How do you make friends in a new environment?

Philippines
May 13, 2012 4:00am CST
I am a little shy type of person so I don't easily make friends when I am in a new place. I observe first and trying to perceive who are the best that I can connect with. I love people who have real sense for life. I love talking when I get comfortable with people. So s/he must be someone I will love to talk to. How about you? How do you make friends and connect with them?
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@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
7 Oct 12
hi, actually one of my personality is being a friendly but of course i will always check first the attitude they have because attitude of a person is really important to me,every time we moved out to other environment i always make sure to have even one friend.
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• Philippines
16 Nov 12
that's great of you being friendly yet cautious.
@pjha1975 (214)
• India
13 May 12
I used to be a shy fellow as well.. But, over time, I got over it. Nowadays, if I am fairly comfy with the other person, I have no probs connecting with them. You just have to make sure that when you strike a conversation, its always good to discuss normal things... You can always move from general to specific... Its a start but as yu get to know the person better, you can approach the matter differently!!! :-)
• Philippines
13 May 12
Absolutely right. I am very sensitive type of person so I easily sense who's the one to make friends that I can easily connect with.
@lady1993 (27225)
• Philippines
14 May 12
I am quite a shy person too- i only talk to a person who talks to me first. but i think the key is to look approachable, so don't frown or look down much..
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@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
13 May 12
The good news is: everybody is observing first, but there are people who do this way faster as others. You don't make friends in a few minutes or weeks, since friendship is something you have to invest in first. As time goes by you will be able to say if the people you have in your life are friends or acquintances, if the friendship will stay forever or just for some months or years. We all will meet people every day. The closest friends you will make in times of need and between those people who live nearby and have the same age/kind of lifestyle as you are. It's proved. So if it comes to that it seems we don't have the choice at all. Also you have to share something "private". If the other person backs of you know he/she is not that interested, if you get a "story" in return there is a base for trust. I think plenty of people do like shy people, they are not the kind of people we don't like or try to stay away from. So in your case I would advice you to observe, pay attention to the smallest signs.. there is not always a need to have long chats at the first moment, a smile can do miracles as well. Personally I never am or was very eager to make close friends. They just showed up (a big part was abusing me) and I gave them all the chances to prove themselves as a friend (they seldom were). I count with the fact it takes me over 1 year to find a real friend (which doesn't mean I don't meet people during that year and I feel lonesome or bored or have nobody to talk to). I don't focus at 1 person but do different things with different people which is fine with me.
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• Philippines
13 May 12
Yes I agree with you. It is crucial at first meeting that we really have to observe.
• Philippines
13 May 12
I make new friends by not choosing my friends. In a new environment, I make sure to talk to every one of them so that I can tell who I am more comfortable with. But in my case, the more friends I have, it will be better for me. I don't choose my friends. It will be exciting if I have friends who have different personalities and characteristics.
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• India
14 May 12
making a friend in a new environment is so easy and it is not so difficult as it is because it is not the biggest thing in the nature . friendship is a great relationship so we can't make all human beings as a friends . before making a friend we have to choose the good qualities in him and his odds and evens and all other qualities regarding his character then only we can make him as a friend. our friends character decides 50% of our character . i will give the reason why this is like it because the same wave lengths will match each other. and this is the best example for this and some factors such as honesty and dignity are the other factors of this kind . so we will receive a friend by his character only that's it my dear friend
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@dandan07 (1906)
• China
13 May 12
When I moved to a new place, I will try to make friends by go shopping with them. So that under their help I can buy cheap things, and on the way to shopping, we can talk about the life style, the way people dress themselves in the new place and some special dishes. After that, I will try to make some traditional dishes by myself and give them to the ones who I have met. By the way, I can get new friends and can make people believe me.
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
13 May 12
good day risk_taker20, apparently, i am not also good in connecting to new sets of people. as there are times that i do feel insecure since i do not have the very good looking aura. although some of my friends always tells me, that i look great, still, my confidence level is not that high. as a result, i cannot interact easily to new friends that i meet. and just like you are, i do also observe first and get along later with those guys that i find comfortable to be with.
@beachdune (907)
• India
13 May 12
Making new friends in a new environment is actually much easier than making me friends in an accomplished environment . I mean this because one can be easily absorbed into a new environment where everyone are his strangers because people initially don't know his tendencies and proximity trends . Initially people will show interest in you in an new environment and that is the pivotal point that you should make use of . Just freak out and show something that portrays you differently from others . I feel that would be most efficient .
@jennbart (1330)
• Philippines
13 May 12
I make eye contact, then of the other person smiles at me, then I will smile back at them and then that is the time that I will try to connect with them.
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
13 May 12
Me too, i don't talk much with a strange people. However, if live in a new place, i try to make friends more...It will be very boring if we don't have friends. I think just try to talk day by day to know each other more and the friendship will be nicer by the time. Just be as who we are and friendly when talking with someone.
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@superbadx (484)
• Malaysia
13 May 12
I am also a little shy person like you. But i can make friends rather easily in a new environment, but mostly would be around my age. Since in my experience, most person in around the same age shared little experience that it is fairly easy to start conversation with.