Things that keeps you happy when in despair
By Resy King
@resy21curapika (2116)
Pasay, Philippines
June 6, 2012 12:38am CST
Everyone gets sad at some point in time. We tend to feel lonely in times or helpless when there's a problem; or if you feel uneasy about what's going on or what's happening in your life. When things go wrong; we feel down and not being happy at all.
In my point of time; I also get sad. Every one does. Sometimes there is this turning point that you feel stressed and weak and you turn yourself in something that will make you happy. if this happens; I go for my organizer and use it. This organizer of mine works wonders. It helps me plan ahead, jot down what's bothering me ad unload all of my worries inside. I also read some of my affirmation quotes and thoughts for myself to boost my confidence and make me delighted to live on each day. Aside from that, whenever there are happy thoughts; i also write them so from the moment I'm down; i just read those past experiences happened during that date. In that way, it makes me want to appreciate life more and to be happy for myself.
I want to hear more from mylotters here who can share those things that boost you with happiness when you're down or troubled. Thanks. I'll be staying here and checking your feedback.
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11 responses
@coralguan (58)
• China
6 Jun 12
I think this topic is really interest and useful for everyone, writting is a good idea in my eyes, I saw a theory in an article that writting down our thoughts is very good and helpful for our mentality. Paper sometimes as our good friend, we can pour out to it, but don`t need worry whether we bother whom, for even face to our best friends, we cannot talk things in any style at anytime, we know we should give friends more happiness and help, as for trouble, give them as less as possible.
In addition, reading and seeing movies are good ways, they are usual ways but useful.
Now I realize a question, is my style lonely? because my idears are all doing by oneself, is good or bad?
You choose, I reflect on myself......
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
6 Jun 12
Hi,
In fact this girl, Rasi21 come up with a variety of nice topics and I think she is thinking a lot of inner feelings where people used to pass on every day...
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
13 Jun 12
Every time I feel so down, I eat a lot. I eat everything I want while reading. I read every article I could find that relates to what I am experiencing at that moment. It feels great to read that I am not the only person in this world who experiences such kind of emotions :D I mean that I shouldn't be so lonely that those things happen to me. Some people have experienced far more complicated problems than I. And of course, nothing beats bible for advice. I always see to it that I have read it.
@IntrovertShy (2780)
• Marikina, Philippines
13 Jun 12
He he 
If I feel stress and depressed, all I have to do is to visit youtube.com. I just watch all about Reno in the Final Fantasy VII over and over again until I become satisfied and then, I would watch a Final Fantasy VII the advent children more than twice. I do not why but this is the only way that makes me happy.. ha ha
If I feel stress and depressed, all I have to do is to visit youtube.com. I just watch all about Reno in the Final Fantasy VII over and over again until I become satisfied and then, I would watch a Final Fantasy VII the advent children more than twice. I do not why but this is the only way that makes me happy.. ha ha 
@truthisgod (106)
• India
7 Jun 12
I will tell you the intimate reason why do we feel lonely and alienated at times. This is because we have lose touch with our essence or core or soul as we grow up. We have since childhood learned to interact with people, the significant others, friends and neighbors. In their absence we learn to interact with gizmos and toys and so on. In other words, we have been seeking happiness from the sources outside of us. They can make us feel sad or unhappy or blessed and happy as they want. For instance, if the computer I am using right now breaks down I will be the unhappiest person in the world. In other words, we are losing autonomy. I am no longer an independent and autonomous individual. However, when we begin to connect with the source and reach out to others with the dominant attitude of giving whatever I can rather than take something from them to depend on, we become happy and harbor positive feelings. When you realize you can be the source of your happiness with creative potential within you, which you can unleash when needed, you'll no longer be unhappy.
@craptacularxd (84)
• Philippines
7 Jun 12
Well, for me. I usually find people to talk on with. You know the typical talk about the troubled experiences that I've faced recently, finding some solutions. After that, the feeling of despair is somewhat lost and forget about anything and talk about funny things after that.
Same goes with food, i usually put all my frustration on what I eat and it makes me happy after that.
So does with Music, I feel good when I hear music that has a good melody and makes me feel chill most of the time.
@Luluq0423 (13)
• China
7 Jun 12
When i im unhappy, i write letter to myself. It can help me to calm down. I write down what problems i faced and my feeling at that moment. On the other hand, try to not make decision quickly, and have a chat with frinds.
@tess_quinain (1149)
• Philippines
7 Jun 12
That is what I am doing. Since I have no one to pour out my emotions and I don't want to bother my friends or my family at all. I write it down on my journal too! I read books. I bought motivational books to help me inspire and be always motivated everytime I am down and weak. It is indeed useful and effective. Thanks for this post.
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
6 Jun 12
Hi,
We may be sad or despair, but the reason for the same would be of various reasons and depend on the situation our metal business also would be varied. Sometime we may so sad or unhappy as someone close to us departed. Similarly, we may be sad as we failed in exams. Though the feeling is same, the consequences and the mood are different.
In most case we would try to pass the time alongwith our mood and slowly we may distract from such situations.
Nice to see you here with a variety of nice topics and touching wordings.
Thank you.
Thank-s
@pjha1975 (214)
• India
6 Jun 12
Hi there..
You are right. In life, you do go through phases where you feel really down & out. There are even times when you just wanna curl up & go back in time to the point when you were just a little fetus in your mother's womb. I used to have many days like this when I was stressed out with no money & no friends... It was very depressing, to say the least.
On those days, I used to write journals. My writings were varied - from structured experiences, descriptions & details to totally "stream of consciousness" sorta writings.
What I mean by "stream of consciousness" writings is that these writings were just words.. thoughts flowing out of my overly stressed & depressed brain onto the journal.
Believe me, it used to work wonders. After these marathon writing sessions, I would feel better, lighter.. There were nights when I would wake up around 1:00am - 2:00am in the morning from sleep, switch on my table lamp & just vent out my frustrations. After spending about a half hour to 45 minutes venting, I would go back to sleep & sleep peacefully... My gosh, what days!!! Would not want to re-visit those stressful days again ever in my life....
@musicscout (269)
• Canada
6 Jun 12
Well we all get sad sometimes it happens and there is nothing wrong with us, it's just the way that we are made. When i am feeling down or sad as it were I try to focus on the positive aspects of my life and also the plans that I have to change the negative ones.
Everyone will always tell you.. oh you know it could be worse, or they say other people are worse off then you!! well for me that does not make me feel better. Maybe I am selfish here on this one... but I am not concerned with it could be worse, I am just depressed that it is not better. when people say it could be worse.. I think yeah could be a lot better too!
We all get emotional but I think that we really need to sit down sometimes and think of the good things:)
@JenAC1984 (233)
• United States
6 Jun 12
Hi resy21curapika!
When I'm feeling down, I usually read a good book or take my kids to the park. We also love making art projects together. This also relieves stress for the most part. I also have comedy shows that are really funny when I need a good laugh. My friends also fill in the gaps if I'm felling lonely. I have great people around me to help in times of sadness. Yet, I also read my bible and pray to God. This is probably my favorite place to turn to if I need to calm myself.
I think it is wonderful of you to write down positive quotes to refer back to when you need a boost! You seem like you have a great plan. Writing also helps lift my spirits as well. I also try my best to be happy for the small things in life. Just being with my kids and staying active has really changed my life in a very good way! Thanks for a great discussion!
