When you insult others you are actually talking about yourself?

hai Oh yes, it is annoyed a person who reacted like that, it seems that the innocent person did not make any bad to mock them, and I do believed that before you behold others you must see your self first.hmmm, it's just like that people have different behavior, and we can't correct them if they will not experienced what they did.. Have a nice day

I think when you do you are not actually talking about yourself... but you are actually just very insecure about other people... and maybe you did see the flaws in people but you do see them because you look hard to find the flaws just so you can really feel better about yourself...

Sometimes people do attack in others what they do not like in themselves. She needs a better outlet rather than random people. One of these days she may insult the wrong person and have to pay the piper.

I had a friend once who would say things like she wishes that people would stop talking so much and let other people get a word into the discussion; but this is what a lot of other people say about her. I think that the things that we don't like about other people often are the things that we recognise in ourselves as things that we admire, so we feel threatened about other people. Another friend of mine talks about how all of our friends talk about her behind her back, but then she does exactly the same, so she can't really talk as she is just as bad as any of them to be honest with you.

Umm... You are right with what you think. When a person insults another, he surely has some kind of problem with him/her. It might be a feeling of jealousy, anger or any other sort of feeling. There are actually several reasons of a person insulting another person. He might have some kind of grudge and might want to take revenge. So, he may insult him/her by saying things which pint out his/her character or anything else. But I think if we look towards things positively then we might say something else. For example, if we do a wrong thing in front of an elderly person, so sometimes to make us realize our mistake, instead of making us understand in a calm way, they may yell at us and insult us. So this act of theirs is actually to get us on the right path, which we don't realize and take it as an huge insult. And I totally agree with you that why do we need to care about how the strangers look and walk around. We don't even know them and so shouldn't bother to comment anything about them. Before commenting or insulting somebody, we should actually think a hundred times that how will we feel if some other person does that to us.

It seems like your friend is very insecure inside and that is why she insults others and tries to bring them down so that she can feel good about her own self. I don't care about complete strangers either and don't pay attention to them. Hopefully your friend is going to get rid of this habit and learn how to control her insecurities...

When I was in high school and college, people love to insult others because again, it makes them feel better, but it's true, if you insult someone, then you kind of are insulting yourself. Although, I will say that I have insulted people, but that usually after they have insulted me first, so it was an act of self-defense. I wasn't proud of it, but I don't like to be insulted, and if someone is going to do that to me, then that just gave me the right to insult them back. One older woman once accused me, in front of some of the other students in our class, of being a w#O^e because I was friends with one of the guys and the way that we liked to talk was a bit out of the norm, but it's the way we are, and she took this to mean that we were having an affair, and she said this to me and my friend in class, and after class, I told her that she was wrong, and that nearly ruined my reputation, and that she out to apologize before I ruin her reputation. She did apologize because she knew that I would do it, and that I knew the people at Student Affairs, Omnibuds, and HR and that I was not afraid to call her out on what she did. We never spoke again after that, and she knew never to say anything about me ever again. To me, if you insult someone, then expect it to come back to you because your insult has given that person permission to insult you.

One reason for such behavior can be that she is eating food that disturbs her digestion system as that in turn affects the brain.. It could be wheat, fries and other junk food - and sugar. She might have a health problem that should be found as soon as possible, as she will only harm herself and lose her friends.

People who are always insulting others are very insecure, jealous people. There is a quote I heard but cannot remember who said it. It applies here and goes, "Jealous people try to belittle the skills of others." They try to bring those around them down in order to feel better about themselves. She really does not feel good about herself. She has the problem, not those she's insulting. It sounds to me like she needs some counseling to find out what is really bothering her in order to deal with it so she will stop trying to bring those around her down the way she does. I used to have a friend like that but we went our separate ways because she was so superficial and condescending toward everyone. She loved to go to bars, drink, party, the fast life. The last I heard she never married or had kids but did hook up with what I called a "sugar daddy", someone much older than herself who owned a bar. Now, she's bored, has no job skills, no friends except for others like her who partied their lives away, and she's stuck with this much older man who now just wants to relax. She's more unhappy than she was when she was younger. We don't keep in touch.

LOL! I actually have some drama friends that would complain and talk crap about me without me knowing it. I hear it from other sources and also this friend would also complain to me about me being this and that. I can't stand those people. Oh wells. those insulters and complainers don't have anything to do..

I don't like any person who are often insulting the others. I always keep silent with their talk and don't focus on their talk also. Your friend has a bad habit. She should know how she feels when the others talk about her like that...

We didn't know what happened on the person's past. Probably she met a person with that attitude and copied it, or the environment itself taught her to adapt these kind of behavior.