His microphone was ON!!!
By Cody Stewart
@CODYMAC (1356)
San Diego, California
May 12, 2012 5:25am CST
It was a lazy day and all of my friends and I got on Skype to have a group chat. There were at least 12 or so, and we were just talking about the day when out of the blue, there was a, "B****, go ahead and talk to that so-and-so"
We are a Christian group, and were shocked to say the least. But, as some of you know, you can tell who is speaking when the pic of the person lights up. We knew who said it, but everyone was wondering what to do.
So, a few seconds later it was said again, and then a third and so on for another 10 times. I messaged the guy that what he was doing was SUPER wrong, and he needed to stop. What we found out later was the man talking this way was angry because his girl friend was talking to a black man in the chat, somewhat flirting.
After he received the message he came typing into the room, "what did I say?" The man he was talking to replied, "maybe because you are insecure you said those words, but I forgive you".
He said to me in a private chat that he had his mike off, but it is only to block the sound you can hear, not what they can hear, because he used the one on his computer, not the one on the skype toolbar.
We knew he was very wrong but now we no longer have a room where we can go to blow off steam, because everyone is afraid. I told them to not let something like that worry them too much, but I dont know.
What do you all think? Should I try to get the group back together, or should I let it die and maybe get something going on later? I would love it back now, but I just dont know... Some suggestions guys. Thanks. 

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4 responses
@mzz663 (2772)
• United States
14 May 12
Maybe getting another group meeting together is a good idea. Everyone needs to vent sometimes and if the guy that was swearing is really that insecure, all of you could talk to him and help him out somehow. A Christian group, I would think would or should be faster to forgive than any other group.
Why should everyone be afraid to go into the chat? Unless there are young children listening to the chat, and not old enough to understand what is and isn't wrong, it should be an easy fix. Tell your friends that you will have a certain topic on certain days to help each other out with every day problems.
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@CODYMAC (1356)
• San Diego, California
15 May 12
Hello, mzz663. Thank you for your comment. I have started another discussion but not everyone has joined... We are placing the past in the past. I think some of those who responded were correct in that giving it a few days to cool off is what was needed.
Have a great day... 

@CODYMAC (1356)
• San Diego, California
13 May 12
That is what I will try to do, lakantar. It was hard at first, and very sad, but I think the two guys have already forgiven each other. Still there are some who said they would not come back. But, it is what it is, and they have every right to leave and not come back. Thank you for your response. Have a great day. 

@peavey (16936)
• United States
12 May 12
If you can get them all together and talk your way through it so that you're all comfortable, or the ones who aren't can leave, then keep the group. If that doesn't work, then it would probably be best to disband and maybe try again later.
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@CODYMAC (1356)
• San Diego, California
13 May 12
Hello, peavey. Thank you, for your comment. I was thinking about how we were going to get these two together to talk, because the one guy was very much offended at what the other was saying.
I understand why he was angry because if I saw my fiancee flirting with someone, I would be angry as well. But on the other hand, he should have said something to his girl friend in their private chat.
Both of them had been having problems, but no one knew it was that bad. Anyway, I say you are correct. I will try to get them back and see who does not mind staying. As, always, thank you for your comment, and I hope that you have a great day. 

@mensab (4200)
• Philippines
12 May 12
i think it is always worth it to keep a community where each one provides some support for each other. the world is getting crazy. to get a support to provide an anchor and perspective is always welcome nowadays. i think your group is good. let that one incident pass and move on to keeping each other in the flock. i wish you and your group the best.
@CODYMAC (1356)
• San Diego, California
12 May 12
Hello, mensab. I am grateful for your comment, and I want to thank you. The world is getting crazy and that is one reason why this chat was started. I am grateful for my friends, and he too is a good friend, but he really does need to do some soul searching, as I, and others have told him.
We have advised him, and we all forgave him, so it is a start. Now, I have a hope that we can all get back together soon.
Thank you for your comment, and I will do everything to get our group back. So, have a great day, and thanks again. 






