe I mean to be alone for (maybe) forever.
I have friends, a lot of close friends. However, I do need a lot of "me" time. I called myself weird. And, probably that's the reason why I stay single. Maybe there's no man can accept my weirdness. Lol...
It doesn't mean that I close the door to my heart and decide to live alone for my whole life. I am just waiting for the right person to come and accept me the way I am.
I like being alone. I like going everywhere alone and I like it. :)
@annavi23 (6522)
• Philippines
14 May 12
Being alone can be a choice and it can also lead others to thinking why we wanted to be alone when there's not much happiness... Well, they are not seeing what we see sometimes. Being alone sometimes we want to be free from all things. No one is bothering us. no relationships or so. just ourselves. But then come to think of it, we are all human and we need someone to be there for us. I guess people just choose to be loners cause they didn't find something that will make them happy and a person who will stay with them no matter what...
@cyndidaki2871 (83)
• Philippines
1 May 12
Maybe and it depends ,if it's your contentment to be in such state precisely you will be used to it besides if its the path that you want to venture or you chooses too who cares as long as you think you are happy and satisfied with your chosen avenue.Yes it precisely lonesome to be alone since you will be doing things by yourself and indeed i admire those people who are courageously having such kind of continuous tolerance because being in such situation is not really easy.But then regardless of what state of being a person chooses what is important is if he finds satisfaction to it,contentment,gratification and happiness so be it as long as avenues for respect are righteously held.
@resy21curapika (2116)
• Pasay, Philippines
1 May 12
I so totally love your answer.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts about it also. That's really nice. Contentment is something personal and you shouldn't let others rule over your perspectives on it.
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
1 May 12
I've been single for all my entire life (it may change this week, and I'm hoping, but anything can happen), and when I was a teen, of course I was desperate and sad, but now I learnt to accept it and see the positive side of it. Also, I realized that this is still the better option than having a boyfriend just for the sake of having one... this way I'm going to wait for someone who is worth being my partner, and that's what counts.
@resy21curapika (2116)
• Pasay, Philippines
1 May 12
Same thing here, Doroffee. I'm recently working on that process right now.
When I was in high school; I normally won't stood up on something unless I have to. They call me "assasin" way back then. Funny because of how I act towards them; they even sometimes call me cold and silent (and silence is a good weapon of choice; lol) but the point here is; I'm more of actions than words. The next thing you know at school I blow things up; whetber it is a good thing (when it comes to school tournaments) or bad thing (I hitted someone in class out of anger)
Sharing my thoughts and experiences back in high school; I ended up in an industry whereas you need to talk a lot. And I did talk and have conversations because it is a part of my job. I've also handled people and talk to them in a good manner. In my point of view as a team leader; communication plays a big role in handling people and guide them towards sucess.
But there are some few things that you would rather keep it to yourself and enjoying about it. The well-known privacy; well..that's my excuse lately.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts and comments about it Doroffee~!!! Happy mylotting =)
@Iynna12 (67)
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1 May 12
I am lonely person. I feel better. I have much free time for myself to care about my health. I sleep long hours ,go in the park,spend money less on takeaqway foods and restaurants,go out with my family on short visits to the country,read books,work less hours.It's great. I even clean my room only once a week. I do not have to show off that it is always clean.
@resy21curapika (2116)
• Pasay, Philippines
1 May 12
Wows! Congratulations, loner. We're both of a kind.
That shows your independence. Quite impressive in terms of claning the house or room because sometimes others tends to ask help from another one whereas they can do the light chores on their own.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts about it. Happy mylotting.
@jhustinian (612)
• Philippines
1 May 12
I'm not gonna say I'm a loner but maybe an introvert, yes. I really don't like crowds and socializing (socializing in the internet is fine for me though). It's alright, if I feel sincere doing so, but my Mom usually gets annoyed when I don't mingle with our relatives and friends. I don't even like exchanging messages with friends if it's not really about important matters, like school or activities I'm willing to indulge myself too. And yeah, I'm single too, I have quite a number of suitors way back in high school but I rejected all of them because I think it's pointless. Why share my time with them if I think my 24 hours a day is not enough to do all things I really need to do in a day?
@resy21curapika (2116)
• Pasay, Philippines
1 May 12
Way to go Jhustinian.
Most of the time I prfer being online. Maybe that's one of the reasons they put me to chat support team recently... hahaha.
I am a good conversationalist by nature and in events I do hosting for cosplays and contests but in some cases where you need to take a break out from everyone who is pressuring you, Silence helps.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts about it.
