Closure

first I would like to ask how did you say that you past is still in you heart? Do you still love him? And Yes closure is an important matter in a relationship so that the person who is left behind wouldn't be hanging in air asking for questions that couldn't be answered. But it's also a fact that all of us are brave enough to say goodbye to somebody. We just need to move on and find the right one for us who will make us happy and be with us for the rest of our lives.

I can understand the feeling of having that person in your heart,though I haven't experienced the end of a relationship yet.What's more.I don't want to have such an experience in my life.LOL... But I still think that having closure for a failed relationship is very important.Breaking up a relationship peacefully is pretty hard a thing for lovers,for they've been loving each other for so long a time.Though I haven't experienced the end of a relationship,there are still tough time in my relationship with my gf.Every time when the tough part comes,I am so upset.I want to find out a solution to keep our relationship well.Sometimes we know that we love each other,but disagreements and quarrels might appear in our life.Ample communication is the method I've found to overcome the tough parts of our relationship. I think having closure for a failed relationship is similar.The relationship ends,but we still have our life.Saying farewell and wishes to each other is hard,but it's the thing we should do.Keep that person in heart and live well in your new life,best wishes,friend!

Closure doesn't happen as you think it does. It isn't about talking and closing things up so that you can move forward, it's all in your heart. A lot of times I have had friends telling me that they talked for the last time but they're still in love with the guy but the guy has another one in his life. The guy had closure and thought that you were okay with it, that's why he's okay. The real closure happens when finally you can get rid of your feeling and you don't feel the way you do with the person. It can happen in a few days, weeks, months, or even years depending on the person. My last relationship had closure when I found someone else. He was already married but still I was holding on to him. We had talked about closure several times but still I can't help but cry thinking that he is the one for me and I would never find someone else. After around 3 years talking 'closure', I finally got over him. When we last talked I could no longer see why I was in love with the person in the first place. He sounded cheesy instead of being sweet. He looked ridiculously over confident when in fact that was his true nature from the beginning. His words didn't impress me anymore and I no longer saw that he's someone I wanted to hang out with. I was not angry with him nor was it denial because while we were talking, I just didn't see the point as to why I fell for him in the first place. This coming out from me who had been in love with the guy for 8years! I guess I had closure. That's why I no longer saw him as the one I love. He is the boy that I loved but I could no longer remember the feeling - that was closure. So, it's not about closure, the physical talking and moving on. It's about what's real in your heart and when you no longer remember feeling the same way for the guy. Yes, it's tough, you can't even imagine living life without him but I dare tell you that it gets better after a while. You will soon wonder what made you so gaga over the guy. I guess the trick to this one is just to cry if you want to cry, laugh when you feel like it, and be lazy when you want to talk to him (if you feel like talking to the guy or calling, just activate your laziness so that you won't instantly grab the phone and cry your heart out to him). Talk to friends more about other stuff instead of moping about your failed relationship. Stop talking about it altogether. When you feel like expressing yourself about your failed relationship, stop yourself and just do something else. Soon you will see that you would forget him for hours, then days, then weeks, then months.. until finally you have even forgotten how he smelled like, or how he sounded like.. or even forget his name and how he looked like - this is when you realize you are over and you had closure for real. So don't worry, it will be over. Have a great MyLot experience ahead!

I think it is very important and also may never happen. I have one relationship that never had closure. Not because we wanted it that way. But,because we lost contact and never found each other.

I agree. You need to make things final so no one hopes for anything in the future. When you leave a person hanging just like that, it would be hard to move on yourself.

It's very important. It what makes you move on. I don't know exactly how you can do that but you have to do it somehow. Maybe is different for everyone. A rebound boy/girl won't get you anywhere, you can't use other people to forget the ones you love. It's a score that you have to settle with yourself before moving on.

It is not easy to forget what happens in our life, especially love. The relationship is ended but there is its scar node in our heart...