Girlfriends kids
By dansazz
@dansazz (1058)
United States
May 24, 2012 10:19am CST
So I am a 24 year old man and my girlfriend is a 42 year old woman. She has 2 kids 19 and 21. They both have the mentality of a 6 year old. They both lived with us for a long time, and the daughter still doea. She has a baby. What should I do? We gave her 6 months to find somewhere else to live, and she sat on her butt the whole time, now she is crying and complaining that she will be homeless, and she needs more time. Should we give her more time? IDK her mom is taking pitty on her and trying to talk me into giving her more time, but she doesn't deserve it. I don't want to have long fights with her mom either tho. And I don't want to loose this relationship over this. We have a baby together also, and I want it to work for us. What should I do? I have been driven crazy by her kids for the past 2 years and I'm ready for it to be just the three of us. Any thoughts or suggestions? P.S. if you have anything to say about our age difference, just keep it to yourself. I don't play that hater crap.
6 responses
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
25 May 12
Umh,i understand your situation. She lives in another place is good way for all. Then better you help her to find another place to rent since she has a small baby or you ask her mom do it if you are so busy and have no time to look for.
Best wish for all you guys..
@dansazz (1058)
• United States
25 May 12
her mom is helping her to find a job, and she is probably going to live with friends until she can get her own place. She does have the babys dad to help with the baby. I think it's her responsibility, and she should figure it out. What's she going to do when her mom isn't here to help her?
@dansazz (1058)
• United States
26 May 12
I think that she needs to figure things out on her own. She is 21 or 22 i dont remember, she needs to learn to rely on herself. What if something happened to her mom and she didn't have her to come to? then what would she do? She needs to learn that life isn't easy and you gotta figure it out on your own.
@stary1 (6612)
• United States
24 May 12
dansazz
Wow thos is a tough one. There isn't just the girl to consider, but an innocent baby as well. I am afraid my suggestion would be to make the most of this..you can't turn out your wifes daughter and baby and expect your wife to go along with it...
@GemmaR (8517)
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25 May 12
It is always hard when your partner has children with other people, because obviously you're not wanting to have them living with you, however she probably feels as though she should be letting them live there as they are her children and she will feel as though she has a duty to care for them as their Mother. You should be aware of this, because if you push the issue too hard it will feel as though you are making her choose between you and her children, and this is one thing that you're just never going to be able to win.
@konomashii (49)
• Philippines
25 May 12
if her 2 kids are both mentally challenged, noting their ages, you should take them into a hospital or nursing homes. in that case, they will be helped and fed on time. there will be always someone to look after them (since you both are busy working). if they're just acting like kids and not mentally challenged give them due dates (like giving them a week to find a job so they can afford to live independently and if after a week they still live with you and does not do anything, you may force them to go, if you can force them) well here in our country as long as the kids want to stay with their parents, they will stay.but as of what i know in foreign countries, kids 16 and above already live independently.
@Janky23 (54)
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25 May 12
I don't care about age gaps becasue[b][/b] I have a suitor now who is 3 years younger that me and I am starting to like him...In your situation, You and your partner should talk. Her kids is at the right age to find their own. They should stand for their own also especially the one with the kid. she has a baby now and being a mother she should take responsibility to take care of her baby, not her mother and not you. How can she know how to live in her own if her mother still allows her to stay with you? it is not wrong to help her and her baby but she living with you without doing nothing for herself and the kid is already a burden to you and your partner. Her mother should teach her not to depend on her by sending her out of your place. She should find her way of survival.[i][/i][u][/u]
@poppywoppy (89)
• United States
25 May 12
I think that best thing to do would be to give the daughter and extra month or two to search for a place but make sure that you really press the matter. Don't let a day go by were you reminding her of the fact she has to leave soon or she will get comfortable think that you have forgotten all about it and she can keep staying there for as long as she wants. After that second chance she has to go, even if she has to sleep on the curb.
@cinderella8809 (64)
• China
25 May 12
yeah,It is good idea to give the kids more time to find their FIT house. It is good for each other.
