i don't think i can do this anymore

United States
May 14, 2012 6:30pm CST
i thought i was training a new person for the weekends. :) but this morning, i was told that they weren't cutting it. then it was said that i don't need to worry about trying to find a weekend person. i take that as, they aren't going to concern themselves about finding me a weekend person. my daughter graduates from high school next weekend. I AM GOING TO BE THERE!!!!!! i have missed out on a lot of family get togethers because of this job. my daughter's graduation WILL NOT be one of those occassions!!!!!!! considering that i have worked nonstop since the first weekend of march, i'm bone tired! i need a break!! i've been working for this individual for almost two years without a break! haven't even hinted at vacation or anything, but damn it! i can't give anymore!!!!!!!!!!!!!! now, i've got to figure out how to find another position without letting them know about it when i work 10 hour days and have no computer access till i get home. i just can't do it anymore.
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7 responses
@peavey (16936)
• United States
15 May 12
I don't blame you. They're asking way too much of you. Working without a break for over two months? That should be illegal. I would just tell them (don't ask, tell them) that you're taking off for your daughter's graduation. There comes a time when you have to stand up and say, "No more." Good luck.
• United States
15 May 12
it's only illegal if you recieve a w2. i'm considered self employed, so it's not. i was trying to help out, thinking this would only last a month or so. but now, it's going on almost 3 months. she keeps posting the job on craigslist, but noone calls on it. she won't post anywhere else. i don't know what else to do. hubby has already stated that if she tries to make me work, i'm to walk. he's tired of it too. i'm glad i have his support.
@peavey (16936)
• United States
16 May 12
Oh, I see. Well, since you're self employed, I'd definitely be looking for something else. She can't make you work. It's good you have your husband's support.
@dandan07 (1906)
• China
15 May 12
I think your daughter's graduation is very important to her and to you. So I think you have to try to take part in it or you will lose a very important thing in your daughter's grow up. I think you can tell your boss about that, if he/she can not accept that, fire him/her and find a new job.
• United States
15 May 12
i definitly will be there. she's my oldest so i really need to be there.
@elmiko (6630)
• United States
15 May 12
well its a once in a lifetime event when it comes to your daughter. seems like they would understand why you would want to take that day off, but with the way employers are i would say they don't care.
@jonnifc (1017)
• Philippines
15 May 12
I remember someone telling me that we all juggle 2 types of balls in the air - rubber balls and glass balls. "Family" is one of the glass balls while "job" is one of the rubber balls. We should therefore be more careful in handling our glass balls because if we drop them, we might not be able to put them back together. Rubber balls will just bounce if dropped. So I say go to your daughter's graduation. No job can make you feel as good as seeing your daughter get her diploma and share with her the joy of graduating.
@vertu007 (683)
• Romania
15 May 12
I agree that family is the most important. However is not easy at all to mix it up between job and being there for the ones you love. Maybe you can find another job or work the hour problems with your current employer. Congrats for your daughter.
• United States
15 May 12
You should definitely go a graduation is a big part of a journey. When i graduated 3 years ago my mom and dad were there and even though i didn't have the best relationship with them i can still remember graduation clearly. Im sure that your daughter will spite you if you cant come because i know i will love my parents no matter what i know that it is important that you be there even if its for a few minutes.
• United States
14 May 12
Yeah, i would go to your daughters graduation, my dad and step mom they showed up to my graduation but, i never even seen them they didnt say to come say hi to me or anything because he had to work i was mad for so long I still am when i think about it alot. It was my big day i hardly ever see them anymore and its alot more then that my step mom is sort of controling and my dad cant do anything without her and she had a 7 year old and they have a 4 year old together. But, the big thing is i wouldnt miss her graduation.