What is the right age to let you child go out alone for the first time?

May 25, 2012 6:19am CST
In this modern age, parents seem far more fearful of letting their children out alone - whether to pop to the local shop or go to the park to play with their friends. As a result, the average age a child is allowed to first go out on their own has risen. In reality, however, the dangers of murderers, paedophiles and car accidents are statistically no greater now than they were 40 years ago. So should parents be more relaxed about the issue?
9 responses
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
27 May 12
Where did you get your statistics?
@Jessi_T (379)
• United States
26 May 12
I think it varies on how mature your child is, growing up I was a "latch key" kid in the extent my twin and I knew to go home, go inside lock the door and not leave the house, and not do this and not do that, and only do this and only do that. And for the most part we listened. There were times I stayed outside in the yard to play with my friends especially after my dad built the bike ramp but that is another story I also knew I'd be punished for it, but for me playing with my friends was worth disobeying at the same time I knew how to take care of myself and my parents knew that. They also knew my older siblings lived in homes surrounding me so whereas I was alone I wasn't. As far as going out alone into stores, or to a friends or what have you. I grew up in a small community and my dad would take me into town to go play with my "town friends" most weekends and most days in the summer, when I was nine and I was allowed to cross the street and go as far as a block by myself getting caught farther until I was twelve meant not going back to town for a few weeks. As for our small neighborhood I was allowed to go off on my own throughout it, from the time I was eight, but only when one or both of my parents were home. With my kids I give them the freedom to run our neighborhood at ten. They are seldom in town except for school, or extra curriculum activities or for one of their various groups. On the rare occasions they are I take them to their friends house and pick them up at their friends house and tell them not to leave the friends house. My older two are going to be 15 this summer and they pretty much go off where ever they want as long as it is safe and they tell me first.
• United States
26 May 12
I currently do not have children however, I know that I would not allow my child be on their own until they are at least in 8th grade. I am a very protective person and with today's society and how many different kinds of dangers there are in the world. It is just not safe for a child to be out on their own.
@freymind (1351)
• Philippines
26 May 12
If I'm going to have a child I'd probably say around 14-15 years old since in our country children goes to college around 16-17 years old. I don't want my child to be very dependent on us parents but I don't want to let my child go out alone earlier than that age.
@kukueye (1759)
• Malaysia
26 May 12
The child must be able to take him herself. - Environemnt and friends must be in safe condition.
I guess it depends on the friends he she is visiting , whether that house is safe or not , whether the environemnt the surrounding area is safe or not , whether the parents are are trustworthy or not , and the child itself can be responsible on taking care of her or hisself or not. I guess above age 12 years is acceptable if the factors above are good.
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
26 May 12
I went out at 15 and there was no problem. I always had self control and there were not big problems. It could be when you feel confident to release them, some kids are more mature than others so knowing the kid it's a good way to judge.
@GemmaR (8517)
25 May 12
I think that it depends very much on mature your child is, and where it is that they would like to go. Our shops are very close, and you could make sure that your child crossed over the road safely, and this means that I would probably let my child go to those shops when they were very young. However, I know of a lot of teenagers who probably shouldn't be allowed to go out on their own because they're not very mature, and something is bound to happen to them because of this, so there isn't really any kind of fixed answer to this question.
@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
25 May 12
It makes me wonder to because here kidnapping of young people are at height. I think if they can protect themselves and know what to do, they could go out alone but that will be when they are 20 years old and up. haha. We are not sure as of when and where the danger will come so it is better to train and remind them of what to do in case there are such.
@kristiane (112)
• Philippines
25 May 12
It's really hard to let go of our children because of all the dangers today but we can't keep them with us forever. Better teach them how to take care and precaution so we'll have at least peace of mind, whenever they're by themselves.