we always need friends ,how can we make more friends in a strange place?
By selinachang
@selinachang (55)
May 28, 2012 1:48am CST
One and a half months ago ,I resigned and went back to my hometown.so I had to broke up with my boyfriend .for almost one month ,I had been deeply in the difficulties of unemployment and less of love .I went to the job market every two days, enventually I found another job in my hometown .now i am striving to find a boyfriend ,but it seems not easy .I have to endure the loneliness,because I have a few friends here and my social communication is poor .In my opinion,it is more difficult for us to make real friends when we are getting older and older (by the way ,i am 25 years old),but we still need friends .
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6 responses
@yoniarnon (1079)
• Israel
28 May 12
Sure we need friends we are a social creatures, and to find friends we just need to talk with other ones.
We need to be nice and listen to what they are saying and if we like them we keep in touch with them and if we don't we tell them good bye and searching for another friend :)
@selinachang (55)
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29 May 12
maybe it is as easy as what you said to make friends,however ,when we get older ,we find that it is not easy for us to open hearts to strangers.so i am confused.i will make efforts to get a confidant .
@yoniarnon (1079)
• Israel
29 May 12
I agree that it is become harder, but think about that we are smarter than kids and know more people and had more friends and we know more what we are looking about some one new..
@liguoping (179)
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29 May 12
Yes,we need friends everywhere,but it is not something you can demand.To make friends you should frank,zealous and ready to help others.As for the boyfriend,as our Chinese old saying,"fate can not be forced",you don't need strive to find a boyfried.
@selinachang (55)
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29 May 12
haha .thank u .I hate loneliness, I just can't stand this situation.It will take me some time to adapt to the situation .I need to stay calm and patient.
@Soniasony (1827)
• India
28 May 12
I can understand the loneliness..The best way I would suggest is get close with your old friends whom you can trust through many social networking..Arrange for a get together with old friends ..take initiative thats how you improve your social communication..Try it out and let us know :)
@selinachang (55)
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29 May 12
nice to meet u here ,i believe i can get out of this difficulties with your help soon
@billutheguy (179)
• India
28 May 12
You could try start hanging out more at public places like a park , start involving your self in sports and start attending social gatherings and may be even start using public transport more often . Or a really effective one is that you should start taking an adult class because even if you're shy you will have to interact with people in a classroom and if you're nice to people you'll definitely make some friends.
Also one I'm not so sure about this working because it sounds very lame but you could try it if anything else mentioned above seems like too much work just to meet some people, is if you start randomly social networking on sites like Facebook with people that live in the same are as you and have similar interests.
I know it doesn't sound so good but it won't cost you much time and money and if you can be funny with words that always helps .
Finally best of luck in the new place hope you find a boyfriend soon.
@selinachang (55)
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29 May 12
you are right ,i must create opportunities to make friends by myself and expand my socail sphere .
@ONLYHOPE (189)
• Philippines
28 May 12
hai
Yes,everybody need a friend,and as I can study in your situation, you are almost a month staying there in your hometown,and you can win friends when you stay there for a months or a years,specially when you're working already you can meet different kind of person, just be patient for ,,
and for looking for a bf don't hurry,you're just too young and many will come in the right time, just enjoy for being single this time..lol,,
have a nice day
@selinachang (55)
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29 May 12
thanks for ur response , i am a pessimistic person ,so i worry about these things.what i need to do is to be a optimistic girl ,everything will go well .
@batcuie (50)
• Romania
28 May 12
Intersting situation .....call your boyfrind :) if you really don`t want him again ....get on online chats (searching more in your town) it`s a start , just be chill people will love you if you`re chill , you have to adapt it`s not that hard you`re young at this age you have to go out there have fun don`t worry relax , everything will work out ! if you really need a friend i can be your friend :)
