Umh.....A baby was his son...now the baby is not his son anymore!!!!
By ryanong
@ryanong (9664)
Vietnam
May 23, 2012 9:43pm CST
Last night i received a long phone call from an online friend, UK guy who i am in online friendship since 2 years ago.
He told me that a baby 2 years old in thailand is not his baby when he saw the DNA result. And he said he won't support money as well as going to thailand to see that baby anymore because the baby is not his son at all. He already told to the baby's mother about his decision also and she had to accept it.
(What i know is he often goes to thailand in his vacation (2 times a year, 10-15 days in each time) to see that baby and regularly support money for the baby every month)
I told him i know it is expensive for DNA test but better he should do DNA one more time to ensure that the baby is his son or not...and then make a final decision. He told don't need it more because it is a precise result...
Well, the baby was his son..and now the baby is not his son anymore. How about your opinion about this problem? Have you ever face to this situation?
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6 responses
@cindytandry (69)
•
24 May 12
i think he don't even have any responsibilities again to that baby and his mother, but still if he feel he have any soul connection with that baby after 2 years being his 'son' and feel free to support money for that baby and his mother, i think he still can do it because helping people is such kind of good thing, but sure if you have much money to do it, if you don't, then you have the fact that you are free for not giving a peny for that baby and his mother because they don't even his family :D
@ryanong (9664)
• Vietnam
25 May 12
Well, he lives in UK and they live in thailand. I think he spent much money for every time he went to thailand to see the baby, and support money every month. He is kind but i don't think he is too kind till support money for the baby is not his son and the mother cheated him in a long time.
Last night, he told me he wanted to test DNA after a kid was born but he delayed it..till now. He was so upset when the woman cheated him so long time like that.
I respect his decision, and if i am in his shoes, i would do the same as he did: don't support money more, don't see the baby more.
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
24 May 12
I think it was not good for the girl to have lied about him being the father. If he's clearly not, I am now wondering how many others she was with??!
Anyhow, it's too bad that he's not the father because he is really giving the effort of being a father. Too bad for the kid because even the mom doesn't know who the real father is.
Have a great MyLot experience ahead!
@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
24 May 12
Uh uh, sorry for your friend.
However, he can still support the kid if he wants.
He considered the kid his son for sometime and I am sure, the kid did have a spot in his heart already.
If he manages to visit the kid for several times- it is because he haven't find out the truth- and he believes it is his son.
One more thing, the kid is innocent and maybe he believe it is his son because he had slept with the mother.
I know it's kind of cheating because the mother let him believes the kid is his son.
Just my opinion- there is nothing wrong if he would still consider giving the kid a little support.
@much2say (57760)
• Los Angeles, California
24 May 12
This is the kind of thing I see on those crazy talk shows . . . DNA tests proving a father to NOT be the father. It's heartbreaking to say the least. Some step up to the plate and say the ARE the father anyway because they've raised the baby and seen it grow . . . and they love the child no matter what. Others cannot handle it (understandably) as it was deceitful on the mother's part . . . the now "not" father shouldn't be obligated to financially support a child that is not his. But the poor child is a victim too . . . if the "not" father decides to sever the relationship with this child, the child will be missing the only father it ever knew. It's devastating all around.
@ryanong (9664)
• Vietnam
24 May 12
I understand your sharing, Much2say.
But in this case, my online friend is living in UK now and a baby living with her mother in thailand. He used to travel to thailand and met that woman, they did it...and then when my friend went back to UK, she said a baby is his baby so that my friend took responsibility of it. They don't do married but he does visit a baby and support money every month.
I don't think he did wrong when he wanted to check DNA in here, and the result shows that the woman cheated on him...The woman is a person who knows exactly who is her baby's father and she should ask the right support from the right father.
I pity for a kid too, but in this case, i think my friend did right.
@JHkerriokey (105)
• United States
24 May 12
DNA testing is extremely accurate especially when you are being ruled out. If he was ruled out there is no need for another test. It sounds like all that traveling and support would cost a good bit but if he's not the dad he shouldn't be paying it!
