Relationships... Fun or Stressful?

@haylib (36)
United States
May 18, 2012 1:49am CST
Hello friends! Personally I think your relationship can be either fun or stressful depending on the people and what they surround themselves with and how they act. When a relationship is fun, it's always nice to be involved with someone. But when it's stressful.. it's just work. These are my personal opinions and I think relationships should be fun and serious but only at the right times. Don't stress yourself out and have fun while you're still young but remain loyal to the one you're with. What do you guys think? Fun or stressful? Do you like being in a relationship?
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• United States
18 May 12
A relationship can be fun and stressful, no doubt, but it wouldn't be a relationship if it wasn't eventful in all aspects. I love my boyfriend, don't get me wrong, but yes, we definitely have all of our ups and downs. Sometimes, we both just want to yell and scream at each other for something, but then afterwards, we want to make love to one another. Relationships are interesting that way.
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• India
18 May 12
In this fast moving world, its all about money!. if you have money, relationship would be fun. you would take your lover to wherever she wants and buy her whatever she wants. But if you dont have money it would be an upside-down scenario. You would often fight for stupid reasons. The relationship would not be interesting if you dont have money. True love can only happen in movies. In real life, its all about Money.
19 May 12
I disagree. Maybe for you its all about money that just means you haven't found that right person. Love is when you find that person that you know you can enjoy their company rich or poor. They will love you and you will love them despite all the petty crap in the worl. Your pessimism is very offputting, but I do understand where you are coming from. You just need to find that person for you and I'm sure it will happen someday
• India
21 May 12
Everyone has their own opinions based on their personal experience. I've posted that comment based on my experience in a relationship. I have really had a bad time without money and i have experienced the difficulties of being in a relationship without money. For the sake of having a discussion, we can say that Money is not needed for an healthy relationship. But practically, we need Money. Even if the couples are poor, they search for money to raise their standard of living which increases the love between them. i dont mean that Money is directly proportional to love but Money is essential for the survival. only if you can survive, u can think about love and relationship, right? Purely my opinion. I apologize if its offending.
• United States
21 May 12
I disagree. You can find a lot of poor couples out there who enjoy their relationship. It's not the money that matters, its the love that you have with each other.
@banta78 (4326)
• India
18 May 12
I think healthy relationship is one where you and your partner enjoy each other company and can be their true selves. When we try to mask our true feelings or try to hard impress we generally end up creating more friction and stress in the relationship. Professional relationships tend to be more serious and less fun. Understandably so. Meetings are focused on getting work done and there is less room for leisure there.
@haylib (36)
• United States
18 May 12
I agree! Always be your true self and complications will not follow.
@annierose (19526)
• Philippines
18 May 12
There is no perfect relationship. There will always be heated arguments, fights, silence and sometimes being apart. There will always be up and down. Through those problems and difficulties, lovers can know how much they love each other.
19 May 12
I also agree .. very much true! :D
@haylib (36)
• United States
18 May 12
That's a perfect way to put it! I definitely get where you're coming from, Annie. And I agree 100%!
• Indonesia
18 May 12
why do you start a relationship?? what do you expect from the relationship? happiness or sadness? That's the main point for me. People should have fun, in love and happy each other in relationship with each couple. relationship is moment when we know the character of our lover. When relationship turn into serious relation, may stress is involve, but this should be not in long term. I mean there is time to be serious and fun, but should not over stress. Just have fun or leave the relationship that can't make you happy
• China
20 May 12
I get your point. Enjoy the moment being with each other , cos we never know about the future but we know now. i like the state ,too. comfortable without stress. well, it's kinda hard. i mean if you don't really feel good to someone ,how can you really being together? and i think if people really in love, they always wanted to be together in the long run. Im kinda in that situation. I met a guy online from France before he came to China to learn Kongfu. and he came to see me before he left for France. was wonderful days with him.
• Indonesia
21 May 12
hello, carrisamin, welcome to mylot. if we can't feel comfort each other then we should not decided to be together with him for long time. for me, comfortability is the first reason why I decide dating a guy. I can stand too long with person who I'm not comfort with. do you mean you had a long distance relationship? do you really comfort with this? if you both happy and enjoy the relationship, I hope the road is not hard to take care your relationship...
21 May 12
For me, entering a relationship is fun especially if the one you are in a relationship with is the one whom God has chosen for you to be your partner till' the end of time.Stress is always a part of a relationship but as long as you two know how to handle it, everything will be fine.If you really love him/her you should learn how to protect your relationship to make it long lasting.Just stay optimistic and everything will be fun. :)
@simonelee (2715)
• China
1 Jun 12
I agree with you. If you met the right one for you then you overcome all the trials that God planned for you. It would be much easy since you are with someone whom you love. Everything is a piece of cake. Guarding the relationship is not easy since we are surrounded by negative and if you live positive then no worries.
@derek_a (10874)
19 May 12
As a Zen practitioner, relationships to me are an opportunity to learn how to relate in life. To learn about the art of coming together with another person, so that eventually the two become one. Fun can be had in relationships, but there are bound to be times when there are going to be clashes, because each partner has be raised to realize values that differ slightly, if not quite a lot. As a therapist (now retired) I have counselled many couples with relationship problems and most of the problems arose from there being lies in the relationship. In my opinion, a relationship grows through truth. There are no guarantees that any relationship will be easy or last forever, but one thing that is certain, is that if commitment and truth us brought into the relationship, then it will change and keep on changing and evolving.. To me, that is what all life is all about. _Derek
• Philippines
19 May 12
This depends on how you work out your relationship. Relationship can be fun if you and your partner have already talked regarding boundaries, have already settled your differences and understand each other. you also need to accept not just the good things about your partner but also the bad ones. There is no perfect relationship but you can make it worth it and ideal. A relationship can be stressful if you begin to doubt your feelings and start to look for issues from small things, when trust is already broken and when you feel no happiness anymore.
@simonelee (2715)
• China
1 Jun 12
Both. All relationship is fun and can be stressful too. It is not normal if you only experience fun with your partner. How your relationship grow if you don't feel trials and issues. How can you survive if you don't experience difficulties with your lover? It is not how you define stress, it is how you handle the situation and turn it into positive and in favor of you. Have fun and enjoy stress too.
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
I like being in a relationship. I think it is fun when you are in a relationship. Full of love and happiness when you are with the person you love. In some ways and times it becomes more stressful if the couple makes it stressful. Stress in a relationship for me is really only after the 2. Like they don't get to understand each other and be able to come up with only 1 good decision which results to a fight becoming a stress in a relationship. But, if the two are in unison with decisions, I think there will be less stress. However, we can still say relationships without the stress is a little bit boring already.
• India
19 May 12
Relations can be both stressful and fun and it depends on how you interact or deal with each of the relation. I find relations are quite fun. It is better to consider it as a fun because when we consider in others manner it turns out as a heavy load on our head.
• India
19 May 12
Relations can be both stressful and fun and it depends on how you interact or deal with each of the relation. I find relations are quite fun. It is better to consider it as a fun because when we consider in others manner it turns out as a heavy load on our head.
• India
20 May 12
Relationship isbest left until the fun begins as soon as the mutualestrangement has become strained.
• Philippines
21 May 12
Love Relationships are always a combination of these two: fun and stress. But of course, the relationship would not be healthy anymore if there are more stressful moments than the fun ones. As much as possible, say no to stress by avoiding arguments and unnecessary tantrums :)
• United States
19 May 12
Life is stressful , being with my guy is not. He takes my stress away. He is my hope, my best friend.
• Philippines
19 May 12
It can be fun and also stressful. All of it depends on the two of you. Though most relationship will become stressful as time pass by. Though personally, I prefer to be single rather than in a relationship. Because a relationship means being run by two person and there's nothing more stressful than having someone running your life.
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
19 May 12
Of all my relationships,they were more stressful then fun! I never knew how to be in a relationship. I thought you never worked on it!Relationships just went along smoothly without work! You have to work on a relationship! They are to hard to deal with! I have trouble trusting men,myself and had alot of bad things happen to me in relationships! After years of thinking I needed a man in my life I finally stopped dating and am happy being single!
• Indonesia
19 May 12
Hi, I'm not that young anymore but I do enjoy a fun relationship with anyone, especially those who're looking for fun relationships. I rather ignore those people with no smiles on their face, I don't want to be carried away in a stressful condition, I prefer those who're like to cheer up. I like to tell jokes and listen to them. Enjoy your life .
@rkennedee (333)
19 May 12
Having a relationhip is fu specialy if you're enjoying each other's company at the same time it's really stressful whenever there's a thing that you keep on arguing. You just need to talk it over and compromise after these thing will be fun again.
@aritahime (221)
• Indonesia
19 May 12
Of course I like being in a relationship hahaha.. I think a relationship should be fun and serious, but not stressful. I think it will just hurt yourself and your heart to have a stressful relationship, better look for another one (oops!) My recent relationship with my current boyfriend is fun enough, especially because he never gets mad at me, thank God for that. But we can also be serious when we are discussing about something serious, like while talking about our future relationship, or talking about our families. That's my opinion. A relationship should be fun, and also serious if necessary, but it should not be stressful.