I guess Im just not that interersting
By SissyRose
@SissyRose (235)
United States
May 7, 2012 3:08am CST
I guess I am just not that interesting. I have posted 3 different post today and not one response on any of them. UGH. it angers me, I am not one of these people who start posts just for the money. While I enjoy my earning going up, I really would like answers to my questions. They might seem petty but they mean something to me. To me mylot is a way to express myself without having to show myself. I can all the vunerablity of not understanding something and needing to ask a question without the pressure of asking the question in public. I hope that makes sense. Plus mylot gives me a sense of impowerment when I am backed on an issue that I feel strongly about. Thank you to everyone that answers my questions and don't ridicule, and as for those that over look me. Im sticking my toungue out at you...haha
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24 responses
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
7 May 12
It might well be that you are not interested in the money here but many others are.
I see that you are posting questions but you never go back and make it into a discussion and that could be why people are not responding. You don't earn for their responses, they do, but if you comment back to them, apart from earning yourself and turning it into a discussion (which is what myLot is for) you also give them a chance to comment back again and earn some more.
@SissyRose (235)
• United States
8 May 12
I apologize for not responding back. But for the recorded I read ALL my responses. But since it's nesseccary for everyone to know my life story I guess. I usually get a chance to actually sit down and read the responses at about midnight. by then I am exhausted from running after my kids, and taking care of my home. I cant just sit on the computer all day I am sorry. and I read my responses when I drive 25 miles to go pick my husband up from work right after I drop my daughter off from school. So when I am sittin in the parking lot I read my responses on my phone. . I love the positive responses with great input. The 2 worded ones annoy me. This one for that matter annoys me. People should realize that some people don't get a chance to sit and wait for someone to respond. Also. for the record I get on here because I am a stay at home mom so the people i get to ask questions to is a 4 2 and 1 year old. SOOO it's not like I am going to get an awesome answer when I ask about gastric bypass. But once again responding is hard. at times. Like right now my son is crying on my arm and my daughter is throwing ribbon all over my house. and they both have dirty diapers. ...I apologize for seeming rude but YES I READ THE COMMENTS, and appreciate most of them. Please don't judge people because they put other things over priorty than this site. I enjoy this site because I get questions answered, but I can't be on it all day.
@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
8 May 12
You're right, you're not that interesting!
Nobody's really interested in what's going on with you unless it's either similar to something they're going through or something they dream/have-nightmares about going through themselves.
(Don't feel alone; nobody's interested in anybody else's problems either. 
)
So start conversations about 'things you see going on in EVERYBODY's life'---i.e. your local/national/international news and celebrity gossip. Want to know what EVERYBODY's wondering about? "Search the Web" (top of every myLot-page) for "Yahoo Buzz Buzzlist," get to the 'Buzzlist,' and you'll see what the recent top-searches have been.@SissyRose (235)
• United States
8 May 12
ha that's cute..lol..Ugh but umm im not interested in all the world crap..lol...but your right im really not that interesting..lol
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@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
9 May 12
If you don't want to 'Search the Web' for "Yahoo Buzz," you could at least watch the news (on TV or newspapers or magazines or whatever online news-source is interesting to you) and then come to myLot and post about something you remember and how it affects you.
Or ... what ARE you interested-in?
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
8 May 12
when i first started it was the same. besides, you have to get a lot of friends with YOUR interests or you get no response. plus, mylot has been having a few days glitch of not notifying people/friends of your posts. as for myself, i respond/comment on friends posts when its something that interests me or i know something about. also, i sometimes skip it if they NEVER comment on any of mine. i only saw this because it was in digest. obviously we are finally getting our notifiers. 
@SissyRose (235)
• United States
8 May 12
Thank you. I have gathered that I need to add more friends. I guess I just like asking questions and I never considered having to add friends but I am going to be doing it now. Thank you very much
@SissyRose (235)
• United States
8 May 12
Ha. Thank you. I am honestly not trying to be "interesting" just trying to get other peoples views on things. Even if I don't respond to everyones views I do however appreciate them. I am a stay at home mom so I don't get much input from adults on anything. My husband is usually to tired to speak to me when he gets home because he works night not to mention I know that he doesn't want to talk about things that I am interesting in sometimes
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
8 May 12
Hi! Welcome to MyLot! I'm sorry you feel that way. I felt that way one time in the past, too, and started a discussion similar to this. And I got some advice. Maybe I'll recall some of them: Start with putting a picture in your avatar. Putting it there gives mylotters an impression that you are serious about mylot. Also, be friends to a lot of people because they get notified when you post a discussion (although there has been some glitch lately and the notification through emails is not working. But, still, your friends can see the discussions you started in the "Friends started" tab). The more friends you have, the more likely that they'll notice your discussion and respond. Also, come up with interesting titles. And, choose topics where a lot of mylotters are interested (remember when you chose your interests? Some interests have more members than others.) So, I wish you luck here, and I hope you'll come to enjoy it soon.
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
9 May 12
Oh, and here's more. When you're adding friends, add those who answer your discussion, or one you've answered their discussion, too. Important thing is that you've established that you have had an interaction at one time. You could randomly add friends here, but, when there are new members who add people, some old members are wary of accepting the friend request because there have been instances when these new members turned out to be trolls. So, there was a time I did not accept members who had less than 10 friends and/or rankings of less than 200 because I've experienced having friends who were spammers.
@SissyRose (235)
• United States
8 May 12
Thank you very much for your advice. I will soon be adding a pic,, I just honestly havent ever figured it was that big of a deal. Clearly I was wrong.
@heatherrose (23)
•
8 May 12
I can see you are getting a lot of responses to this discussion and I have looked at your other discussions and see that you are now getting responses. Please understand that you are talking to a worldwide audiance and not just America. For instance I am from the U.K. and we are approx 7 hours ahead of America. You need to give your discussions quite a while for people to answer them. Some people may only come onto Mylot on the weekends. Also when you post a discussion it would be lovely if you asked some questions so that we can join in your discussion more easily and feel a part of what you have said.I see alot of your topics are about weight loss, there's nothing wrong with that, but maybe its not the most popular topic on Mylot. Do you have hobbies, collect things, belong to a group or organisation, have favourite tv programmes or films you can review, do you have a favourite recipe to share, or anything like that?
@SissyRose (235)
• United States
8 May 12
Thank you for your input. I guess that weight loss is such a big issue to me that I think about it ALOT..lol. and thank you for saying that people don't respond right away because I honestly don't respond to ever resoponse I get right away. I do have other things besides this site that I do . So thank you for realizing it.
@annrielyn_03 (350)
• Philippines
7 May 12
Relax there. It's not only you who gets 0 responses in every postings. don't feel bad my friend. it's okay. maybe it's just that they do not see your post that much. well better be involve in answering to discussions so others will note your name and be friends with you so they can see your posts every time you have one.
@SassyBrat (463)
• Canada
8 May 12
I agree, I often don't get answers to my posts. Sometimes people don't see them, or perhaps the more proficient posters aren't online when you post. There may be all sorts of reasons why people don't reply.
Then, out of the blue, people start replying to your posts because suddenly someone is going through and reading posts and realizes that they can contribute to yours. :)
@RawBill1 (8531)
• Gold Coast, Australia
10 May 12
Don't feel too bad. There have been lots of notification issues recently, no one has been getting email notifications from their friends starting discussions so everyone's numbers would be down. Once you have been here for a lot longer and built strong relationships you will find that you get more responses too. 
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
7 May 12
Oh dear don't think like that, the important it's you yourself to feel intersting.
There are many booooring discussions that are really popular maybe because people are giving back to the discussion's owner and answering his as the guy always go to theirs, it's like blogging, so many comments are just returning the favor and not really because everyone is interested, don't feel like that .
Would never ridicule, you seem like a very honest, humble and intersting person.
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Would never ridicule, you seem like a very honest, humble and intersting person. @SissyRose (235)
• United States
8 May 12
Thank you very much. I am sorry it took me so long to respond. I don't do it on purpose. I just get busy sometimes and can't get back. But thank you so much for your encouraging responses.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
7 May 12
Sissy Rose:
Welcome to mylot. You are from USA. It is not night time and you are awake at this time.
Re. your not getting responses for discussions -- I have not seen your previous discussions. Further when we start a discussion, we start only with the conviction that there is a point in it. But much depends on others allotting time for mylot --concentrating on the issue. When that is not adequate we do not get any responses.
I have had many discussion where the responses have not been encouraging. In those cases also friends will post response to encourage us. You can also build up friends list and they will automatically post their responses.
good day.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
7 May 12
sorry read as "it is now night time.....".
It 3.00 pm over here in India.
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
7 May 12
This is the first discussion I have seen of yours but it will definitely help if you respond back when you start disussions and if you add friends. The more friends you have, the more responses you will most likely get.
Now that you brought yourself to my attention I will check out your other discussions and try to put my 2 cents in! Haha!
=) Happy Lotting Friend!
@SissyRose (235)
• United States
8 May 12
I am sorry it took me so long to get back to you. Thank you for your encouraging response, and not making me feel bad. And your 2 cents is always welcomed.
. You had made lots of discussions, and with fair amount of responses. It just I think we can't make everything to be always perfect, right? 
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
7 May 12
to many mylot means a lot or many like to get an answer on their question or some advice. But I also do believe there are so many questions/discussions that it's nearly impossible to answer all of them (esp. if your connections is very slow). I don't think it has anything to do with being interesting or not.
@jahernandezrivas (11288)
• United States
7 May 12
It just happens I am sure you will get some responses sooner or later there are several different time zones out there so don;t get discouraged it will happen and welcome to my lot I have been here for a long time and I have some discussions with no response but I am sure sooner or later it will have one so no worries my friend be patient. Have a great day.
I have been here for a long time and I have some discussions with no response but I am sure sooner or later it will have one so no worries my friend be patient. Have a great day. 
@much2say (53959)
• Los Angeles, California
7 May 12
Don't take it personally, it happens to all of us. If anything, don't get angry about it (not worth it)!! It may not even be about an interesting discussion . . . it could be that it it's in a fast moving interest category, or people just aren't around (could be a timing thing). Could be anything - who knows - and some people could be at least reading your discussion - just not commenting (I know I've done that a zillion times). A lot of people seem to be complaining about not getting notifications lately (I wouldn't know because I rely on the myLot homepage - easier for me) - so it could be that too. In any case, if a discussion doesn't "work", keep going!! I commented on your discussion, so there! Now I'll go check your other discussions!
Now I'll go check your other discussions! 
@cloud31 (5809)
•
7 May 12
I'm sorry if you feel that way.. First people here usually response to discussions and topics according to their interests and expertise. Don't feel bad when some of your discussions has no respondents.
Try to participate more often so you can observe what most member likes to discuss. And what kind topics usually get lots of responses so you will have an idea about members and topics.
Don't be upset everything will be alright and everyone has to start like you.Be patient!!
@edisonbanglos (389)
• Philippines
7 May 12
patience is needed in mylot.. you can't expect people to respond on your discussion all the time.. what if they don't know what to say? remember, you could be reported and get banned if you post comments and responses which do not make sense at all :))
@Bluedoll (16774)
• Canada
7 May 12
I am not sure why it happens. I find not all topics get attention. It doesn’t bother me too much that my own discussion have low responses in that I would rather have one good answer than 50 so so ones. The thing that I though was weird is perhaps more humorous than upsetting. Some of the discussions that get a lot of attention are really preposterous ones. It is not true of all topics however because some really deserve it because they are good ones. It is kind of weird how it works.
