Have you ever been belittled?

Hi dolce! Yes, it's really a reality. There are people who would bring you down for them to go up but then it's not always the way they want it to be. Karma would never tell when to strike. In the workplace we really need to be good so that nobody would drag us down no matter what they do. If we are humble and considerate, fate will always go in favor for us. For God would not allow the wicked to succeed.

Yes but not my boss, not in the work place but to my colleague in a restaurant. I worked as personal secretary before my boss invited us to have a dinner in the restaurant near to our office. Then I was discussing something about work to my boss over dinner together with my colleagues since I am newbie to the my position. One of my colleague belitted me, according to him that I dont know anything about business and I can't even speak the native language of my boss, since he is a Japanese and very hard to communicate with him. At first I got hurt because she underestimated me without knowing my capabilites and abilites in terms of my work. I dont have a patience to let this colleague of mind just to be treated me like that, I needed to prove myself and prove to her that she's making a huge mistake. What did I do during that time, I requested the manager of the restaurant to trasfers us in a function room because I have a lot of things needed to be discuss. My boss knows that I finished Bachelor of Science major in Business Management and very fluent in Japanese those are there reason why he hired me and asked me if possible I will hide to my colleage that I can speak japanese to know which one of them has a good characters or not who among them are pretending to be nice. But that time my ego was hurt and my heart was beating so fast and I hate to be underestimated, so I asked a permission to my boss if I can speak in japanese and relay to him my feelings, luckily he agreed. In the function room I discussed everything using japanese languange and answered all their questions and concerns regarding business. After that my boss was so happy with my accomplishment and gave a reward bonus (cash and travel) and that person who did that to me still working there but at has same position until now. I am not longer working in that company because I am a nurse now but those experienced made me realized that you need be prepared any time so that if somebody belittle you, you have the right to prove them wrong in a good way.

Yes, I have been belittled by an ex-boyfriend. It was horrible, but, I refuse to let him shape my beliefs. I am certain that I can continue to live my life, and will do the very best I can. I also, believe, that we all should treat each other with kindness and respect!

a pleasant day dolce_vita, i too also experienced that thing. that during those times that i was still an employee, a lot of my officemates always under estimates my capacity. that, they never have had expected that a little lady like me can make a difference in the company. that, they have had said straight away on my face, that i can't do it. but, after some time, i proved them, that they are completely wrong. that, i was able to achieved beyond what i should be achieving. that even before i left the company, i have showed to them, that i was an asset of that company. and i just need to do a very important thing that is why i need to left my post and resigned from it.

I have experienced this a couple of times before and you are so right, it was painful. I went inside a conference room where a panel interview is ongoing. I previously work under the HR department and we are allowed to be there but when I entered, one of the panelists said to my boss if they could limit the people inside the room. I felt so embarassed that time so I just left the room. My boss said that the panelist did not recognized me but I bet it's the other way around.

No, I have not been belittled in that way. However, I can understand how you feel. The best way is to say nothing unless you are being accused of something. Less is more. I would not argue back or wait for an explanation. Some people are just plain arrogant.

Yes by the same person (and he is a boss). We fought because I said, you're stressed out again? Then he flared up at me. Said nasty things about me. Said that I was belittling him just because I asked if he's stressed???? Duh!?! And then he said, you think you are great huh? You think you are a nice person huh? Well you are not! Imagine yourself being told things like those. I've had enough of him, for four years I controlled my emotions whenever he does that to me. I can't help my tears from falling and I cried, silently in front of him. He is the reason why I want to resign now. Not because there is no increase in salary but because of him. Period.

Hiya dolce, Very nasty experience with more than one superior in that sense but I had to put up with it as I needed the money to take home. About five or six times I had to swallow my words because they were about to come out bubbling up inside there but I said nothing and with everyone watching however they did not support her or any other they were on my side but even so I kept quiet again for the money as I had Children to support. It´s hateful to have to put up with that yes. One of the times it was someone who I was working with and she had the whole Factory up in arms against her in the end. She lost but I did feel for her a bit as I did not look for any problem with her but she was always trying to find one with me. Being a sneak as she was on top did not make her very popular and in the end she left like that girl did in your place as the pressure got too much for her. I did not want her to leave as I can work alongside people like this but she was getting close to being impossible to tolerate much more.xxx

yes ,sometime being new in the office , senior collegues will belittle the new staff because it is just a form of teasing or they just being honest after seeing some many junior staffs resign from the company.Properly your new job is a results of a new old staff resigning.Just ignore them and continue to do your daily job and draw salary at the end of the month.

hi dear dolce_vita been there experienced that. The worst has been one of the supervisors throwing all kinds of nice comments into my face and mobbing me. But like in your situation I am still there and he didnt succeed in getting me out of the place at all. LOL

YES. Not my boss but my boss's daughter. So I didn't feel right ever talking to the boss about it. Just dealt with it. Was terrible and eventually become most of the reason why I quit. Glad I'm not there anymore! =)