beauty is everything

By C
@ShyBear88 (59277)
Sterling, Virginia
May 24, 2012 12:33pm CST
I'm watching some tv today and this 9 year old girl that does pageants said that facial beauty is everything today. I'm sitting here think really is that what parents are teaching there young children that the way they look is everything in life. Me I'm a mom of a little girl and I would never teach her that because beauty is only on the outside that doesn't make or give people anything in life it's what on the inside the drive to do or want something.
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@ally12 (1202)
• Philippines
25 May 12
Maybe that was what taught to her for that pageant's Q and A portion. They thought its a winning answer for the said event. And I have this belief on any beauty contest brain is just secondry. They makes their decision more based on outside appearance. Well this is what I beleive. And you are right, never teach our children to rely on things for success that fades in time, just like beauty.
1 person likes this
• United States
25 May 12
In beauty pageants it's more than a pretty face and a pretty figure that wins.... it's the whole package. How the person presents themselves. Even a really cute toddler won't win the big crown unless the judges saw something special in them. It gets even more complex as they get older... they have to give the right answers when they are questioned about things. The comedian, Red Skelton once said, "Beauty is only skin deep, but ugliness goes all the way to the bone." I believe that's true. If you are ugly on the inside it shows on the outside... and if you are beautiful on the inside it is also seen on the outside, no matter what your appearance looks like.
@ShyBear88 (59277)
• Sterling, Virginia
25 May 12
I don't think it has to do with the fact that is what she does. A lot of little girls these days say things like that, that aren't even in that type of activity. I do agree but little girls that do pageants don't do questions and answers at all to my knowledge its more of the like the high school level girls and boys that do that. Normally around this girls age of what I've seen they are asked what they want to be when they growing up, there favorite food.
@marguicha (215208)
• Chile
24 May 12
I´m ashamed of those parents who are selling their children´s childhood and make them do what maybe they wanted to do, but older. Those children are not more beautiful than the rest you see everywhere. But the poor girls are dressed as s luths with lipstick, artificial eyelashes and the kind of movements that would be appropiate at a night club. I don´t understand why social workers worry so much about parent who ground their children and do nothing in these cases. The media has its say too.
@marguicha (215208)
• Chile
25 May 12
Yes, I understeand. But the media does not have contests to show children with other abilities but spend money on pageants. And that´s because people see that and the show can the sold. It all comes to what are the values in today´s society.
@ShyBear88 (59277)
• Sterling, Virginia
25 May 12
The discussion isn't about pageants it's self just what society is teaching kids these days boys and girls about what looks are important that whats on the inside.
@ShyBear88 (59277)
• Sterling, Virginia
25 May 12
There parents spend the money on the pageants the children doesn't. Like said the pageant isn't the what the discussion is about. Its not just girls that go to pageants or see them its any girl at any age. I've seen 3 and 4 years old care about what they look like. It feeds off from the parents more then the media does. Little girls look up to there mothers and what they see from there parents is what the repeat and even dads do it as well. Where everything has to be beautiful and perfect. I mentioned the girl being in the pageants but it has nothing to do with her mind set but what her parents are feeding. There are adults that girls are even into that sort of thing and looks and your appearance get shoved down there face. I've seen my husband grandmother that is 60 years old talk to his cousin how is our age 23 being told she needs to be skinner that she needs to be more like her little sister that are ranging from the age of 16 down to 4 years old.
@adforme (2114)
25 May 12
Beauty is something that is always judged unfairly. It is a term that is associated with things that are good, pleasant, and right. Well, we all know that you cannot judge a book by its cover. I am looking for beauty in just about every way I know how; and the beauty that I hope to find is that that is true. In a nutshell, to each his or her own with respect to the concept of beauty. I know it is real, and isn't always associated with people.
@adforme (2114)
25 May 12
I agree.
@ShyBear88 (59277)
• Sterling, Virginia
25 May 12
Of course people just isn't with people its pretty much in everything around us. We all just see it differently from one another. As long as we don't teach the younger generation that beauty on the outside is important then the one on the inside they will be so vail and do those crazy things to make there outside better instead of just being happy with what they having.
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
26 May 12
Your daughter will be a better adjusted adult than the one you saw on TV.
@ShyBear88 (59277)
• Sterling, Virginia
26 May 12
I would hope so as well as for my son too.
@GemmaR (8517)
25 May 12
I think that it is such a shame when children are brought up like this, because they should be taught that it is what is inside a person that really counts, not the beauty on the outside. The problem if children are taught this is that they are going to lose their looks at some point, and if they have been taught that it is so important, they're going to have a lot of issues with their self esteem in the future. I would never do that to my children, as I believe in teaching them about what is really important rather than just putting silly ideas into their heads.
@ShyBear88 (59277)
• Sterling, Virginia
25 May 12
beauty on the inside is more important then the outside of what we look like. You might have a pretty shell but it doesn't say much about you.
• Philippines
25 May 12
if her mom is desperately wanted her to eat vegies, well that is normal, or if her mom forced her to join a pageant and win it, its just normal for a young girl to think like that. im not yet a mother but i know thats wrong. but of course, moms (even you) trick your kids. right? she's just a little kid. give her time, she'll change her mind. and im sure, the kid didnt win.
@ShyBear88 (59277)
• Sterling, Virginia
25 May 12
I think all moms want there kids to eat veggies. I know I get happy when my 15 month old eats hers but then I have to force her to eat some meat as well since half of the time veggies is all she wants. I don't trick my kids into doing anything. I can't force my daughter to eat something she doesn't want or like. Actually the girl came in second place. She got a title unlike some other kids that didn't but some other really vain little girl that likes to compete against her mother won. She was the same age as the girl that got second. She won money and a puppy.
• United States
25 May 12
I agree 100% It is sad that this girl thinks she Has to be pretty.
@ShyBear88 (59277)
• Sterling, Virginia
25 May 12
It's not just here but plenty of other little girls out there that feel the same way.
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• United States
25 May 12
sometimes beauty on the outside can make one ugly on the inside all depends on the way they take the beauty. I agree the beauty inside will show on the outside to many as the kindness they give others,, the love is deep and wonderful, love shows and is the real beauty .That is a gift inside beauty and will go along way. lots of people are in it for money only ..some use the kids to get what they want..but knowing that in a child will add hatred and unkindness as they grow..raise a child in the way it should be (in Love) and it will not depart from them when they are old.inside beauty is true
@ShyBear88 (59277)
• Sterling, Virginia
25 May 12
I can agree with that beauty on the outside can make a person ugly on the inside depending on how they look at things.
@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
25 May 12
I agree with you. Beauty is not everything it is just something. It just outside and the total beauty goes within. If you are beautiful inside it shows outside. The beauty within is what really matters because it does not fade in time and it just gets better. I am a mom too.
@ShyBear88 (59277)
• Sterling, Virginia
25 May 12
I don't think beauty is something at all. It's there weather we see it or not. Some people just only look at the surface and not what is under it and some beauty you can only see what you look past something that might now be as beautiful.
@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
25 May 12
Outside beauty is nothing. It is so unfair to say that beauty is everything. It just make others think that everything they have know is not enough while they are actually great as they are. It is all about our self-confidence. It is so sad to know that the girl just feel confident if she is pretty. There is no use of that if she does know how to use the brain to differentiate between good and bad.
@ShyBear88 (59277)
• Sterling, Virginia
25 May 12
I don't think then when people think that beauty is everything doesn't mean they don't know the difference between good and bad. I just think they have been taught that only looks get you far in life and not hard working and working for the things you need in your life.
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
25 May 12
Beauty is just the outside of a person and it is really nothing if that person has bad heart and stupid mind...
@ShyBear88 (59277)
• Sterling, Virginia
25 May 12
Okay.
• United States
25 May 12
I agree with you ShyBear88. I once did a discussion about beauty and most of the mylotters that responded said that outside beauty was the most important. That you can't attract a mate without it. It's so sad. What about all the people who don't fall into the Barbie and Ken category? What about the burn victims that have no cosmetic beauty (according to common standards) I'm telling you if your inside is ugly the most beautiful person in the world will be ugly, but if your inside is beautiful it radiates to the outside.
@ShyBear88 (59277)
• Sterling, Virginia
25 May 12
I agree with that the beauty on the inside will come out to the outside and it'll be since in many ways. I think everyone has one thing about them weather they look beautiful or not to others that is beautiful on the outside as well as on the inside of course just because you look beautiful doesn't make you beautiful you still need to work hard and do things for yourself and not just let people give it to you.
• India
25 May 12
External beauty is not everything. A beautiful outside and dirty inside doesn't make a person look good. But an average looking person with very beautiful inside looks awesome, even on the outside, to that person's friends. Beauty inside refers to their nature,kindness, generosity.And all girls are always good looking outside all of us.!!!
@ShyBear88 (59277)
• Sterling, Virginia
25 May 12
I have to disagree with the last statement not all guys will find all women beautiful weather they look it on the outside or not. Each men like each women like different beauty when it comes to love and finding a mate. But never judge a book by it's cover.
@Suebee (2013)
• Canada
25 May 12
This little girl is very sadly mistaken and I feel sorry for her. In the first place, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. What one person considers beautiful, another may not. Some people may consider blond hair, blue eyes and round faces beautiful, while others may like dark hair, dark eyes and oval faces. It is unfortunate that this girl will have a very rude awakening one day when she realizes that external beauty is only a very small portion of someone. Everyone knows it's what inside that counts. Someone should be teaching her this before it's too late.
@ShyBear88 (59277)
• Sterling, Virginia
25 May 12
Her parents should have teach her that but sadly right now they are not teaching her that part of life that its the inside is more important then that outside of because looks are not everything.
@peavey (16936)
• United States
24 May 12
It's so sad to see kids growing up with such a shallow outlook on life. I can't help but wonder if this little girl has any interests or hobbies. My kids did everything from raising rabbits to roller skating and beyond. What does a child who worries about what they look like do for fun?
@ShyBear88 (59277)
• Sterling, Virginia
24 May 12
well the key word above that will explain it all is pageant which explains a lot of things, because a lot of girls and boys in pageants feel that looks are everything in life and a lot of the parents are the same way.
@MandaLee (3756)
• United States
24 May 12
You are so right. It's what is on the inside that counts and is so much more important.
@ShyBear88 (59277)
• Sterling, Virginia
24 May 12
Yep the inside is more important then our outside. Its just the shell nothing more.
• China
25 May 12
Beauty in soul is everyting. 9 year old girl is too yough to understand life.Life can only be understood backwards,but all is too late when she realize it. It is no doubt that parents's carelessness results to this rediculious thing