Time not wasted

I have never felt it was time wasted. I always have believed things happen for a reason, and that it is a stepping stone to the next phase of our lives. It's too bad that she is looking at as time wasted. Obviously there had to be some good times involved during the relationship, and although she might be upset to begin with, it's better, if she is gonna remember it, to remember the good. Also, in my opinion, the time she is wasting is the time spent crying over him, because I'm sure he isn't not crying over her!

Yeah, thats a hard topic, people have so many emotions she might think its a waste of time now but, maybe when shes over being hurt she will she things diffrently.

hi ladyhw, When we are brokenhearted we had a mixed emotions hatred,sadness and so on when my past relationship did not work out I just simply move on even it hurts me so much I don't even tell to my friends how mean he is or tell not so good things about him because I spend many years with him and he made me happy during that time, it's just we are not meant to be. I understand your friends feelings she just can't accept it easily but eventually when hatred is gone she will be smiling on what she said and done. hope she will find someone better. happy mylotting

Hmm..I think nothing is a waste of time if you use the experience wisely.

I think a relationship with someone is never a trash once it has ended. It's actually a gift. It's an opportunity to learn something out from it, right? It makes you stronger for the next relationship to come. Yes, it would really leave you hurt and weak but invest time to heal and let it pass and you'll get stronger and wiser.

i must also say, that her time wasn't wasted. it just saved her. it may be a waste of time if she's still with her boyfriend if her bf doesn't love and care for her no more. she must be thankful that she was given a chance to find someone else worth her time. she can cry her heart out now and must move on later. and find another guy. it doesn't sound easy, but if she spend her time crying and crying for that guy, that will just be a wasted time.

The total time they spent together when they are still in love is never wasted because love was served to their purpose.She just say this because of the impact it brought to her mind that they are separated and that they are not for each other because he have found another love.Time could only tell that could later forget her former lover and that she would open her heart for another love.

In time maybe she will see that her time wasn't wasted like she thinks now. I've learned that no matter what we do in life, we tend to learn things we would never have known or realized otherwise. Different relationships we are in tend to make us grow and learning from past mistakes is what makes life better later down the road. If I thought my past relationships was a waste of time and was able to erase them, I wouldn't be the person I am today. I am totally the opposite of what I once was....shy, gullible, didn't stand up for myself or anyone else, took everyone and everything too serious, was so sensitive that someone would look at me mean and I would start to cry. I am none of those anymore. I'm strong, aggressive when I need to be that cries in front of no one. I'm far from shy and very loud and opinionated. I like what I've learned from others that I've been in a relationship with. Lessons in life all eventually come in handy.

I agree with you. I won't say that my time was wasted when I was with my ex. I did love him that time, right? So why should I regret it? I never regret the time I spent in the past. If my relationship can't stay any longer then it's just what it is. We weren't meant together. Instead of regretting everything, I learned to be stronger and wiser. I think your friend needs time. And during this time, I hope she can learn to get stronger and won't say "waste" too early about her failure.

I have felt like that too that it was a waste of time. When we are sad and angry, we often forget about the happy moments of loving someone. It's not a waste of time, I know that I learned a lot from it, it brought me closer to realize what is important for me, and learnt a lot about myself too.

for me a time spent with someone is not really a waste of time even if it ended, if you love the person. being with the person you love is a time well spent.

I agree. In every relationship were not wasting our time instead we start to learned how to love, to care,to trust and to share feelings to others. Being inlove with someone and love by someone was one of the greatest feelings and experienced that we ever had. And if the relationship don't last, of course we got hurt and cried alot, but we learned how to move on and makes us a stronger.