If your love is broken....
By ryanong
@ryanong (9665)
Vietnam
June 3, 2012 12:34am CST
Yesterday i was so busy....not because of being busy with my work. I did spend much time to pour comfort into 2 friends' heart. They are all male.
# One guy, his love is broken up 1 years ago but he still gets mad whenever thinking of his ex-gf. He said he could not forget her and often feel sad. He does work hard but he still can't get out of it...
# One guy, he and his gf haven't say goodbye officially yet but 5 months till now, what he feels is his gf is very cold and didn't keep in touch with him more even though he put much effort and money for her because he really wants to settle up a life with her. He said he has not worked for 5 months and just asks himself why and why...what is a reason? where did he do wrong? he said no one knows about this and he really needs me for talk, asking me what is my opinion, explaining a reason why..since i met his gf some times already.
Hmm, i am not really good to comfort someone...but the end of talking, they said that they feel better now.
# Me, if the love is broken, i just keep all in my heart and don't go out regularly, don't meet friends and don't talk much also, i just work and work only. Rarely i share with anyone about it till i am happy back and no feeling toward to ex- more.
How about you guys? what will you do if your love is broken? Who will you share about your problem?
# One guy, his love is broken up 1 years ago but he still gets mad whenever thinking of his ex-gf. He said he could not forget her and often feel sad. He does work hard but he still can't get out of it...
# One guy, he and his gf haven't say goodbye officially yet but 5 months till now, what he feels is his gf is very cold and didn't keep in touch with him more even though he put much effort and money for her because he really wants to settle up a life with her. He said he has not worked for 5 months and just asks himself why and why...what is a reason? where did he do wrong? he said no one knows about this and he really needs me for talk, asking me what is my opinion, explaining a reason why..since i met his gf some times already.
Hmm, i am not really good to comfort someone...but the end of talking, they said that they feel better now.
# Me, if the love is broken, i just keep all in my heart and don't go out regularly, don't meet friends and don't talk much also, i just work and work only. Rarely i share with anyone about it till i am happy back and no feeling toward to ex- more.
How about you guys? what will you do if your love is broken? Who will you share about your problem?6 responses
@verolop29 (1096)
• United States
3 Jun 12
i have this theory on love and it goes like this
if u give someone ur whole heart and love that person then u give that one person the right to hurt u. and visa versa. i could be totally wrong but thats how i see it.
from the ways my siblings have loved to the way i loved-thats how i came up with this.
love is a risk and with all risks...ur gonna get hurt-how bad-is up to u.
for me i loved this boy enough that i gave him something special one that i cannot take back. he ended up loveing someone else. and nine yrs later he has noone in his life except me and now he loves me the way i loved him. i still love him like i used to but im married now. with 2 kids. this friend-jason-helps me around the house like i want my husband to help. i have asked everyday if he could help me but in the end, he doesn't. so i call jason over and he ends up helping me. then he gives me a hug. like he means it. things would have pregressed into something more but i always stop him. i dont know how im going to keep doing that....
anyways i guess thats my problem..
my love isn't broken but i am torn. is that the same thing as ur love being broken???
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@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
4 Jun 12
Thank you for your sharing.
I don't want to keep contact with ex-. Currently i don't keep contact with any ex- also. With me, they are a stranger and even meet again, i do as if i see nothing. Luckily all my ex- are not near me then i haven't met any one of them again.
In your case, you have a nice marriage life now so that you should keep it. It is your current. your ex-, since he is failed in his private life, then you do care him as a friend only, no thing more than that. i hope your husband won't be jealous when he is around you.
@verolop29 (1096)
• United States
4 Jun 12
he does get mad jelouse but he wont tell u that!! i love my friend very much but that is me. it wont go any further than friendship, i assure u but it is always nice to have a helping hand when im trying to multitask. he knows how much i thank him for helping me around!
its nice to keep the ex's to that-ex's! they arn't called ex's for nothing lol!
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
3 Jun 12
Oh, really? i wish i could do like you.
I just keep it myself only and never share with anyone even with closed friends or family members. I think it is a reason that i often take a long time to pass through it.
I think sharing with someone is better, as my friends did...but i really don't know why i can do like that.
However, i had heart broken 3 times finally i am still ok as right now...
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@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
4 Jun 12
My advice for number one guy:
Don't try so hard to forget your ex gf, that will only make you think of her more. Freely think about her and accept what has happened between the two of you, accept that she is not the one for you and that is she has done you wrong, you should accept that too and be grateful that you have learned a lesson because of that.
Trust me, I've been through those experiences so I know what it is like.
If number one still loves his ex, then, sorry, you're in trouble.
This guy has to move on, he doesn't have to waste time thinking about what could have been, That is bad and unproductive. I'd slap him in the face if he doesn't do something about it and think about his own life. Being stuck in the past will only hinder him to improve himself.
When I was heartbroken I gladly shared most of my time with family and friends. I figured I missed out a lot because my bf took most of my time. That day, I vowed that I would balance my time with my friends, future bf and family. It's not good to spend all your time with one person alone, it's so annoying.
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@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
4 Jun 12
Thank you so much for your advice. I will give your advice to these guys.
I agree with you too, it is not good when spend all time with one person alone. 
I used to do it since i love my current boyfriend. But now i know that is it not good at all, i have my family and friends so that i do spend time for all, not for only him as in the previous time.
I used to do it since i love my current boyfriend. But now i know that is it not good at all, i have my family and friends so that i do spend time for all, not for only him as in the previous time.
@ONLYHOPE (189)
• Philippines
3 Jun 12
hai
It's hard to accept goodbye specially when you love most the person..you can't handle it and you need someone to lean on, but my suggestion is if you want somebody to lean on you should pick a friend with same gender,to avoid should not happen. I experienced that before, and that is a lesson to me. we have to face the truth that we need some friends to cheer up and listen to us during our craziness moments...lol..
For me I should open it here in MYLOT so that all my friends and some mylotters will share advices that can ease pains and words to help me to move on,,but PRAYING will not happen to me this time..lol..I'm so afraid to loose my gf right now..
Have a great day
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@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
3 Jun 12
Umh...i am a woman, and they are male...and i am a person who poor comfort into their heart...
You selection is not bad, i think. Since you share your problems in here then you will feel better when all your friends and mylotter will comfort you and give you nice advices. I do share many problems in here also, but if the love is broken, i may offline for a while to rescue myself pass that hard time...
You selection is not bad, i think. Since you share your problems in here then you will feel better when all your friends and mylotter will comfort you and give you nice advices. I do share many problems in here also, but if the love is broken, i may offline for a while to rescue myself pass that hard time...@ONLYHOPE (189)
• Philippines
3 Jun 12
oh sorry my friend,,I was only afraid will happen to others my experienced before, but of course not all,,some..
And I'm admiring you for having a strong feeling and mind when it comes when you will suffer from broken heart..take care ,..
Thanks and have a nice day
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
3 Jun 12
hihihi, it is hard but i did...when my previous love is broken, i just went to work and then went home only for long time, no talking much with the other, no meeting ...and what i did is eating and sleeping when i was home. Luckily i am still slim and i am happy back...we just need time to cover our hurting only.
@yimsiupang (237)
•
4 Jun 12
Hi ryanong,well,if my love is broken,i will find somewhere to cry loudly,after crying enough i will go home ,then like noting have ever happen,continue to live happily,most of my friends ever said that i am a melancholy and moody girl,to be honestly,i do such a person,but i am so sad when my heart is broken,i think that's the truth revealed,my love was broken only one time,but now i have been out of that sad things in the past,my husband love me very much,we already have a lovely son ,so i feel so happy ,because i have a happy family.
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
4 Jun 12
I am happy for you now. No one of us want to have love broken but in fact some of us have to face it or at least we face to it 1 time in our life.
...as you said, you did cry our loud and then you go home as if nothing happens, continue to live happily. You are such strong woman...
@adorablelucia82 (91)
•
3 Jun 12
If my love is broken, I also talk to my friends share to them about the situation so that they can give me some advices. To avoid depression also you need someone to talk to and to comfort you.
