I feel like a turd
By tink91879
@tink91879 (742)
United States
May 21, 2012 9:10pm CST
I was getting ready for a meeting and I would be meeting a new lady. I had looked at her facebook and she reminded me of some one i knew that I was used by. I invested in a friendship and when she got everything she wanted she left. My husband is my best friend, but I felt bad having invested so much in a so called friend. So in meting this new girl I didnt want to give her the time of day. I met her and she was not like I thought. Now I feel like a turd for thinking she would be like my so called friend since she came from around the same area. Live and learn. Im hoping I can make a good friendship and be better on my judging skills.
4 responses
@ladyhemingway (965)
• Philippines
22 May 12
I think that is the thing about people generalizing. I used to do that before. I was fooled by a guy I have met when I was in college, and then after a bad break up, I consider every other guy to be like that guy. I know I was so wrong because eventually I met some guys who are up to now are still my friends. 
@tink91879 (742)
• United States
22 May 12
Its hard when some one stabs you in the back. In our situation our husbands are gone a lot so its important to make good friendships, but you find a lot of women are just back stabbers. I dont see this lady to be one. Im taking the time to get to know her. Friendships are important in our husbands line of work.
@roberten (3128)
• United States
22 May 12
Sometimes people we meet suffer the ills of our past due to no fault of their own. I would be in our best interest to judge individuals on their own merits but we are only human, therefore we are prone to error. You fell prey to human nature but you are also being the bigger person by recognizing your fault and making a sincere effort to correct it. You have lived and learned.
@tink91879 (742)
• United States
22 May 12
Thank you! I think she will make a good friend so Im taking the steps to get to know her. She definatly is not like the friend who stabbed me in the back. I think its a good start.
@bird123 (10632)
• United States
22 May 12
When meeting new people, I always approach them with a blank slate. I ignore all talk, gossip, or hearsay. I ignore how their appearance makes me feel. We are all spiritual beings. We can't discover who they really are until we experience who they are for ourselves.
Don't feel badly for your actions. Lots of people make the mistake you did. The important thing is the lesson we learn and if it stays with us. I'm sure you can find a way to do something special, unconditionally for this lady. She will start seeing you differently then. It's never too late to make things right. Hmmm?? Maybe a German Chocolate Cake or maybe a Homemade Apple Pie would do. Yummy, I like you better already.
@tink91879 (742)
• United States
22 May 12
Funny you mentioned apple pie. She made an awesome apple pie. Im not an apple pie fan, but hers was great. I have already started on getting to know her better. Another friend and I are going to dinner and we invited her to come along. I think it will go well.
@much2say (53942)
• Los Angeles, California
23 May 12
That happens. I remember on the first day I went to high school, my friend and I saw this girl whom we thought was another girl we knew from elementary school. We disliked that girl so much for so many reasons but we had not seen her since 7th grade. It got us to start talking about her again. Well, after a couple days, we realized it was NOT her after all - although she looked A LOT like her. We overheard her speak, and discovered that could not be her . . . she turned out to be a foreign exchange student and oh such a sweet person!! OOPS!!
